July 2010: Tantrums R Us

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Here you go! Sorry for crappy title. My one chance in the limelight and I can't think of anything good and I have to go and collect J from nursery right now...

I love cauliflower cheese. But I put too much lots of cheese in mine so it's not very healthy! The key is loads of cheese, little bit of wholegrain mustard, little bit of english mustard...mmmmmm yummy.

I am still hungry. I blame hormes.

Cake, where are you? Are you too busy with rl to post? It's very quiet round these parts atm isn't it

Haha thanks it went well although I got a fit of the giggles for no reason which was off putting!

Found out today that SIL is preg with her second although she's only 5 weeks so not suppose to tell anyone.

its all getting a bit hard now!! and we are only two and a half weeks in!! I just cant seem to get any routine established yet, he absolutly screams his head off when hes hungry, theres no placating him or drawing it our and sometimes its not even been two hours between feeds. unfortunatly last night he fed around 9.30 so didnt wast a 10.30 feed, i was a bit pissed off with dh as he said, in front of his friend who was visiting, 'im to tired to stay up tonight you will have to carry the can' as if hes been doing all the bloody night feeds! i dont suppose he ment it like that, its probably me being oversensitive.
D wasnt sick yeaserday or last night so it looks like it was just a sort lived thing, hes also slept through the last few nights, which made it even worse when dh said that as he hasnt been up at all, not even woke up aprently! im very jelouse!
one hand typing makes your arm really ache! i shall be a bit more coherent and a little less meeeeeee! next time, sorry!

I wouldn't worry too much about routine, most of them are all over the place at 2.5 weeks! G used to sleep for hours and hours in the day and it was really tempting to let her but I knew she would then be up loads in the night.

The main thing is to rest whenever you can, this is even more important this time than it was first time round. When either of them is asleep in the day curl up on the sofa with the other one and rest. Sod the housework apart from the basics needed to keep the place going. Don't try to do anything but rest and look after the dcs.

I used to be so knackered getting up in the mornings having been up 2 or 3 times in the night with G. I used to do things like put the water in the kettle and the teabag in the cup the night before so when I woke up all I literally had to do was flick the switch on the kettle! It sounds crazy but I just did everything I could to make the tiredness more bearable.

If in the day they are both asleep at the same time do not attempt to do anything other than put your feet up and at most read a magazine or watch some trashy TV. A no longer had a daytime sleep by the time G was born so I had no break and boy, it was hard some days. It gets better though :)

Oh and we watched a lot more kids TV than normal when I was in the most sleep-deprived bit, it was about all my brain could manage

vik sorry you're feeling so knackered I can only imagine what it's like. I'll have it all to come though! I second resting when you can, I still get occasional days where I feel so tired and even 10 mins sleep can make such a difference.

Ahhhhh thanks wss it is hard to ignore the house i must admit, i am very house proud and HATE feeling that its untidy or a mess, but i think ur right, for my sanity i have to let things be just a bit more. Re the cups and tea bags........i thought i was mad doing that, ive been doing it for a while, so glad to hear im not the only one! if you can think of any more time/ stress busting things please pass them on! Well dh and D are still in bed, lucky them! whats anyone doing today?
chu i cooked ur muffins at last!! i actually baked something from scratch! dh said they looked anemic and needed to be sweeter, the git! might put nuts or choc chips in next time, thank you for the recepi and being arsed to type it!

viks Im just sending you positive thought, and hope it gets easier as time goes on, cant give any advice as ive never been there.
mlic it was a bought cauli cheese as I have spent way too much money on cheese and I stillcant get the sauce right so I have given up!

As time is going on and reading how tiring it is with two toddlers Im starting to think im going to stop at L, he is such an easy baby and I know I wont get another one like him, Im petrified that I will have a screamy clingy child and will resent it, also the doc wants me to have birth councelling before we have one to discuss my birth and the problems I faced.

We are going swimming shortly, its really dropped in temperature here. Two weeks tomorrow and we will be in centerparcs!

Anyone had blood taken from their toddlers? any advice for us, im getting worried about it he hates sitting still and im dreading it!

No advice memph but they will be experts at it, so try to just let them be in charge.

You only haven't got cheese sauce right because you haven't tried my microwave method Everyone I've shown so far has been converted :)

Oh and sorry things seems hard vik. It will get better, I'm not surprised there's no routine yet he's still only teeny weeny. That was a pretty shit thing of your dh to say in front of a friend

link especially for vik

That's what I meant but tsc said it much better By 'let them be in charge' I meant they will know what they are doing, so just do whatever they tell you to, even if it's upsetting.

tsc and mlic thanks for advice, I wont sob I promise bet I will afterwards in the loo though they wont do it at the surgery as they need extra nurses to restrain him im a big girlpants when it comes to having bloods myself!

viks F is still so little, try not to worry about routines. Tbh I don't even think about a routine til about 4-6 months, I might just be slack but neither of mine settled into one quickly at all.
Re the muffins, they're supposed to be for children so not meant to be full of sugar. Tell your dh to shove some honey on it and be grateful!

memphis no advice re bloods either but try to go with what the nurses say, they should be used to taking blood from little ones!

tsc what makes u think that? Have u had any response from ur thread?
We have had a nice day despite me being knackered, I was packed off for a sleep by dh this afternoon And I'm in bed now, he would kick My ass if he knew I was posting! Dh and d went swimming this morning, seems like they both enjoyed it, hope it can be their Sunday morning activity that would be lovely. We went for a nice walk this afternoon, it's so much better when u can get out of the house for a while, I have 4 stay and play groups lined up to try in the next few weeks so that should be interesting. What's everyone got planned this week? We are off to brum on Thursday, it's gona kill me but it will be worth it!

tsc when my nephew was little he would do all mannor of weird things and we just thought he was a little eccentric, he wouldnt want to play games by the rules, rules were boring but he would want to make is own set of rules, he used to draw these tiny little pictures of people and cut thm out, i mean really small and detailed, he loved anything small, he has never been a good eater and forever was getting told off by my brother. Hes only 11 now but hes not in a good way, hes 5ft 2 and 5.5 stone, he refuses to cut his hair so its properly long like a girls(i love it!) but he is getting bullied at school now, hes as pale as a ghost and he doesnt wash or brush his teeth without a struggle and he lives at his moms and spends all his time in a attic room playing his various computers and thats how he is happy, they got divorced when he was about 18months old. He has told his dad, my brother, that he doesnt want to see him again, not good all round, hes only just started to get any help in the last year but frankly he needed it a long time ago. Im saying all this because if your worried its best to get it sorted sooner rather than later, i hate labeling our children but if it means we can help them, so be it.
F has had dh up till 12 and ruined two sets of clothes and moses sheets due to projectile vom! he cried and moaned at 1.30 soi got him up thinking he was hungry but instead he passed loads of wind and has now gone fast asleep on my knee......fab!! i know if i go back up he will want a feed within the net half hour, rahhhhhhhhh!! i could be asleep now.

up again feeding F. i did go back to bed last time only to get up again 10 mins later and feeding! so theres been hardly two hours between feeds, why does he feed more regularly through the night? hes wide awake now too! this has been the worst night yet for missed sleep. bummer.

Oh vik, bless you

TSC I had a skim of your thread. ds1 shiws a lot of the same traits - won't try anything new (he switches off the second you say 'try') I recently changed toothpaste and he hated it where ds2 didn't bat an eyelid. He will talk ALL DAY LONG and go up to complete strangers and strike up conversation yet in other situations pretends he's painfully shy.

I think she sounds intelligent and strong-willed but she sounds entirely normal to me

Vik- they feed more during the night because your body increases your milk supply better/faster because if the hormones when you're sleeping (or not in your case!) so they increase the supply at night to have more during the day and your body is best at doing this at night.

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Commiserations viks. Hope the day will be easy enough for you, after such a shit night. You know it's just a phase though. I'm only a few weeks ahead of you and it's already much better. I promise.

BTW, I totally do the tea bags in the cup and kettle ready the night before. I've never even thought that that might be weird, just like to be really organised

That's my top tip as well. Try and multi task as much as possible. I hardly ever do one thing at a time. When I go into another room, I take stuff with me, while waiting for the tea, I empty the dishy, while M has her breakfast, I preper lunch, started to do sqats while brushing teeth, to get back into shape etc. I hate a messy untidy flat as well and this is the only way I can manage. and having a cleaner and having a DP who loves it tidy as well

M has a fever and is coughing so I cancelled the nanny. When she feels like this all she wants is mummy or daddy. Any tips what to do when they wake themselves coughing at night? Poor thing, sounded more like barking. Is there anything I can give her to soothe it?

It's snowing here. Builders have just started to rip apart the footpath outside with an air hammer. Lovely with two unwell and easily scared children. NOT.

Can't wait for spring.

Sorry for random rambling.

I'm off.

morning all. sorry i've been quiet - combo of a busy weekend and not having the new thread on my bb so i've not been able to catch up on the move like i usually do. oh and also, i've been devouring books on my kindle. the amazing series i'm just reading is this one: www.amazon.co.uk/Game-Thrones-Book-Songs-ebook/dp/B004GJXQ20/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1326703995&sr=8-1 spirael fodder i reckon

looking up that has done me a favour actually as i've found out there's a TV series based on it too!! www.amazon.co.uk/Game-Thrones-Season-1-DVD/dp/B004LRO176/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1326703025&sr=8-2 but have used up the spare time i had drooling over it so will have to catch up properly later!

memph so so pleased it seems as tho you've got a diagnosis at bloody last.

chul it does sound v tiring but will all be worth it in the looong run when you have your three gorgeous little people around you and they're actually sleeping. will you stop here or are you still open to a number 4?

dh and i were actually talking about a number 3 yday but more saying altho there's temptation, we almost certainly won't. maybe if i was younger i would be more inclined. ah well, very happy with the family we have.

mlic what's your fave home-cooked meal?