Feb 2011...Creeping, crawling and cuddling towards Christmas

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Morning!

Ear still pants but DP thinks his man flunks worse.

Off for hair cut but back later....

wiggles i hope you get your teeth sorted soon. We went to brum xmas market today and i took tom and freya on the carosel. Tom loved it, freya had a huge grin too but i think she just liked the lights. I had half a mulled cider, twas very yummy.

Borg freya has her 4 top teeth coming and she's become really bad at sleeping waking 4-5 times a night. I think i alternate between being really sympathetic to just frustrated and cross. I don't remember teething ever being this bad with tom.

Reastie your supposed to take pics so you can embarrass her when she's older and show us

Had a letter this morning confirming freyas appt for sat morning. I will admit to being scared. I've been so worried, i know that i'll know either way on sat and i've prepared myself as much as i can for what they might say, but there's that chance that it won't be what i want to hear. I know i'll cope i always do. I just pray they'll tell me i'm just being p2b and she'll move in her own time and there's nowt to worry about.
Without the appt i've been able to kind of bury my head and not think about it too some extent unless iwant to. Now it's staring me in the face, part of me feels it couldn't come soon enough the other wishes it wasn't so close.

Ponyo - for the truffles, I think I heated the cream, threw in some loose Earl Grey and let it steep (not sure how long or how much tea, keep tasting it til it's right?). Reheat it and make the truffles like the recipe says. Really easy, think I did rosemary as well but it's been at least 6 years ago. God I'm old

reastie - well done on the full nights sleep. Would really love one myself.

wiggles - hope you get your teeth sorted today!

Delia - as someone else said, some babies are quite happy being stationary and not interested in moving. If you're worried, speak to your HV but I think it's within "normal".

L started waving last week and I SWEAR he repeated "bye bye" when he was doing it. He's also apparently saying "dada" but I refuse to believe it. We took him to see Santa tonight, he was really good for the first couple minutes then the tears started. We put him in an elf costume (£8 at Sainburys!) and everyone was very impressed. Didn't mention we'd picked it up while doing the weekly shop.

Hubbard,good luck for Freya's appointment Saturday, at least you should know what's happening then.

Noah slept well last night but has been awake on and off from 4.45!! Then dh got up at 5 and was his usual quiet self, NOT!

Put the xmas decs up with Ben last night and Noah's reaction has been fab. He sat in the middle of the living pointing, yes pointing, had no idea he could do that, and grunting! When we say hi to him he kinda says hah, which I like to think is hell, how are you today.

Have good days all. Will be chilling most of the day as Ben poorly, can hear him coughing in bed now

emski Hell? Poor Ben, hope is feeling better soon.

hubbard Of course you are scared about Freya's app, I would be too. I really hope all is well.

wiggles Hope the dentist can fix your poorly teeth today.

I didn't go to sleep until after 3.45 this morning and then I was up for work at 6.30 am yawn, yawn. Thank god no baby mindee, I ccan have a nap once I take the kids to school.

Whoops Jane, def meant hello! Why no sleep til 3.45, hope your ok??

Wiggles, good luck at dentist...hopefully no more pain for you

ems to you getting your decorations out aready. I'm desperado do do ours this week end but DH still says I need to hold off another week . I'll try my best to persuade him though . We have a village carol singing outside by the christmas tree at the pub a few doors down on Sunday and would be nice to have a fully festive day with the decorations too

wiggs good luck for the dentist apt. Hope it's not too painful

Well, I have my hv apt this morning. It's odd but I feel a bit nervous about it. I have been having a few more good days recently but know it's really up and down and I must try hard to remember it still can be bad to hv and not shrug it off

jane hope you have a restful day today - that's surely not much sleep

american genius child there saying bye bye

hubbard will you post here on sat with the news from apt? I'll be thinking of you. I know this is probably bad advice and that chances are everything will be perfect with freya but I'm a bit like you - expect the worst and plan for it so you are prepared. Gosh, that sounds really miserable and unsupportive doesn't it. I don't mean I think there will be a problem, I just mean it's good that you're not putting your head in the sand IYKWIM

I did indeed get photos of alice sleeping in her high chair - have loaded on a couple but the 'best' one won't load

Thanks for reassurance re crawling guys, I shouldn't have needed it, Mum keeps telling me I never crawled either, and like Borg I am practically a genius, so I know I was being paranoid, but it's still good to have reassurance!

Ponyo hooray for A clapping, she will be able to join the league of night-time clappers that we seem to have on here.

Totally unrelated to this thread, DH mentioned the Christmas tree dilemma this morning. I think we're going to just have a little one on a coffee table out of reach of C. Tis a shame tho as we usually have a real one and I think this year it will have to be fake as we won't be able to find a miniature one (I don't think?).

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Hubbard sorry meant to say, I can imagine how you must feel about the appointment, like you say both wanting it to come so you can deal with whatever you need to deal with (which may be nothing at all), and also not wanting it to come so you don't have to. It must be really hard.

To Others sorry for teething babies, and adults (!), and for cr@p sleep. I'm soooooo tired at the moment, I would pay good money for Claudia to sleep well tonight.

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delia we have a small real one and PIL have the teeniest of tiny real ones. You can buy them in all sorts of sizes in pots don't you know knowledge on all things christmas related

Oh Reastie, those pics are ADORABLE! I could just squeeze her!

reastie I LOVE the photos .

reastie love the sleeping pics!

Off to google mini Christmas trees...

reastie love, love the photos, A is so cute

hubbard all crossed for Sat xx

Yes well today was step 1 of fixing teeth, I will warn you I am milking it slightly Have got the vast majority of the work done, am taking antibiotics and at last extra strength painkillers Need to go back in 2 weeks to finish off the root canal. I didn't get a sticker but was very brave. Apparently what I was feeling wasn't pain but pressure

Have Sofias schools Christmas bazaar tonight, so am taking S & O, not up to taking all three of them. Mr W volunteered to mind Anna as opposed to take the girls to the school - he doesn't mix well with other parents .

wiggles I hope the worst is over with your teeth. I had root canal done twice on the same tooth- once in Russia then redone in the UK. Russian job was bloody awful, three days and agony :( Cheap though!

reastie OMG that is so cute How did it go with HV?

delia sainsburys had mini Christmas trees in this week.

emski and jane and delia hope you all have cracking nights tonight :)

hubbard all my fingers are crossed that you'll get some answers on Saturday.

Always feels weird for us, buying a tree, cos on our land in Slovenia there are loads of them growing, all different sizes, it was a lovely Christmas tradition of ours to go out and pick the tree then DH would chop it down and carry it back in a Manly Fashion. I miss those days. :( don't miss the water pipes freezing in the walls on a regular basis though

Anyone else really missing ledkr? COME IN LED WHEREVER YOU ARE!!

Imy has her 2.5yo check tomorrow, I am tres excited and hope they discover she is a genius

Oh yes reastie, hope the HIV appointment went well.

Wiggles, hows the teeth?

Debka I'm very of your place in Slovenia it sounds idyllic.

Boo! Af has appeared right on cue, wish she would bigger off for 9 months! That's us now on cycle 7, hope it happens soon.

Another boringly quiet night for me, Dh is working late.

Hope everyone has a nice night.

NOOOOO I just lost a big post feck sake. I blame ledkr as I was just typing about how I miss her too (deb) and then my post disappeared

Hi everyone anyway, here is a summary - wigs hows the mush, deb how is slovenia, reastie A is cute, delia A did a sleepy clap last night, american thanks for recipe, jane hope you sleep well tonight. Phew!

Hi everyone else, we survivied the pil but will repost the 'interesting' bits later or tomo

x post jane stupid AF showing up - boo. Soon though I am sure, very soon!

Feck jane

Hmm.... idyllic-ish in summer. Hell in winter. Infested with dormice- <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?q=dormouse&hl=en&biw=1024&bih=454&gbv=2&tbm=isch&tbnid=KHbhYGW2TuHjQM:&imgrefurl=true-wildlife.blogspot.com/2011/02/dormouse.html&docid=iBT15NVS8ohbKM&imgurl=2.bp.blogspot.com/-sWdJ3YLAd_g/TWB_Grm1_6I/AAAAAAAAA60/EJoglUDrIro/s1600/glis%252Bglis.jpg&w=600&h=400&ei=RdvXTr6qLZLJ8gPq4YDaDQ&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=355&vpy=116&dur=65&hovh=183&hovw=275&tx=138&ty=101&sig=102719879432298687356&page=11&tbnh=107&tbnw=143&start=120&ndsp=13&ved=1t:429,r:3,s:120" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">these buggers. They are the size of squirrels and shriek at night. One once jumped on me in the middle of the night. Scared the pants of me!

Oh my god, I would have freaked and pooped my pants with the door mice! Eeek to being attacked by one!

ponyo I'll pull up a chair ready for PIL goss

jane for AF - wish she would bog off for 9 months for you too

OMG deb I could not cope with one of those jumping on me at night

Yes where is ledkr ?

wiggs hope the fayre was fun and the teeth are getting better

HV was OK thanks. She's given me details of a christian ( ) counselling service where you pay what you can afford but I'm not sure if I'll contact them as it's so hard finding a possible time once I'm back at work as no one will be able to take Alice . Also, since talking to the hv I've felt really wobbly and tearful - tbh feels like I was better off bottling it up and keeping going - has anyone whose had pnd found the same thing?

I'm going to work tomorrow for a KIT morning. Feeling a bit scared . Since working out how little money I'll get every week for how much work and stress I'll be having and all the extra stuff that is expected of teachers I'm feeling a bit rubbish about why I should bother working. nyone fancy a cash in hand cleaner?!

Ha deb those things are cute but I would not want one jumping near me!

reastie this is just my point of view but I don't think bottling things up is a good way to go, and I say that as a bottler-upper myself. I can't describe why very well but you can only keep going so long, sure someone will be able to explain better than me.
Such a shame about not physically having the time to go to counselling - is there anyway around that?
Good luck for tomo :)

Oh and nothing too bad from pil except for what I think was a sly comment about me not wanting anymore kids, mil saying how happy her grandson is now he has a brother and what a strong bond they have and how lovely it is seeing them play together etc And how they won't be alone when older

reastie was thinking of you earlier, to be honest your HV sounds a bit crap . Can you not bypass her and talk to your GP again, do you have any family centres near you? Is there a breast feeding support group that meets near you, I know you have the feeding sorted but perhaps they might have some contacts/ posters up. Our health centre and local library is coming down with organisations/support groups for pnd.

What about name changing (if you want) and asking for info on MN local or on NetMums local pages? Did you give any thought to stopping the job and going back to supply teaching if you need/want to? Sorry its like 20 questions

jane I'm with you, one sniff of a monster like that and you would hear me screaming and cursing all the way back home.

debka hope genius hunting goes well tomorrow

Teeth sooooo much better, thanks xx

wiggs My hv really isn't useless, she's quite lovely and sympathetic if a little ditzy . I think there might be a local 'mind' meeting for mums I found online that I might look into going to, but I won't be able to once I'm back at work anyway pesky work so really I could only go 2 times which doesn't seem worth it. There isn't really much going on on my local mn/nm boards I've looked already . Although I really don't feel work is worth it for the money, I feel obliged to at least try and give it a go for a term and then see where I'm at and how things are going. I'm desperately trying to look at my long term career and how much harder it might be if I take a teaching break. I still love my idea of cookery classes for pre schoolers one day too (although there do seem to be people doing this now )

Oh, completely forgot to say, Alice trying to stand up briefly on her own now (although falls over after a few seconds) - hv saw her doing it and said she might be getting towards walking by new year

Morning all,

A day off for me today, with R at nursery. DP even took her for me so I've been mooching around. She did get up blooming early again though - all snuffly and coughy. Gave her some Calpol and a big bottle and she was chirpy as anything by 6am. Didn't mind being up early too much as our friend was on BBC breakfast with his robot. We're very proud. R was pretty confused when he was on Radio 4 too - I think she almost recognised his voice but couldn't work out where he was.

wiggles I guess you could look on the bright side and thnk at least your dental work is free. Are the girls sky high for Christmas? I'm going to buy some tacky decorations today I think.our tasteful baubles just don't cut it with a baby in the house!

jane Boo to AF. At least you haven't had a stressful wait this month I guess.

deb I weirdly look forward to checks like that too. And for me, not just R!

delia Big Tree. Big Tree. Big Tree. Big Tree.

reastie Now. I am going to sound a little harsh here and I understand if you never talk to me again. However, I think you need this. Please stop making excuses and reach out for the support you need. If you don't then you can understand a little why DH might get a bit frustrated. There may be obstacles in the way but you need to stop creating them for yourself. You can see a counseller after work before collecting A, or at the weekend. Yes, you will have another short time away from her but I think you need that. Imagine how much better off she will be with a mummy who is happy. It will o ly be a short term thing as if you get the help you need now you'll be better all the quicker.

Hope I haven't spoken out of turn, but I've seen several friends in similar positions to you and the one who is happiest in her own skin is the one who addressed things and focussed on her for a short time.

Right. Off Christmas shopping. Oh. And wtf is ledkr