Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

[lumpylumps]

Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

[cinnamongreyhound]

I saw them on fb beaditAli, what a lovely idea. May mention it to dh although will have to be for Christmas as he's already bought my birthday present, hopefully the braclet of yours I liked as I rather unsubtley (I hope) sent him a link to it!

Good luck with your morning saoirse86, my alarm goes off at 6.50 everyday if Luke hasn't already woken me up!!

[lumpylumps]

Eeeeek! My slightly odd little bit scary student at work has friend requested me on fb!!! She knows I go on a lot but there's no way I want to accept her!

I don't wear a lot of jewellery either but I love that necklace beady I tend to go for necklaces rather than anything else!

[saoirse86]

Ooh I love that necklace beadit! You should do a bracelet version of it too. And I love the packaging too.

lumpy I hate it when things like that happen! I've just had a friend request from some girl who knows my aunt. Why do total strangers want to "friend" other total strangers? It's not like I'm so interesting and she's heard about me and would want to know what's going on in my life!

cinnamon I hate alarms, I always get angry with mine when I have to use it! DP's body clock seems to be all over the place ATM. This morning he got up at 5.45 and went to work (he's been getting up early recently but that's crazy!) which means he's now fallen asleep on the sofa. And I was feeling vibes tonight! It's no wonder we never have sex, it's like we live in different time zones!

[cinnamongreyhound]

One of the perils of facebook lumpylumps!!!!

Dh always wakes up early but he lays in bed being annoyed rather than getting up and goes to sleep about 10 mins before the alarm and then he feels crap! We are always in the mood at opposite ends of the day saoirse86 but I usually end up making the compromise! Wake him up!!!!

[newmum001]

Frace's back teeth are coming through and in the last two days she's had 2 really runny acid smelling poo's that have burnt her bum really bad. It's only ever happened once before (at the beginning of september) but she's done it twice in 2 days and then screamed when I've had to change her nappy! It's so bad that when she goes to sit down she does this horrible strangled gasp. My poor baby! It's really affecting her badly this time, she had 2 quite long naps yesterday instead of the usual hour at lunch time and was still in bed by 7! On the plus side she's absolutely fallen in love with one of her teddy's and cuddled it (and me) and fallen asleep with it twice yesterday and she has never ever since the day she was born just lay on me and gone to sleep before! It was lovely!

And she's finally learnt to say mummy properly (I've been money up to now) and it is the cutest thing ever!

[newmum001]

Frace's back teeth are coming through and in the last two days she's had 2 really runny acid smelling poo's that have burnt her bum really bad. It's only ever happened once before (at the beginning of september) but she's done it twice in 2 days and then screamed when I've had to change her nappy! It's so bad that when she goes to sit down she does this horrible strangled gasp. My poor baby! It's really affecting her badly this time, she had 2 quite long naps yesterday instead of the usual hour at lunch time and was still in bed by 7! On the plus side she's absolutely fallen in love with one of her teddy's and cuddled it (and me) and fallen asleep with it twice yesterday and she has never ever since the day she was born just lay on me and gone to sleep before! It was lovely!

And she's finally learnt to say mummy properly (I've been money up to now) and it is the cutest thing ever!

[Debs75]

Saoirse it could be the nickel but I did once try on a very expensive gold ring at a big jewellers and got a very itchy finger. For the price they were charging it should of been real gold. I must be quite odd as I have reactions to loads of things, wool, block soap, potatoes, fake fragrances like air fresheners and perfumes.

Lucy is running around all over now and is also saying mama more. DD2 loves it and they play ring a ring a roses all day

[lumpylumps]

newmum I'm still daddy! "Olly, say mummy" "daddy" "mummy mummy mummy" "daddy daddy daddy"

[patito]

Beadit Love the necklace. Also think it would be very pretty as a bracelet. I love wearing jewellery but have parred down loads since having kids cause I dont like being strangled by it (or having a torn ear lobe). I like shapes and patterns, my favourite earrings are two love birds holding a jade heart between their beaks. I also like coloured beads.

No help on here then about what to call little girls bits. Have heard many names but not too keen on any, why isn´t there an equivalent to willy??

Funnily enough it´s the same in Spanish (a general consented name for boys, nothing for girls).

Im off for an early night with my book, I brought back from my Mums "The Pillars of the Earth" and Im hooked!

[cinnamongreyhound]

I'm back for advice (well really support that we've done the right thing!). Dss's grandad has terminal cancer and I had discussed with dh that when it comes to the end we should have dss and dh should sort something with work so he can take him to school and pick him up. He had a phone call from his ex to say that it was probably her dads last day and would he visit so he went planning to try to take dss with him but not mentioning that on the phone. She had gone on tues evening straight after school with a bag of clothes for dss, he had slept in the library (they are very wealthy people) in a chair in his school clothes not in one of their many bedrooms in his pyjamas and was in the room nect to his grandad. When dh got there he tried to talk to his ex but she could see no reason why dss shouldn't be there. He was watching planet dinosaur on a laptop, he explained to him that grandad was going to die very soon and mum and grandma would be very upset and did he want to stay. Once he had said he wanted to go with dh she didn't argue so we have him for at least the next few days. I don't want to take him away from his mum or grandparents but I really feel that being in a house waiting and watching someone you love die is not appropriate for a 10year old. Imo she should have made other arrangements so he didn't have to go there yesterday. I can't imagine what she's going through and know that you are not rational when in that kind of situation and it is easier when you have a partner as my kids would have just been at home with their dad had I been in the same situation but I still feel she has been unfair to her ds, he is still too young to have to deal with a person dying so close by.

[newmum001]

Cinnamon imo you dss shouldn't have been in that house! Dp's step dad died at home and it was horrible to be around there seeing him like that! It was his decision to die at home and dp's mum gave him his last wish but dp couldn't go round when he'd died as he found it too hard and he's 27. I know you and her don't get on but if I was her I'd have rang you and asked could I drop dss off with you while she went to be with her dad. I can understand that she wanted to be there and in that kind of situation you don't think straight so I can't really say she was selfish to take him with her but if I was in the same situation I wouldn't have dreamt of taking him with me! Surely if she didn't want to phone you she could have left him with a friend until your dp could pick him up! It is a very difficult situation though!

Grace seems a bit better today, she did 5 of those acid poos yesterday and by the afternoon her bum was red raw (although the skin wasn't broken or anything) and she really was in pain. The doctor wouldn't give me an appointment so I rang dp and told him to pcik some bepanthen (sp) up from tesco which has really helped. I was in such a state last night cause of how upset she'd been but dp said it looked a lot better than he thought it would! He was expecting something really horrible after my hysterical phone call at 4 o clock! She's fine in herself but cries when I have to change her nappy still!

[saoirse86]

cinnamon I think the problem with the situation was that she hadn't asked your dss what he wanted to do, and hadn't made appropriate arrangements while he was there (ie getting him dressed for bed, and actually in a bed). But in my family (Irish Catholics) we always stay around while someone close to us dies so it doesn't seem strange to me at all. When I was 11 my grandma died and everyone stayed around but I was going on a school trip to Austria so did go a few hours before she died. My sister did stay though.
I think that if your dss said he wanted to go home with you and dh, and his mum agreed, then that's the best thing for him and you've done the right thing. Try not to worry about it. You can only do what you feel is right at the time and make sure your dss feels as comfortable as possible in his surroundings, and feels supported and cared for.
It may also be that his mum wants to spend some time with him, and he may want to be there for her soon afterwards, so just be ready and go with the flow a bit.

newmum orlaith has had a horrible sore bum like that a few times and it is awful. I can understand you getting upset. Don't worry about your dp's reaction, he hasn't spent all day with it!

[patito]

cinnamon . I personally dont think it´s inappropriate for kids to be around when someones dying especially if it´s a close family member, I think its actually more natural that way. However if your DSS doesn´t want to be there then better with you. The part I dont get is him sleeping on a chair, do you mean he stayed there all night? Even a made up bed on the floor would surely be better. Hope it works out OK without much stress for you. .

[lumpylumps]

cinnamon I also don't think its inappropriate for him to be there. It may help his mum & his grandma cope with whats happening and also him to understand that death isn't a horrible taboo subject and can be peaceful and loving. I do agree that not putting him to bed was wrong tho and also if he doesn't want to be there thats also important.

Newmum I had a day off work when ds1 was this age because of his sore bottom. It can be really horrible.

I've had an unexpected day off today. My great auntie is seriously ill. My mums mum died when my mum was only 11 so this auntie is the closest i have to a grandma. She's got a tumour wrapped round her liver. She's 95 and hasn't been ill until this week. My cousin and I went up to see her. A 6 hour round trip for a 20 minute visit. I'm shattered but I'm glad I went.

[comixminx]

cinnamon, I think you did the right thing but as others say above, I don't think it was necessarily inappropriate for your stepson to be there. The main thing was that he didn't want to be there, and that he could be better looked after by you and DP.

Aphra can take some steps by herself now, yay! She also reliably says dadda to, well, either parent really but particularly to her daddy. She has also quite recently learned to shake her head no, which is great because a) it's very funny and b) it makes communication easier! She says a proper no to stuff she doesn't want / doesn't want to do now.

At her latest checkup she was just over 73 cm length. I think at this point even if they are doing well on walking, they don't stand up very straight so it's better to check length rather than height. Soon though!

[saoirse86]

Thanks comix, and I can't believe aphra's taller than orlaith, she was so little when we saw her! Oh well, I suppose she just has my height genes and dp's belly genes!

When I was 15 weeks pregnant we went on holiday with friends and their dd who was 14 months and looking back I can't believe how much she could say and understand. She could do 3 word sentences, understood loads of words and instructions. I also remember being at theirs and playing with her when she was 10.5 months and she understood and could identify most Colours! Orlaith can't even do that now. So please tell me their little girl was crazily far ahead with these things and it's normal that orlaith doesn't know what's yellow and hold a conversation!

[cinnamongreyhound]

Thank you all, it's good to have other opinions. I agree that it probably was helping his mum lumpylumps but imo that's not a goo enough reason. He's much happier today and dh hasn't heard from her so I'm guessing she feels happy enough to trust that her ds is ok and she can get on with what she needs to do. Yes patito he slept in the chair all night in his clothes.

I think they measure them laying down until 2 saoirse86. I measured like against our wall chart and he was 77cm but when measured laying down he was 81cm so I guess it does make a difference! And no most children don't know colours at 14 months, usually 2ish but I have known some who don't at 3. My friends little girl said loads at 1 but that is also not what you'd expect. Have a look in your nhs book I think it has a rough guide for developmental milestones.

Luke nods and shakes his head comixminx, it is very cute and also very useful!! He understands a lot now but since he's learned that he hasn't said anything else! He's worked out 'that' gets him things he wants, including when he's finished his milk he points to be and says that :)

Luke also says bye instead of byebye now and still says daddy and cat. Still waiting or mummy :(

[cinnamongreyhound]

Should really proof read before posting!! He points to bed not be!

[sassy34264]

yes debs i have ibs. ive had it for 11 years. i dont eat wheat at all. well......i will occasionally but i know im gonna suffer, so it has to be worth it, but it very rarely is. but its not that. its a totally different pain. i think i have a vaginal infection- i do get them a lot. need to go to the docs.

mammyg chloe use to get colon spasms. she would be doubled over and we ended up in a&e a few times. hers was caused by having a stretched colon that took longer to fill up and so she would be constipated and then she would do the biggest poos you couldnt even imagine. i use to be amazed that she hadnt ripped her bum hole! tmi!

i called chloe's bits, her privates. we still refer to it as that now. my mum use to call it my front bum.

i wouldnt leave a 10 yr old in the house where someone was dying either. but as someone who grew up terrified of death (cant tell you how many times i would cry myself to sleep thinking what happens when you die, if god made us, who made god? and i would literally punch myself in the head trying to stop myself thinking) i have tried very hard to be matter of fact about death with chloe and it seems to have worked. no one talked about death in my house and my first funeral was at 17years old cos my mum wouldnt allow me to go. i think if its treated as a fact of life , children just accept it as such.
im still quite bad. ive never seen a dead body and im absolutely terrified of it happening. i know it will eventually but i dread it. i wont look on the motorway if there is a crash, i look studiously ahead and scream at everyone slowing down. even visiting manchester museum a few years ago, i wouldnt go and look at a body they had perserved from a bog they had found it in- chloe looked. i wont look at mummy's either- i will freak out.

dont know how tall j&i are but eva was 56cm when she was born and was 11lb when she was weighed a week ago!

i have a question for those who expressed. how? when? ie, any tips, helpful info. i want to do it so i can go training, but its only likely to be 3/4 times a week and i dont want my natural full time milk supply to be affected. i would also like to have a supply in the freezer.

i love costume jewellery beaditali and im a big fan of accessorise stuff, but i havent bought any for a good few years. i cant really say what i like cos i just like what i like- if that makes sense! but i do love chunky rings. i have a butterfly ring that i love. and a really big black one that is just round and flat. i use to love a long black necklace that i got from dorothy perkins that was wrapped all over in material and had a big flower about half way down and looked gorgeous with a white vest top. but the flower broke off eventually- boo.

[cinnamongreyhound]

I expressed with both of mine sassy34264, I used to do it about half way between feeds and if I could while they were asleep as I found if I was stressed I didn't get anywhere near as much milk. With ds1 once I got enough from a few between feeds I expressed while dh gave him a bottle as I was going back to work and wanted him to get used to it. I did get more in the morning but I found once Luke had a bedtime I expressed at 10ish as he wouldn't feed at that time but my body was used to him doing so. I couldn't say that my supply was affected as I tried to do it at different times of the day each time. I bought the pouches for storage and topped them up as I got a bit more and made them up to about 6oz as that was the most Luke took at a time. I got 5oz at a time with ds1 and only 2-3oz with Luke but I think he was having a lot less milk at each feed, judging by weight gain, and so it wasn't a huge surprise!

[lumpylumps]

supermum sassy how are you getting on with the twins & Eva?? had Jacob settled down? hows your sil??

I had my 1st ever really bad night with either of mine last night. Olly woke at 10 & screamed so much he was almost sick on numerous occasions until 1am!! It was awful. I tried milk, calpol, cuddles, my bed, leaving him, ssshing, stroking, everything & he just wouldn't stop. on the up side, when he did finally give in he then slept till 7.15am no 5am bottle! just a shame he didn't settle till 1!

So whats everyone getting for christmas?? I'm getting a beautiful necklace made by this random person Rosie soul or something I'm so excited!!

Cinnamon hows things??

[newmum001]

Lumpy I wonder if he'd had a dream? Sometimes when grace wakes up I'm sure that's what's happened! Not even a bad dream nessesarily (I can't spell that bloody word) just a dream she can't make sense of!

Not sure what I'm getting for xmas but dp has just got me and my friends front row tickets to see new kids on the block and backstreet boys and I am beyond excited!

[newmum001]

Lumpy I wonder if he'd had a dream? Sometimes when grace wakes up I'm sure that's what's happened! Not even a bad dream nessesarily (I can't spell that bloody word) just a dream she can't make sense of!

Not sure what I'm getting for xmas but dp has just got me and my friends front row tickets to see new kids on the block and backstreet boys and I am beyond excited!

[cinnamongreyhound]

Well lumpylumps, my friend had decided she can forgive her husband and that they are now talking more so she thinks their relationship will improve because of it. Still no news on dss's grandad in fact dh hasn't heard from his ex at all today not even to ask how dss is :(. That sounds like an awful night with olly, hope he doesn't repeat it!

I am babysitting tonight and freezing :(. The kids are really good and te parents good tippers so I shouldn't complain!!! I have decided I need to stop eating so much crap and its really hard!! I am overweight and although it bothers me I don't really care enough to stop eating but the last couple of weeks I keep worrying about my health, diabetes, heart problems and cancer all of which are not helped by eating shit loads of fatty cakes/biscuits/chocolate. Must be old age creeping in!

I have no idea what I'm getting for Christmas, getting a new camera from my parents for my birthday and I'm very excited!!!!!!!!!

[cinnamongreyhound]

It's never eat cheese eat salad sandwiches and remain young newmum001, that's what I learned at school anyway!

My mum just texted to say that dss told her yesterday that it was weed being with us and going back and forward to school but his mum will be ok because she's a nurse and used to seeing people die. I'm glad he's not worrying about we but a bit sad that he thinks shes fine. She hasn't worked as a proper nurse since he was born so 10years ago and dh said she didn't cope with it well then. I can honestly say I hate her but I wouldn't wish this on anyone, just thinking about my dad not being here it makes me well up :(