July 2010: the "a ffffew more birthdays, a ffffew more walking but are they all sleeping? Are they ffffeck!" one

[CakeandRoses]

cakes is it too early to test?
Im not sure, he wanted 2 I wanted 1, Ive spoken to docs due to illness, pnd, traumatic birth abouth aspects of being pg again and if its safe, we have got it in our minds that we would TTC when I turn 30 now he has backtracked saying we will decide when im 30, I dont think im willing to be in limbo about how our future looks for 18 months,I said this to him and he said so you feel that stongly about it? then went quiet. I know we are both worried we will have a terror as L is so good and he isnt sure I will cope with a second.

memphis no Ive always hated staying in, D gets bored and so do I, I have to go out even just to the shops/park. Even before D was born Id go insane with boredom at home.
Thats why DH and I clash at the weekends because I always want to go out but hes happy vegging out at home and playing his xbox which is fine because hes worked all week but I like doing things together as a family.

DH only wants 2 children and is very adamant about that, Im happy though because 2 is a good number, I wouldnt be distraught if I did want a third and he put his foot down. I dont think Id have stayed with him if he didnt want children at all ever.

tsc I know he is being sensible but if he had said months ago just L then fair enough, but he is the one who has been putting L's walkers, bouncy chair etc away for the next one, im wondering if its just because since he got back from stag do I have pushed workload onto him so I can sleep after my hellish weekend and with L's teething hes found it hard.
dh I go park, walk to see horses, shops everyday but couldnt meet friends with other kids a lot it would stress me out! DH spends all weekend with us apart from the odd morning, we do a lot as a family he wouldnt put computer on while L is here and he doesnt do vegging.ever. even on this stag do others slept til lunch he rang me before 7 both days! when I was hungover the other week he whisked L out of the house as he knew I couldnt function without sleeping it off!

do a test cake!

My washing machine door is locked and won't open. The cycle finished but the lock light stayed on. I've turned the machine off but the lock light is still on and the door won't open. I can't pull the machine out to unplug it at the wall on my own, and DH isn't home till late tonight. It occurs to me I could turn the power off for the whole flat - is it worth it? Maybe. I need to do more washing anyway!

woodlands try keeping it turned off for an hour or so to see if light goes, or put the brand and the fault into google and one of those help furums may pop up.

mlic this is what worries me, Im one of 3 (not including half siblings) I hated it I was so lonely as they were close in age and I was the kid they didnt want to be seen with so I grew up like an only child, our friend had only had one and he is 8, he looks so sad and lonely and begs his mum to play with him, it breaks her heart but the decision was taken from her. DH's family all have 2, he was one of 2. I think he will want another one but and its a big but I think im willing to leave him over it, I resent him already that he could take a decision from me like that

Hmm, turning the power off for 5 minutes didn't fix it. Have tried googling but not got very far, I found a video showing you how to tilt the machine and put your hand up inside but not sure I fancy doing that!

cake Do a test!
The doctfor said that there is nothing physically wrong with M, and she's given her some more ffairydust homoeopathic medicine yesterday. I will just have to wait and see if it helps.ffff So far all it seems to have done is made it worse, but there you go. Like I said, I don't think there is a proper solution to this, so I'd better shut up.

mlic Interesting what your doctor said. I'm not sure I agree though in that our babies pick up all the stress from us. I feel like my anxiety is a reaction to M's anger and screaming not the other way round. The first six months I was very relaxed and easy going cos M was such a calm baby. I also do start every dfay, hoping for better things and not thinking Arrrrgh,f it's gonna be shit again, so I'm not sure what she would pick up on... Oh well, I don't know.

memph That's a very tough question. I have always felt very, very strongly about not wanting an only child and also a short age gap. Like mlic I felt very lonely during my childhood cos my sister is 8 years older than me and I always desperately wanted someone to play with or share things with. Fortunately my DP feels exactly the same so I never had to ponder over stufff like that. I don't envy you ffor it. However, after a tough few days, your DP may have just overreacted and will feel differently in a few days/weeks/months...

woodlands I just remembered something you said a while ago, about the babies on this thread being extra adfvanced. I completely agree. In real life M seems normal, on here she is last with everything. She is not walking yet either, but has started to stand without holding on to anything and pushing her walker around. I don't mind her taking her time though. Like tsc's F she is just a tinynewborn still

dh I also admire your get up and go attitude. I could happily (and hafve done in the pastff) stay inside for days on end. I don't miss the big, bad outside world at all and only go out cos I know it's good ffor M.

Have a good day all.

tsc ooh what were you saying? what thread was it?
wish L didnt walk at times, its costing me a bomb in his clown shoes, especially when the fucking dog eats the straps off them, or at CenterParcs tring to run into lake to play with ducks! I was deluded thinking babies didnt walk til a lot later, my half sister didnt walk til 2!

Ah Ive found thread... video of walking going on fb! afraid i dont have video footage of talking! but his new 'word' is 'mack' as he smacks me! he has got this from me smacking the dog, he has been very naughty since returning from the kennel!

what thread is it? stop with all the secret stuff, I have no idea how to find which one it is

cake test, test, test

Ok, I found it. I heard a new word today too, 'upstairs' which he shouted very enthusiastically as he skipped up the stairs two at a time whilst tying his shoelaces and sewing a button on his trousers. Honestly though, L didn't walk til 13 months and didn't say a word til some time around 15 months so this is all new to me. I have two friends though whose little girls walked at 9 months so I always thought L was incredibly slow...now I realise she's normal!

Im surprised L babbles and says any words no one else can get a word in when im about Someone called me a liar at centerparcs as L was walking and she asked old he was I said 13 months and she accused me of lying as children do not walk that early!

I'm not late - I just got really confused about my dates and thought I was 'safe' when actually ovulating. What a bloody twit. I'm really worried as I fell v easily with other two and got symptoms within a week of conceiving. I'm feeling quite crappy but hopefully it's just a mix of hayfever and a cold making me tired.

meant to add - i'm actually due next week, i think. i'm all confused again actually

can E go on his own now or are there stairgates etc in the way of him and the loo? we've only just taught F to do it on his own (as nursery prompted us as he was the only one who stood there waiting to be helped ) and it does make life easier if messier at times

scuse the tmi but if i do this 'aloud' and write it down then it might be helpful when i go thru this again next month i hope

• recorded a period in my calendar as 6th june
• then i panicked i was pg and posted on here that i'd just come on on the 4th July (28 day cycle) - thank god for the mn search facility!
• i remember being on my period when MIL was here on weekend of 30-31 july but i actually came on before that. it was one day when dh was off as we were about to cosy up and i came on! so the only day that could have been was the wed which he'd taken off for A's bday but that would make it a 23 day cycle
• so i'm due on the 24th (if 28 day cycle but fuck knows really given the vagueness of last month)

and we did the deed one day last week which would have been right in the middle of my cycle

i'm so confused and worried

i'm now thinking it might have been sunday the 7th that we did it which would be safer, i guess but not if it was another silly short cycle

cake I hope it all turns out to be whatever you want it to be.

L hasn't napped for the second day in a row, I really, really need one today and was zoning out on the bed while she hammered on her door/wandered around talking about weeing/begged for cocoa milk. I've given up and come downstairs with her so she doesn't wake S but she's doing my head in. I just wanted an hour's peace...
L goes to the loo on her own but she struggles with her pants so often ends up with them all rolled up. She was doing stairs on her own at around 15 months, I hate gates so try and get rid of them as soon as possible. S is fine going up but tends to stop halfway down and turn around to smile at me so I can't trust him yet!

We have 8 teeth too I'm pleased he cuts more than one at a time, should mean for less disruption at night.

mlic I get bored doing the same thing but as long as there's something different on tv that counts right?