Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

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Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

Cinnamon i think that about food. I'm lucky, a size 8 and can eat whatever I want but being a size 8 won't help when my arteries clog up & I have a heart attack! Must eat more healthily!!

we were a Never Eat Cress Eat Salad Sandwiches And Remain Young family
On the subject of words: Jack isn't saying that many but does understand a lot....... I think..... maybe it's a normal amount tho.
He knows: Mummy, Daddy, socks, toes, tongue, kiss, nose, pig, horse, cow, light, dog, Iggle Piggle, finger and says 'look' when he points at things.... unless it's an animal and it gets either "Ca" or "Og" guessing they're 'cow' and 'dog' as these are his favourite toys
Words he actually says are: Mamma, Dadda/Dad, Ta, Og, Ca, Look/Ook and says "Boo" when we play Peek-a-boo
This week he's got incredibly giggly..... it's moved up a notch on the volume level too. He wonders off to hide and as soon as he hears you coming he's in stitches.... very, very cute!
Favourite thing at the mo has to be him holding my hand to walk places... tell me they never stop holding Mummy's hand!!
Lumps a little bird told me that Rosie Soul has just got some lush linen ribbon with reideers on it for wrapping pressies in!!
Hope you've caught up on sleep now xx

cinnamon just read your post whilst stuffing eating some biscuits. Not had the usual comfort food effect this time! Im not a crisp/sweet fan but biscuits are my big downfall could easy polish off a packet to miself when kids are napping .

We have a10? cap on Christmas, just cause it ends getting so expensive. we then splash out more on our Birthdays. The idea is to spend only 10? but be more creative. Its actually quite hard to come up with something. We also swap our gifts on NY eve, when we have a candle light dinner(at home) just for us. Its the only romantic thing we stick to all year!

From my family I want a pressure cooker , I just don´t know if I can bring myself to ask for it as it makes me feel soooo old.

Dh has gone out so I'm having a cosy night with ds1 (ollys been in bed 20mins, I think his screaming fit on thurs night has caught up with him!) I've ordered a take away and when it comes the lights are going down, the sweets are coming out & ds1 and I are going to snuggle, munch and watch The Grinch! He's even got his juice in a wine glass to match me. He feels like such a big boy. I'm absolutely loving olly at the minute but its really nice to be able to do more grown up things with them!

patito that sounds really lovely what a special tradition to keep. I got a slow cooker off my parents 2 years ago. I was so excited.

Do they really measure lo's horizontal until they're 2??? I thought I was wrong so checked and re-checked and checked again......... he's 82cm standing but 84.5cms horizontal!!!!
Heaven help any girl's tippitoes trying to reach his lips!

How was your living room pyjama party lumps?

How can they be longer laying down???? I don't get it! I've been trying to measure olly but he just runs away from the tape measure! Dh is home now. I'll get him to pin him down hold him for me!

The pyjama party was great! Except for getting 45mins into Grinch and a little voice piping up "i don't ike dis film mummy!" So we watched brother bear instead!

73cm standing, 78cm laying. the laying is accurate, standing may be a little out cos he wasn't really playing!

Lol Beady according to his red book he was 72cm in july. Ds1 was 69cm at the same age! He's only 92cm now!

So I've had a bit of an interesting week. Those of you with one I hope this doesn't sound harsh, those with 2 or more I hope you have had similar feelings so I'm normal! This week, I finally feel like I've bonded with Olly. I've always loved him but I've always felt that there was something missing, always maybe secretly preferred ds1 It sounds awful to write it. Anyway I was laid on the floor in the playroom on tuesday & olly was stood at his toybox. I pretended to be asleep & he giggled, walked over to me & threw himself on me! we kept playing that for ages then just carried on playing till bedtime. We created the "cuddle" game where I shout "cuddles" and he toddles over and cuddles me! It just felt like something had clicked and I sat with them both on the settee tonight & tried to decide who was my favourite & I couldn't. They're both as wonderful and as special as each other. Its only taken 14 months!!!!!

I doubt it's harsh lumps but I can't say only having Jack.
I know that I'm no. 3 for my Mum though..... she's always made it clear that my brother is 'Golden Balls' and my twin is the spit of my Mum and has followed the EXACT same career path as Mum... and then there's me.
Having met you though I can honestly say that you don't strike me as anything like the sort of person who would ever make a child feel aware of there being a favourite so I really wouldn't feel too bad about it!!
Also..... Toby is angelic so can easily see where you are coming from ..... Of course Olly is too but had slightly less interaction with him on your visit... plus, I think he fell out with me after almost flattening him!

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That really has scarred you hasn't it?!

Just read back and didn't mean it to sound like Toby will be your fave forever..... i'm sure it's not the case at all.
Yep.... sad to say but it really has a bit. If you knew my Mum you'd understand it though. I've been standing behind her or in a neighbouring room and heard things that have never left my brain. It affected me more at the time and I was unbelievably shy with a very dominating twin so I think it did all hold me back a bit. Good job I have a 'get up and get on with' attitude or I think I might have shed a few tears about it all.
Silly sausage of a Mummy..... love her to bits but she'd never use the 'L' word for me [shrugs]

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Aww, beady (I meant the olly squashing incident but the mummy things more important!) I have an older brother so obviously he's the fave big boy & i'm the baby girl! I have always been told that if i was their 1st they wouldn't have had anymore. I never thought anything of it but someone else said thats like saying they wished they'd never had me!! Your mummy loves you!

Hahahahah....... the OllyDobdob near squishing incident was worse you TROL

I didn't realise you were a twin beaditAli, there's a lot of that about on this thread!! That is horrible that you feel like that, I hope I never make mine feel like one is a favourite or more important or makes me prouder :(. I'm sure your mum is proud of you a successful business woman and fab mummy . Funnily I was talking to my mum tonight about her older brother who she claims was always my nan's favourite. My great nan's house was put in his name when she died (not sure of the reasons exactly) with the agreement he paid my nan rent and when she died it was shared between the 4 children, of course it wasn't and despite my nan doing her best to make him feel special he still, at 65, has a chip on his shoulder about being deprived as a child. Worse possible middle child as he was succeeded by twins so double the cuteness and they got a lot of attention. My mum did everything for my nan in the last 10 years of her life with perhaps a visit from her other children 3-4 times a year yet my mum still feels she wasn't good enough, although I'm sure that's not the case.

I think that you know the first one better lumpylumps and it makes you feel that you have a stronger bond with them. They have been in your life for a long time when the second arrives and you know what makes them tick and then a baby comes along who doesn't have a personality at all really and you are at a loss. I was really nervous about loving a second one as much but I had the instant rush of love for Luke the same as I had for ds1 so was lucky in that respect. I think we both have in common that we were not really comfortable with our choice of names which is really strange and although I am used to it now I'm still not sure it suits him. For me I guess James is the best possible boys name I could have so anything else is second best! They are so different so it makes it easy to love them for their own personalities but ds1 is sooooooo like me that I think it will always be easier to connect with him because we like the same things and think the same way, although I imagine we will also clash a lot!!! I also think it's easier for me as ds1 is at school so although I have my minded children I get time with Luke alone so he can catch up (if that makes any sense at all?).

cinnamon my Dad is an identical twin and there are 11 sets in our family! I can't imagine how big my bump would be if I had 2 Jack made me huge!

My Mum has always made it clear that she prefers boys so unlucky that she had twin girls 18 months after golden boy was born! [hahahahahahahha]

What you wrote in response to Lumpy's post makes perfect sense....... but lets all stop talking about siblings please..... making me soooooooooooooo broody! I'm being selfish and having a boozy Christmas then my body is free for DC2

Cinnamon Thats exactly the way it is. I said to beady that I knew ds1 and then there was this baby who for some reason I'd got in to my head would be just like him in looks and personality. Of course thats not the case. Apart from size they're completely different! I hadn't thought of the name thing playing a part but yes, I suppose it does. I'm used to it too now but will never love it as much as Toby (the name ).

Roll on next year beady you need a baby in your belly!!!!! I'm going to see my pregnant friend soon. She a poorly pregnant tho. I've no idea how she's going to cope with a baby & herself!!! My other friend has some fantastic "when the babys born" ideas. She has no idea whats coming! She should cos she's one of my closest friends so has seen me change from a party girl (ish!) to a mummy who's idea of a good night is going to bed at 9pm & sleeping till 7am! She seems to think thats all just me, not just being a mummy! She'll soon see!!!

Ok ladies....... total change of subject but something i've wondered about doing for ages and always chicken out......

Should I have a bob?? Bear in mind I'm goofy and unphotogenic.... I always blame my teeth! So here's a pic of my teeth looking awful... be honest.... would it highlight them even more or make no difference? Can you tell I CANNOT MAKE DECISIONS!!???
me here and wannabe hair here I'll ignore the horribly pretty face on that picture and would prob sweep my fringe more neatly to the side. What you reckon lovelies???

I think that kind of messy bob would look lovely on you beaditAli! It's really nice but it's the kind of thing I would take to my hairdresser and it would look nothing like it as I don't have the right hair! I have given up having different haircuts as they always look the same and it is just a mess! Going to grow mine and try to leave it, always get bored and have it cut then spend ages growing it.

That would look lovely Beadit
I despair with my hair, it is long and straggly now but I can't have it short as it looks crap and it just doesn't do anything. It is almost poker straight and can not hold a curl to save it's life. It goes in a bobble most days but slides out after a couple of hours. I only ever get it trimmed as it doesn't do styles and just hangs there.

Can you tell I hate my hair

Off to a friends wedding later with the little girls. Had to drag some party clothes out of storage for me, I just live in jeans nowadays. Quite excited but a bit apprehensive about hair and wearing makeup again. I need some nights out or I will just turn into an old shrew!

I've always avoided going shorter because of my curls which I usually totally straighten or tame into a wave. My hair is much, much less curly since I've had Jack so I'm thinking now's the time!

Debs My house eats hair bobbles so another reason for me to lop it off!

It doesn't seem to matter what hair you have you always want someone else's!! I hate mine but always get comments on how lovely it is, dead straight and boring brown! Would love some kind of wave to it and be able to tie it up for 2 seconds without having a massive line around it.

Well my hair's naturally very curly and I never seem to be happy with it, but I did really like it about 2 years ago when I had it very short here. I found I could wear it curly, straight, up, down, a lot easier to deal with than I expected. I think it'll look lovely on you Beadit! And I don't know what you're talking about being unphotogenic, I always think you look gorgeous!
BTW, I haven't forgotten and I'll message you later about my order. Just waiting for my mum to make decisions.

I can completely understand this issue with your second child. I do think I might have that if/when we have another child. It's just that orlaith's become like my best friend (a bit sad I know!) and I think it would be strange having a second one. I actually think it would be better if another child was completely different to orlaith. And I don't think it helps that others always compare children. My sister and I were always compared, and orlaith and imara are always compared but they're so different I think it's unfair to compare them.

Anyway, I'm just babbling now...

Beadit I used to have a bob for years before havinf grace, my hair isn't curly as such but it is quite thick and a bit frizzy! But I had to grow the bob out when I had grace cause I just couldn't keep up with it! It wasn't really long enogh to tie up and I didn't have time to spend on it everyday so it was a nightmare. Imo the shorter your hair the harder it is to straighten and keep straigh (I know that sound a bit backwards but that's how it is with my hair) I am loving having mine longer but I can see me getting bored pretty quickly and wanting my red bob back. Imo bobs require a bit more effort but are well worth it.

OMG newmum don't tell me that!!!! I am worse than any pig at keeping up my appearances I swear moisturiser hasn't touched any of my skin for 3 years! Hence my rice pudding skin pouch!
saoirse Love your curly locks! It has made me think that I shouldn't have it too short to allow for curls to shorten it even more.
No probs with jewellery...... boxes not here yet anyway so when ever you're ready LumpyTrol is having one too! TROL are her family initials! mine spell JAM