October 2011 - Let the poo obsession begin

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Come chat, moan, boast (by stealth of course), vent, rage, relax, worry and be reassured. Welcome to all the new babies. Stats thread here

OK requested to be added to the group (initials CH)

What a stressful time Scallops

We are fighting colds and mine has migrated toy chest. Hoping L stays well. He has a sniffle bit nothing else so far.

I have started trying to put L to sleep without the boob, after 30mins of bouncing on my yoga ball with radio tuned to static I have given up. L is back on the boob and I am defeated (this time).

have requested to join group (my initials are AW).

have been reading but not pasting for the last week or so. Lots going on here...

Have a family funeral tomorrow (DHs uncle died last weekend) but don't think I'm going to go. I really don't feel right taking a little baby to funeral, especially since many of the relatives haven't met M yet. Would like to pay my respects but don't want all the attention to be on M. Everyone who we would ask/trust to babysit M right now will be at the funeral. What do you think?

M is doing well, though suffering from cramps during the afternoons/early evenings.

Am getting my first night off tonight - going to see Breaking dawn with some colleagues!

Engel. Could you miss funeral but perhaps go to wake bit afterwards and then visit grave / crem after on your own? I agree don't take lo to the service part x

I've got my work Xmas party today so have left all three kids at home and am on the train to london and won't see them again until early hours of morning but looking forward to an entire day of adult time

Hope everyone has lovely days x

hand poor mite hope he continues to improve, very stressful but at least he got very good care and just think of all the lovely mummy cuddles you'll get from ds1 when you're home x x

hand :( glad he's on the mend now

trudy reflux, wind and colic are often made worse by FF. See if you find something about it to show DP maybe?

Engel depends on the mourning family. My family like to celebrate (as much as one can) at funerals. DHs are all about black and being distressed.

Poor DS hand, glad to hear he is recovering though.

We have had explosive poos too! All over the bouncy chair but it cleaned up quite nicely so that's good.

Can't remember who said it but I agree about being glad when the morning arrives. Night times are quite lonely, not to mention cold and dark!

I haven't had any christmassy days yet, I just can't seem to get into the swing of it. Haven't bought any presents or cards or anything, eeeek! And it's not that far away now....

Trudy I'm a first timer and not bfing any more so no expert but i think diet makes a difference. Can you try cutting things out to see if that helps? i understand some babies can't do dairy very well andspicy things aren't good. seb was a bit collicy to start with and we found a dummy really helps. we dont want to rely on it but he loves it - what can we do?

trudy don't feel pressured into quitting, I agree with Tally try other options first. Breastmilk is always best for your baby, and it's convenient and free, some babies are just colicky, usually it's bottle-fed babies.
DD had terrible colic, we sussed that the fresh orange I was craving made it worse, when I stopped drinking it, and gave DD infacol it improved lots. She still screamed, but only for short spells, not hours! Green veg, spicy foods, caffeine and dairy can also all be triggers.
Colic usually stops when they're about 14 weeks, we took DD off infacol at 14 weeks, she screamed the house down for a day, we tried again at 16 weeks and she was fine.
Just keep repeating "This too shall pass."

The other thing that got me through the long nights was thinking about all the other Mum's all over the world who were up with their babies. It made me feel less lonely.

Scallops sorry to hear you're having a rotten time. Hope DS improves soon so you can get home DS1.

MrsP I'm the same with Christmas. I've been branded an evil Mummy by DD's teachers and the other parents as we haven't got a tree up. If I have my way it won't go up for another 2 weeks. I love Christmas and the decorations, but not for 6 weeks!

I'm expecting a rubbish weekend, DH is recovering from a cold, I feel like I'm starting with one, DD definitely has one, she's complaining of earache, and she has very gungy eyes. I'm hoping it's just the cold, but one of the kids in her class was off school with conjunctivitus. She's under strict instructions not to touch Seth's face.
She also refuses to take calpol, when it gets desperate we have to pin her down but even then she spits more out than she swallows. This evening I managed to disguise some in a strawberry milkshake with ice cream. Disguising it has never worked before, but I think she's that bunged up she couldn't tell. She might suss me out tomorrow if I'm offering her milkshakes every few hours. :o

We're supposed to be going to a 90th birthday party on Sunday. It's a great chance to introduce Seth to all DH's family. Fingers crossed we make it.

trudy i agree with the others- try looking at your diet first. eva is brillant with my diet and so far only chilli has bothered her, but the twins were a nightmare. i was on the most limited diet ever but it was worth it, as they would both scream there heads off at the same time. thats what made me realise it was diet cos they would both be bad together.
i couldnt have oats, fizzy pop, spicy foods, vinegar, and loads of other stuff that i cant remember now. you have to just do a process of elimination and keep a food diary.

hand so sorry to hear about ds. hope he fully recovers soon.

i would just take baby to the wake also engel

hope you are enjoying yourself bb3 im not jealous at all!

bilblio eva has a gungy eye. shes had it since birth on and off. got them to take a swab in hospital but nothing came back. went to the docs this week and got some drops as it just isnt going.

i remember pinning dd1 down to take her medicine too. for some reason though the twins come running for calpol, they think its a treat i think cos its full of sugar probably and they've never tasted sugar, cos im a mean mummy.

we have a 2yr old party on sunday, but its an adult do as well. not sure yet if im going to go. we'll see. enjoy your 90th party if you do go.

Ahh just discovered the mobile friendly version of mn. Good, I was getting bored of playing mahjong at 3am.

one handed bf typing, so no capitals

thanks for bf advice everyone. dp is not pressuring me to give up. i think he was just upset and wanted to help f somehow. midwife has convinced him that formula will not make it better. i've been giving him some herbal remedy before bf (f that is, not dp ) and have been taking some mixture the midwife gave me of cumin, fennel and dill (boak) myself and he seemed a litttle better last night. fingers xed. i have to keep him upright after feeds or he'll get terrible hiccups.
i will cut out all dairy next week for two weeks to see if it helps.

biblio and sassy - f has a gunky eye too. i've been advised to just wipe it with cool boiled water towards the nose.

Am very impressed by all your exercise efforts. my scar still hurts way too much. is this normal after nearly 4 weeks?

what is everyone up to at the weekend? we're gonna try and have a relaxing time with sil and her dh who are coming for a visit and will go for no doubt several trips to the christmas markets.

have a good one y'all.

Sorry ur having trouble trudyla hope it's sorted soon.

We had SIL and BIL over last night for dh's birthday. We're having a visit from my cousin and her partner today

Then tomorrow it's Xmas Market with dc and a visit from my sister. It's all go this weekend!

I've also only got 1 week till my Xmas/craft fair and I haven't made up my hampers yet I have 40 stockings and 30 hampers to make in a week now. Starting to worry I'll not get it done on time!

I've now finished Xmas shopping just the alcohol to buy for grown ups!
Decorations are up and looking great!!

Morning all

Cant remember individual posts, S had quite a gunky eye for a few wks after birth. We done the cooled boiled water to and it seems to be cleared up now. My health visitor told me a little drop of breast milk on her eye would also clear it up . Not sure I would try that mind you. She swore that it had some antibacterial ingredient!

I spend the evening wrapping Christmas presents after I put S to bed . Was great fun and the glass of wine helped even more! Just waiting on a few things coming in post but after that I'm done! I said I wasn't spending a lot of money this year as I'm on maternity leave so the income isn't great, but that went to pot!! Never mind.

Wondered if I could share story with S dad. Obv we aren't together and haven't been since way before she was born (actually found out I was pregnant the day after we split ). Anyway, things were awkward a few months before birth. Had a few rants on here about him! He did come through the night she was born, although nurses wouldn't let him into labour suite as I already had my mum with me and by time I got up to labour ward, it was midnight! Next morning was crazy as I was demanding to be let out so I could make brothers wedding . I txt him saying not to come up as I prob wouldn't be there!! He made very very little contact with me over the next few wks. Even found out a wk after she was born through the wonders of fb that he had a new girlfriend . I guess to cut a long story short, in the 9 weeks she has now been here, he has visited her 2 times!! We had an agreement that he would transfer £ into my bank each month but this has happened all of twice, and that was me on his case the 2nd time to do it!

So I've decided this month I'm not asking him for £. I'm gonna see how long it takes him to transfer it himself (if he even does)! If no effort is made to do that or come and see her before Xmas, I'm telling him to just get lost. I can manage perfectly fine on my own. She has all the family here she needs. Starting to get the impression that he isn't interested anymore or his new gf has something to say about it all. Funny that the days after he has been through to see S, all her 'I love u' comments on his fb have been deleted by him .

Anyway rant over. I guess I'm wondering am I being a bitch basically by telling him in a nicer manner to f**k off...

breastmilk in full of antibacterials and antivirals, that's why you can keep it out at room temp for 8 hours or in the fridge for a week just after expressing (compared to FF that's loads). Freezing it gets rid of that hence the shorter handling times.

DS had a gunky eye, after every feed I'll try and remember to squeeze some milk into it. Nurse said if it doesn't clear after two weeks to then see GP and that it can ages as their hands can always be in their faces. Mittens could help, DS was forever trying to pull his eye out with his fingers.

Oh Groovy how horrible, although be wary of it appearing you're bartering contact with money. The relationship board is great here in case you want to make sure you're not doing anything that made be held against you in the future. It's amazing how many 'dads' try come back years later and then stuff gets difficult. Obviously I'm not in yours shoes, my experience was having a dad like your partner. The one time CSA (or whatever it was called) did get in touch he demanded a DNA test and my mother never bothered again.

cooled boiled water use to work with jacob and isobel, but it hasnt with eva.
groovyrach ive got an exp- chloe's dad. who doesnt pay anything but sees her regulary. im of the opinion that its best to take the high moral ground. i dont need his money and as far as im aware he hasnt got any. he doesnt work and never has. but chloe is his daughter and its not for me to interfere or stop their relationship. (obviously i would if it was a harmful one). he loves her and she loves him and im not putting myself in the position of having her turn around in her teenage or adult years and blame me for her having no relationship with him.
i would say though that he needs to have a consistant relationship or none at all. even if its just one day a month. (chloe spends every other weekend at her dads) i think it is really damaging for a child to have a father who wonders in and out when the feeling takes them. perhaps you can ask him to come up with a routine contact agreement.
id also be tempted to shame him on fb though. id probably put something on his wall about him only seeing her twice. but i am an hard bitch!

I'm hiding in my bedroom while DH deals with them both

I doubled up with cooled boil water at nappy changes

anyone else been given weird clothing. Two people have brought DS summer rompers. They are really nice but it's hard for him to wear them, especially since we still don't have any long sleeved vests to put under it.

i wish i was hiding in the bedroom! im in the front room with the 3 youngest. just sent dd1 to the library cos they've been ringing and texting me about a book she has which is overdue. dp has gone with a list to do the weekly shop.
i went for a run this morning. managed to run a mile, walk a mile and then run a mile. then i walked about 1/2 a mile home. very impressed with myself! legs are seizing up now though. had to crawl upstairs for a bath-literally.

groovyrach how about a very innocent ' let me know when you want to see your daughter for the third time'
probably best not too obviously, but its nice to think about what you could put!

Sassy- yeah he was full of good intentions throughout the pregnancy but I'm on the thinking that new 'gf' is taking top priority just now. I heard from a mutual friend of ours that he had told gf about the fact his ex was having a baby and she wasn't very happy about it. Every other day there was an 'I love you xxxxxx' on his fb. I think it's to wind me up, let me know that she is number 1, not me and S... But then again I could be wrong . Funny thing, S is his double, was gonna tag a few photos so they came up on his wall for all to see!!

I would honestly never stop him seeing her, but I would rather it be a more consistent, regular thing rather than once every 5 wks! Only a few weeks ago he was asking when he could have her for the night !! Don't think so mate!! He honestly confuses me!!!

Anyway, enough ranting. My mum came and collected S a few hours ago. My best friend is getting married next year so we ate off bridesmaid dress shopping this afternoon!!! Def back to the gym next week. Congrats on ur run! Very impressive

I'd post a pic on his wall saying something like, hi daddy, here's a pic if me just in case you forgot what I look like!

I only have experience with friend oh's and consistency is key, it's important to establish a routine together so he visits every Wednesday evening and has her for half day every other w/e or whatever it is you agree on with proper notice given if those plans have to change!

Well done sassy x that's really good! I'm still in agony from density training on Thursday, my abs and arms hurt like hell!!!

groovy that is tough - no advice here I'm afraid. My only experience is with a friend who has twins and they split up before the boys were born but he's hardly ever in touch.

We had an awful day yesterday. L cried loads, wouldn't be put down, snacky feeds, short sleeps, lots of screaming etc. I ended up in tears after she had cried from 7-10pm and wouldn't feed from me. DH gave her a bottle so I could have a break and she then slept through until 7.15! So I am much happier today but worried about what this evening will bring...

BB3 how was your Christmas night out?

Who was asking about the scar? Mine didn't exactly hurt at 4wks but it did ache and sometimes throbbed a bit. Nice, huh?!

trudy not to put a downer on things, but keep on eye on what happens with changing your diet etc. my friends baby was allergic to something in her breastmilk and in most formulas (not sure what it was) and the baby had to be given special formula. it took them ages to discover what the problem was (again she tired cutting out loads of things from her diet), but once they changed on to the special formula the baby was utterly fine. she only found out when she insisted that the doctor refer them to a specialist. he is now a gorgeous toddler who is happy all the time. it is really rare so i am sure this is not the case with you, but wanted to mention it just in case.

groovy i would think trying to get something consistent sounds like a plan. good luck with it.

J's cold seems to be a little better, he has been much more alert today and not as sleepy.

v impressed with those going to the gym/running. i managed a few sit ups this morning but am a long way off a proper work out

Ladies I am at this moment drinking a very tasty beer