Sept 10 - Now they're all one, where has the year gone!!!!!

[lumpylumps]

Sorry, I've jumped in with the new thread! Its been running through my head for the last week!

[beaditAli]

Oh Mammy that sounds pretty rough hope you feel better after all the lovely pain relief!
Still don't get the Christmas birthday sadness....... if I made an effort to celebrate a birthday then that's what it'd be.... right? Maybe cos I'm a May born I just have no idea how it bothers some people
If moaning about not getting presents works that well then: "Nobody ever buys me anything and I get forgotten all the blinking time! I demand presents now!!!!!" hahahahahahahhahahhaha This is the one time I wish DH was on this thread
cinnamon Jack has an hour or so either just before or after lunch so won't nap again later in the afternoon. He is happy in his cot when he's tired but not if he's just physically tired.... if that makes sense???

[Debs75]

Spoke to DH about it last night Cinnamon and he was shocked that the DH would do that, and he is really open minded. Even he could see how the wife was put into an abusive position and that the 'physio' must be a sham. The police might see it as an abuse/grooming incidenst if she can't sue him, they would probably see her DH was implicated as well which would make it almost impossible for her to stay with him. I think Sassy is right, once it sinks in she will be able to make a decision on her future

Lucy has stopped pooing beige poos we had a lovely brown stinky one this morning and her appetite has gone back to normal

[saoirse86]

MammyG I didn't know you were having stomach problems - either it happened while I wasn't around much or I've got a terrible memory! I hope you're feeling better now.

Orlaith had her development check today (a little late I know!) and she was so funny. She's got this thing about making you think she's about to give you something/kiss you/take something etc and then turning away at the last second, and she kept doing it to the HV. It was so funny, the HV was trying to give her things to check her coordination and Orlaith kept putting her hands out then whipping them away and giving her a cheeky grin. The HV said she's never seen a child not want to take the toys before.
She also asked me if I talk to her a lot because she says a lot of words. A few people have asked me that too but I don't think I talk to her more than other parents do, I think it's just her personality IYSWIM, in that she wants to please people and talking does that.

[patito]

HI guys

Im back home now after 10 days in England. I went on my own with DS and Maia, wont be repeating that one again soon. Love to go shopping when I go back, no bloody chance with no DP around to help with the kids. Nevermind we´re back again in 6 weeks, just in time for the xmas rush!

What have I missed? Hope everyones well.

Sassy Loved your news, and the name. So happy for you all.

Will try and catch up proper later.

x

[cinnamongreyhound]

That sounds like a terrible week MammyG, I hope you feel better soon.

I think if you make the effort a Christmas birthday will be fine beaditAli, and pester all the people around you too! I see what you mean about the nap, I have adjusted Luke's nap as it fits better with my minded children and school runs but he sleeps for 2-3hrs so he is awake longer before his nap than others. Awake 6.30/7.30-12/12.30 and 3-7.30 so doesn't get massively tired in the evening. He does not watch TV at all though, so that wouldn't chill him out- he almost never sits down and it takes a lot of effort to make him sit just for a snack if he's not in the highchair.

My friend won't go to the police she thinks she doesn't have enough evidence for them to be interested and she has convinced herself that they didn't really do anything wrong as didn't stop anything. She said today that her dh found the guy from the his list of approved people from his work health insurance and when he heard she would have to be totally naked approached the guy with ideas of relaxing her and trying to find ways to satisfy her more and sent him the photos. I don't know what else to say to her, she said today that she feels at peace with what he's says but is worried that's because she is under his power and he is manipulating her with his words.

[newmum001]

Aww cinnamon I really feel for her and you! For her because she is clearly deluded and for you because you know this horrible thing and want the best for her and can't actually do anything about it! Such a shitty position to be in. Hopefully she'll realise in time that their relationship isn't healthy!

Saoirse orlaith sounds just like grace, with the cheeky games and chatter!

[newmum001]

Aww cinnamon I really feel for her and you! For her because she is clearly deluded and for you because you know this horrible thing and want the best for her and can't actually do anything about it! Such a shitty position to be in. Hopefully she'll realise in time that their relationship isn't healthy!

Saoirse orlaith sounds just like grace, with the cheeky games and chatter!

[beaditAli]

cinnamon Jack would NEVER sleep for 3 hours in one go for a nap! I so wish he would but even a car ride in the afternoon doesn't do it. The boy is just a machine and goes pretty much 7am-7pm with at best 1.5 hrs nap around lunch! We have no tv days then days where it's on for particular programmes but to be honest it's me that just can't stand some of the shows!
Particular hatred for Zingzillas, Big and Small and the girl hosting 'I can cook' just switch them off straight away! Having said that..... I'd rather live with the Waybuloos than live where I live! and Nina and the neurons is ACE
patito sorry you didn't get to shop! Make sure you get every relative you can child minding so you can make the most of Christmas wonderland shopping!
Oh also.....if I bring my 'March' forward to 'late January' then we might avoid a Christmas baby and have a few weeks between birthdays
Oh..... then that means making an effort before March

[cinnamongreyhound]

Sorry patito totally missed your post, probably x'd.

I didn't let ds1 watch tv until he was 2 and he is now glued when ever it's on which is very handy. It's on more now as I have lots of kids who want to watch it so I haven't excluded it with Luke but he just won't watch beaditAli :(. Peppa pig catches his attention for perhaps 1 minute but that's it!! I LOVE I can cook! We have the book and ds1 and I often bake from it on a sat/sun while Luke is sleeping. I don't like the waybaloos but I do like in the night garden and grandpa in my pocket is a favourite . Scooby doo is on mostly at the moment, on TV after school and then the DVD's come out some days too!

[comixminx]

Blimey cinnamon, I know that your friend has to make her own decision and you can't make it for her, but what a horrible thing to have happened, and what a horrible situation to be in. I'm sure that she is papering over the cracks mentally but it will all come out again sooner or later. Absolutely mind-boggling, the idea that anyone but esp a person who is so close to you, father of your children etc, could possibly do such a thing.

beadit, I feel for you with Jack not having much in the way of daytime naps! Aphra's couple of hours during the daytime makes a massive difference to my Mondays, and likewise to DP's Fridays...

Mammy, sorry to hear about your stomach problems. Hope you feel better soon. Do you know what the underlying problem is, I forget if you've told us?

[newmum001]

Grace is the same as jack regarding sleep, has an hour between 11 and 12 which I personally don't think is enough but she begs to differ! Some days she's physically exhausted by 3pm but won't have a sleep! And even if she did want one late afternoon I probably wouldn't let her as she'd be up till 10pm and I like my me time from 7pm, (I'm a mean mummy)

I'm having a massive clear out tomorrow, dp's mum is having grace from 8.30am and me and my mum are spending the day de cluttering my house! We've only been here 2 years and every cupboard and drawer is litterally rammed with shit! My problem is I like everywhere to look clean and tidy but I'm a nightmare for keeping useless things so it all just gets shoved in a drawer!

[MammyG]

Thanks for the well wishes guys. No idea what the prob is but the tests will begin soon....again! Hopefully this time there will be answers.
cinnamon Such crap to watch a friend being abused and have her delusional about it all. I had a friend that kept making all the excuses etc all you can do is be gentle and supportive. Sooner or later these things fall apart and she will need your shoulder.
DS1 goes goggle eyed for the telly despite us not having one for almost two years! DS2 could take it or leave it and Phoebe doesnt even look up unless there is a song! DS1 used to be totally freaked out by big and small.

[Debs75]

Lucy is napping now. We were up at 8am so had dinner at 11.15 and she was in the car for a nap at 11.45. She likes a big nap of 2-3hours or a couple of little ones about 45-90mins.
She doesn't go to bed till about 9pm, I have never been able to do the 7pm bedtime till they are at least at nursery, and then sleeps for 6 hours ish, has a feed then back to sleep.

[cinnamongreyhound]

Speaking of naps Luke managed to stay awake until 3.30 today!! He was so good at his EAT study 1 year check and he has no allergies to the 6 foods plus 8 other things they tested him for. I'm totally knackered and really missing ds1 :(. Nearly at Cambridge so one more train change and I'll be home in less than an hour. It's been a struggle on trains and tubes (with stairs and escalators) on my own but I managed! Had a bit of a nightmare with my travel card disappearing somewhere so had to buy another at my expense :(. Nice to spend some time just me and Luke even if most of it was on a train!

[lumpylumps]

Cinnamon bit slow here but, It is abuse! If she was uncomfortable by it its abuse. Did she tell him to stop at all? Abuse can be as simple as making someone watch porn when they don't want to! also, the police would be interested. They would have to investigate it & what if he's done the same to someone else and not been told not to massage the genitils or insert anything????? There could be other women out there that are the same as your friend! Its disgusting! She's printed off the emails so she does have evidence. She also has her word! I know someone who accused her husband of rape. He was convicted and went to prison! There wouldn't have been any evidence there, just her word against his!!!!!

[sassy34264]

sorry to hear about your stomach problems mammyg i hope they get to the bottom of it soon. ive started to get some pains in my stomach after ive eaten. they seem to be escalating too, as this mornings where cry out loud hurting. im hoping it will all settle down soon as my bowel hurts too everytime i have a wee. wierd- i know.

jacob and isobel have the one nap at 11-11.30. if im lucky they will have 2 hours but more often than not, they will have 1 to 1 &1/2 hours. if they have less than an hour i usually put them down for a short nap about 3pm.
they are 7am to 7pm as well.

[newmum001]

I had a lovely day cleaning the house yesterday, sounds very weird I know but as every room got de cluttered I felt so much calmer! I hate clutter! Plus it was a whole day spent with my mum just the 2 of us and that never happens. She was talking about when me and my twin sister were babies and how jenny was always first to do everything and I was really stubborn (and slightly hysterical about everything)! Jenny was in a bed at nearly 2 and I was nearly 4! My mum said she used to go on and on about what a big girl jenny was in her big girl bed and I'd sit and aggree and say what a big girl she was but I then refused to have a bed! Made me chuckle! I love hearing stories of when I was a baby now that I have grace, it all seems so much more interesting!

[lumpylumps]

Ollys walking!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[cinnamongreyhound]

Thanks lumpylumps, I am surprised that everyone had the same response though! I met her dh on the last leg of my journey home and I was impressed with myself at how normal I was. She sent me a text yesterday saying everything was fine and they have had a nice family weekend. We are going for coffee tomorrow after we've dropped the kids at school so will talk to her some more then but after that I guess it's everything back to normal :(

Go Olly!!!!! Are all the babies walking now? Haven't heard from mapletrees in a while so maybe not all.

Glad you got decluttered and had a nice time with your mum newmum001.

We've had a lovely weekend very chilled yesterday then went down to Kent to my cousins engagement party. Dh danced with me loads which was nice, caught up with my family and everyone said how lovely the boys were which was nice. All 5 of us were in the same room and actually slept until almost 8am

[Debs75]

Lucy is walking as well am very proud. It only took her 14months and 23 days! Not as long as DD2 at 15m but long enough. She thinks she is very clever and even does a little bum wiggle in the middle. Might have to get her some shoes soon now.
Went to a big fireworks show and Lucy and the other dc's loved it. Wasn't s sure about Lucy but she was looking at the flashes and pointing and smiling so I guess she liked them. I burnt off my hot dog as well as we had to walk about 2 miles over hills to get there as we went the wrong way

Sassy have you got IBS? I get pains after a meal and before I go to the loo and I'm sure it is IBS

YAY for Olly as well

[MammyG]

Yay all the walkers!! I saw a wee man born the day after Phoebe today strolling away holding his daddies hand - Phoebe is no where near that! mind you she could probably do with shoes
Got the dates for my gastroscopy and ultrasound so hopefully by the end of the month I may have an answer. TBh Im at the stage where I would just like my gallbladder removed and hope that ends it!!
Im starting a killer diet - cannot cope with it any more. 15lbs for xmas - Is is possible?
Had a lovely birthday party for DS2 (4) on sat. 10 boys running riot! The carpenters had left 35 mins before the kids arrived so the place was mayhem by sat evening. In bed that night the boys told me how cool their dad was (cause he ran around like a loon for an hour playing games!) but that he was the bestest at cycling! I then said "s'pose mom isnt that cool?" ...."Ah but youre pretty mommy!!" I guess I will have to settle for that!

Sassy To boot i also have IBs so there is a slight chance it has travelled to my colon and now I have spastic colon (love all the attractive names!!) but watch see if you have cramping when you go or if certain foods trigger it. pregnancy no 2 set mine off so it could be that.

[beaditAli]

Yeay Olly I bet he looks so chuffed with himself!! Get it on film cos the look of delight soon goes when it becomes second nature! Not sure why i'm telling a mum of 2 that
Jack walked about 3 days after his birthday and a month later was holding my hand and walking to the park. The holding hand thing makes me melt every time!
The only downside is that he's now trying to run. DH and I were in hysterics last night when he just legged it and splatted straight into our bedroom door then rolled on the floor laughing..... strange lil man
We took J to a fireworks display and he was fine with his ear defenders on though I am totally mentally scarred by his helmet days so was so glad to get them off! I think we're paying the price now for keeping him awake as he was asleep 3 hours after his usual bedtime last night and is zonked this morning so not sure I'll be skipping bedtime again in a hurry.
Anyone else notice a growth spurt around this age? His appetite has increased and everything is getting really big. Is it wrong to say he appears to have a third leg I am astonished at the size of it to be honest

We measured him last night and he's 82cms.... with socks on (obviously not referring to leg no.3)

Happy Monday lovelies x

[beaditAli]

DJ.Jack

[cinnamongreyhound]

That's nice that they think that MammyG, I always tell ds1 I love him (well both of them really) and he says 'I like you Mummy'! So wish he would love me :(

I don't thinks that Luke is having a growth spurt beaditAli, his eating habits vary from day to day anyway but he was measured at the EAT study on Friday and is 81cm (without socks ). Luke has a smaller willy than ds1 but one of the little boys I childmind has massive testicles compared to my two so I think they differ a lot. Dss's is much bigger now than when he was 4, I thought it mostly grew at puberty but obviously not. I have learned a lot about willy's since having my boys!

[patito]

Maia does have a nap through the day and DS most days. I think I need the nap time more than them. Its when I sit down for a cuppa and get on MN with the house work!



cinammon Just read back about your friend as I was intrigued. Agree totally with all the others, it is def abuse by both her DH and the physio. I find it hard to believe that is the first thing as it seems quite a big thing involving a 3rd person and all. Like someone else mentioned not quite your intro safe chat stuff, "oh by the way do you mind doing x and y but not z to my wife".Keep close to her. Its good shes opened up to you with this and feels she can trust you. Most women say they never told cause they were never asked :(

Beadit Ive always thought DS´s looked big, but then did wonder if its cause they´re so small. Just wait till he gets to be able to talk about it, DS once told me when he was having a wee "oh look mummy it gets bigger!"

Yeah for Olly and Lucy just all that falling over to come now!

MammyG Sounds like you suffer a lot with your stomach. Whats the diet you trying?

newmum I love to have a good clear out evrynow and again. Somehow feel lighter after.

Its pee´d it down for 3 days running and Im running out of ideas with the kids. Thank God DS has music class today, it´s only an hour but gets him out the house.

Maia can now do a mean impression of a cow and the funniest sheep Ive ever heard.