July 2010: Warning, this thread contains offensive language; 1 wedding, --d--jogging and some Creme Eggs (although we don't know why). Oh and some babies who are nearly 1 year old.

[CakeandRoses]

See? Panicking works!

memphis dh is right if your not up for the volunteer you can cancel. Are you just nervous about meeting her?

violet I have an appointment tomorrow . What about friday?

viks are you ok? R has been sleeping 10pm to 6am. My night off was great caught up with friends who's wedding we went to. How was brum?

wss poor g don't blame you for letting her sleep it out. She must be knackered. Is that bf stopped altogether?

Thanks melissa she keeps rubbing her ear but has no other symptoms, hv is coming tomorrow so will get her to look.

How's everyone today? My exciting day consists of taking the dog for a haircut and going food shopping. Back at the docs regarding the panic attacks today too.

cake I've had to banish L since S was about 6 months. The only place S will feed is in his room with the curtains closed. That's really the only reason they're not sharing a room yet, he won't feed if there's anyone else around

needle sounds like a really awful start to the day the best we can do on here! I hope the day picks up for you and you end up having a really good day!

memphis it's worth meeting her, you can always back out later but worth giving it a go. She'll probably be absolutely lovely and you'll be so glad you went through with it!

tsc I think it'd be rude not to invite us really, just think how useful we could be at entertaining mil unfriendly people so you can enjoy the day

viks no advice from me I'm afraid, S still wakes up at the arse-crack of dawn. My latest attempts involve a dreamfeed around 10 and then not feeding him again til morning. This morning he was awake for an hour between 3 and 4 shouting/singing and eventually screaming when he realised I wasn't going to feed him. He only cried for 10 mins but it was the ages of wittering before that which meant we didn't sleep!

mlic thought you might like this lunch thing I've been doing. On the Monday morning I roast some veg like butternut squash and aubergine in olive oil and then when cool put it in the fridge still in any excess oil to help it keep. We then have some for lunch most days but mix it up with different stuff - eg yesterday A and I had flatbread with the veg, olives and humous, on Monday we all had it stirfried with rice, garlic and lentils, we've previously had it with pasta with pesto or cheese and butter too. The veg lasts a while like this so you don't have to have it every day.

Spoken to me since.

{{Hugs}} needles he is being very unfair to you. Hope you get this resolved and you can go to the festival.

needle it all sounds a bit melodramatic just for not inviting him to something he wouldn't enjoy anyway

Sounds odd needle. Did you say ' feel free to come if you want to' ?

needle that does sound unfair and as if he doesn't trust you. Is he quite a jealous person?

stac yep, bfing definitlely over, she's eating constantly (well, not so much at mo because of her cold, but normally), must be making up for lack of bfs.

chul A was a bit funny about poos for a while, got a bit distressed when they were coming out. I tried to just stay calm and not make a big deal out of it. She got upset if I tried to put her on the potty or toilet so I just offered her the option of putting a nappy on to do it in - some people would say that's going backwards but I didn't think it was worth her getting upset. I kept offering bribery (double what she got for a wee [-grin]) and she got it eventually.

I didn't get anyone presents except my friend who hooked us up with the venue, our friend who provided all the meat and bread (for free ), our friend who organised all the food and bracelets for the bridesmaids. Serious money gets spent on these doos!
We had S baptised at my parents' house a couple of months ago but we don't believe in all the 'it has to be done by an ordained priest with holy water while the baby's wearing some silly lacy gown' - I can't see where it says it has to be like that in the bible. I think a big party is lovely if you want to but these people who think that's the only way to do it are misguided imo.

tsc are you going to try again to keep him in his own bed? he sounds a right little bed cage fighter!

cake I do a similar thing with stewed fruit. I stew it one day and then mix it up with different things for a few days.

I'm cross-posting like a fricker today!

Bribery doesn't work :( I only wish it did but I think I must spoil her too much , there's seriously nothing I can bribe her with. I offer to put a nappy on too but so far she's holding it til bedtime and doing it then. Might just take a bit longer.

I'm off to town to try and find something sexy to wear for the meal out [unlikely emoticon]

I've told him repeatedly that of course I want him to come, but he won't give me the benefit of the doubt. It's like he'd rather believe the worst of me than accept that I was trying to be considerate. He just refused to accept that my reasons weren't selfish

Ouch tsc how does it look today?

great idea re fruit chul i'll start doing that too!

needle is he usually controlling? or is it all the pressure of the opening getting to him? Lack of trust is an awful thing, especially when it's so undeserved! I hope he gets some fresh air and realises he's being a prize peanut!

Is he normally like that needle? Seems like a harsh reaction for an activity he wouldn't enjoy.

Ouch tsc I still remember that pain from J. Was her very restless? How's the family squabble? Did you resolve the food issue?

chulita have you tried reward charts? Or fancy stickers?

cakes that is a good idea, must save loads of time. Did you have a good night?

wss how's her sleeping been since the cold? R always tends to get right out of her routine. But think anything would throw her lol

Sorry needle, I meant jealous but was yelling asking L to put the xbox controller down at the same time so ended up typing controlling.

Stickers aren't her thing stac which is good cos I love them and don't particularly like sharing them

Stac That's a shame. Was looking forward to seeing Rileigh again. I go back to work on Friday morning :( Dreading it! Every time Iris looks up at me with big innocent eyes I feel soooooo guilty that I'll be leaving her with strangers for 7 hours, 5 days a week!

I just wish he didn't always think the worst of me. It was never to do with not wanting him there, I just assumed he wouldn't want to go. He's acting so hurt and says that my reaction was completely over the top, and how would I feel if he said he was taking g away for the weekend without me, which is an unfair point because i've never had a problem with seeing his family and stuff. I probably shouldn't have just gone to bed last night without sorting it out, but i'm so tired of these silly arguments and then having to cajole him into making up.

Sorry needle don't know what to say as I don't know you better. Does sound like an overreaction to me on his part.

tsc ds got me on the chin last night. Why he can't just lie there sweetly like a baby off the telly I don't know, he's either repeatedly scratching me (elbow is a favourite) or trying to crawling away in his sleeping bag.

No-one has any ideas how I can keep my fridge contents safe then?

What would happen if you left him to do the making up?

albrecht, what about attaching a bungee rope all the way around the fridge. High up where he can't reach?!

As for dh, I have no idea. I feel hopeless today.

I'm back at work full time, violet. I felt like that too before M started at nursery! Does your nursery do lead-in sessions? I found leaving M for slowly increasing times for a few days helped us both get used to it at the start.

Though I've been lucky in that M has always been chilled out and independant, so was never worried by being left anywhere else with anyone else. She seems to adore nursery, grinning as we leave her there, which makes handing her over a lot easier. (Though does make me feel a little unloved!)

What's your fridge like that it won't fit the normal locks, Albrecht? Would something like this not work?