Sept 2005 (thread three) - Our little darlings just get cuter!

[KiwiKate]

Here we go - New Thread

Am going to go and see my friend (and her 7 month old DD). Thank you mummyhill for inspiring me to get off my bottom

Lovemygirls have a big hug off me {{{{{hug}}}}} .

Picadilly - any time honey.

Must go David is calling

Oh petals

It's not a good day all round. Yes lets all get out of the house and do stuff - forget men, cuddle babies and eat cake.

LoveMyGirls There is nothing wrong with carrying a little extra weight - I felt the same as it was my birthday on Monday and last year I looked slim - and this year I do not! However last year I cryed alot because my period started on my birthday - I was 2 days late and was very upset I was not pregnanat - so it's a fair trade - great baby - big bum and tum!!! I'm going to lose the weight in the new year - and concentrate on dd, ds a fun Christmas and not punishing my self in the meantime. Its too tough dieting when exhusted from lack of sleep, kids, hormones etc.... take care all xxxxxxxxxxxxx

THOUGHTs FOR THE DAY

Quotes from 1000 Reasons You're the Perfect Mum by Michael Powell

1. Your vunerable side does not prevent you from acting with confidence and strength.

2)Every morning, you get up with determination

3)You're HAPPIER than MOST people because you made up your MIND to be so.

I am sure I can find a few each day to amuse/lift and possibly entertain us all

awwww thanks i think im going to have a sleep this afternoon and maybe i will feel a bit better as i dont think the tiredness helps!
My goal is to be thinner by summer at least by then i aim to be back in my pre pg jeans! have cleared out under the stairs as having a clearout sometimes makes me feel better though this time i ony felt a little bit better hummmm theres a lot going on, my mind is in overdrive so much to plan and do and im far too shattered to do anything much iykwim (and i know you all do!) im planning on becoming a childminder by march and it takes 3 months to register i wanted to send out my application form by last friday but i filled in the form and found out you need to send two references with it so im waiting for two of my friends to write them for me also have to get my health declaration back from the doctors - at least im heading in the right direction i guess

what are all planning to do - going back to work or staying at home?

Phew - I am so glad that last week is over. Arranging DD's birthday party took up a lot of my time. Whenever I complained to DH his response was 'don't do it' But, I enjoyed doing it.... just wish I'd had the time to organise it in a leisurely manner rather than rushing here, there and everywhere to buy what I needed.

Oh and to top it all off, DH went out the night before and had a raging hangover during the party. He had all the enthusiasm of a wet fish! I don't begrudge him going out as he doesn't very often and it was a works thing but I still think he could have drunk less.

My moods are very up and down. I think I'll truly be able to assess them after Christmas. It's a hectic time of year isn't it?

I still haven't made much effort to meet people in our new village. I go to the baby clinic when dd is at Pre-school and chat to one or two new mums. I was going to a toddlers group with both girls on a Monday morning but have decided to stop going.

It's not that close (a car journey away) and a bit hectic to get everyone ready. Then there's nowhere to put Alice down when I'm there. There's a few really rough children there too and dd wasn't having a good time so I have decided the time could be better spent. Sometimes we go back into the city and visit with my old NCT group but even that we're growing out of as dd1 is one girl amongst 5/6 boys and at age 3 they're aware of these differences and dd1 doesn't get such a look in these days.

I always feel a bit sad when I pick dd1 up from Pre-school because other mums seem to know each other and I know no-one. What a saddo I am!

I am determined to go to the local toddler group tomorrow, even though I won't have a toddler in tow.

I do have friends and family within the vicinity so I am not lonely but I think I had such a good time (out 4 times per week at various groups) and made good friends when dd1 was a baby that I am looking to replicate that.

Sorry to go on about me.

I have mentioned before that I write on a private message board made up of mainly Canadians and Americans. They all have children dd1's age. One of the women had a nother baby a week ago and only after she was born was it discovered the baby has a chromosomal disorder. The results came back on Monday that it's Trisomy 18 (not compatable with life) and they removed her life support yesterday and she died. Very sad, even though I have never met the woman it has happened to.

I'm thinking of manipulating Alice's routine this week. We really neeed some of our evenings back. She is getting worse not better! Sometimes she's not settling down to her nighttime sleep until after 11pm! YAWN! My plan is to put her down upsatirs (without us staying in the room) somewhere between a0 and 11pm and then bring it forward 15 minutes every night. Any chance that will work?

Not enough time to read thouroughly... but big {{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you girls with DH problems and LMG - my bum has independent movement from the rest of me!!! That's just wierd don't you think?
We'll all get our figures back I'm sure - Mummyhill's already done it (you go girl)

Best wishes to all - I'll make more sense later when I'm not so rushed!

xxxxxxxx to all

Beatie - you can but try

Cabe - See you Friday. The only reason I have lost the weight is having the correct thyroxine levels for the first time in 12 years plua all the walking I have to do to get dd to and from school plus the fact that I never seem to have time to eat properly. That said I am off to go eat luch whils david is asleep and dd is at nursery.

arghh what terrible typos someone shoot me

cabe & mummyhill enjoy your meetup.
I'm off to collect dd3 from a play afternoon at her friends house. Cold here so got dd3 & myself some strong winter walking boots. No pavements in my road & at dd3 pre-school a very narrow one so will be putting them to good use. ds4 all cosy in his babysling - looks sweet in his knitted trousers!!

oht!

just about to read properly now

Ok! have both hands free now
Conrad's feeling better after the jabs and slept for over 12 hours last night! What a clever little man! he woke all smiles and has been smiley for daddy all day

I've had a lovely day - last but one day of term and I actually understood the 'nasty' Theoretical lecture [I'd put another smiley here but I think you'd get totally fed up with them!}
DP then took us out to a late lunch - so nice not to have to organise the menu (even though the Noop cooks for me sometimes) [more smiles]

Noop's out at the school disco tonight and I'd have found it difficult to keep to Conrad's sleep times if a friend hadn't offered to mind him whilst I go and pick her up at 9pm so that's fallen into place nicely...

Oh just generally a nice day... Sorry if this is a bit smug, it's not meant to be.

Mummyhill - definitely still on for Friday, really looking forward to it. Thanks Milward, It's lovely to find someone on the thread is not far away.

Beatie - maybe try just going in at the deep end... I did this with Conrad and he slept 7pm - 7pm on the first night I tried it (feel another smiley on the way)
I just made sure his cot was pre-warmed with a hot water bottle and it took about three returns to the bed for him to settle
Conrad didn't go to his cot until after 11pm either, I just didn't realise he would sleep all on his own and for so long - I thought I'd pay for it at the other end of the night and he'd wake really really early - but he rarely wakes before 7am and even later some days.

I'm not saying you should do this - just passing on another option

Oh sorry this is such a long post.. I'm rambling now and there was so much more I wanted to say!

Knowing how close I feel to all of you on this thread, I'm not at all surprised you found yourself affected by your friend from afar's loss, It really emphasises how very precious our little darlings are. The loss of a babe can never be forgotten, I just hope your friend can grieve through her loss and come out positive on the other side - I've seen my sister cope with losing her darling little one at 16months and find her totally inspirational in the way she's found peace with her loss.

oh I'd better go!

Knitted trews sound utterly charming btw

Hi everyone, first of all i would like to give beatie a huge cyber hug, it must be so difficult hearing your friends news, even if you never did meet. i remember how upset i was on our ante natl thread when i heard virtual fairys news, i cried for days

cabe, thanks for the advice re:- mia's coat, it would probably cost me more to buy all the stuff than to buy the coat again, it was only £7.99 from next and was getting a little small anyway.
Mia has her 6-8 week check and jabs tomorrow, about time really as she's 12 and half weeks old ffs, she apparently slipped through the net AGAIN!!!!!! just like when i was pg!!! sorry rant over, only 25 sleeps now until xmas, and all my pressies are wrapped woo hoo, glad you enjoyed your break rh xxx

Cabe ~ I didn't know that about your sister's child. How awful. Yes, it makes me hug my little girls a bit tighter, hearing of my virtual friend's loss.

I welcome your opinion on the sleep issue. I may have a stab at putting her down at 7pm tomorrow - if it doesn't work then I have a plan B. Thanks.

Hello all!

Cheered up by sorting some Christmas shopping! - bubbles can't beleive you are all done and wrapped!

Tragic to lose a child. Can't begin to imagine. I always find it amazing how much I love my children, the thought of them not being here or me not with them - ops welling up - you all know what I mean xxxx

Pooka - It is true that Max is a great nighttime sleeper so he is missing out on a lot of time to feed.

Mummyhill - Sorry about dh's attitude. Men are stupid sometimes. A different breed altogether, I think. Thanks for the inspirational quotes. What a great idea.

As far as pre-preg size and weight gain goes I feel pretty lucky. I was back in my jeans a few days after delivery. Want to punch me in the face? Hold on... My pre-pregnancy size is probably at least 40lbs bigger than most of you. I guess it is common for those who start pregnancy overweight not to put much on. In fact, I weigh 12 lbs less now than I did before I got preg. But still, my body is nothing to be proud of

Beatie - Big hugs to you and your friend. That is so sad. Good luck with Alice's sleep tonight. I think our babes are more flexible than we think.

Bubbles - You already have your pressies wrapped? I am very impressed. We are just about done with the shopping but I haven't even thought about wrapping yet. Yuck.

Lovemygirls - I plan to start work again in March or April. I freelance so I can just start up again when I feel like it. The flexibility of freelancing is a good thing, the bad thing is that I haven't had any maternity leave pay so we have been living on dh's salary alone.

I hope you are all sleeping soundly right now. It is lunch time for me and I am starving.

Oh Cabe - your poor sister Unimaginable.
Been to GP today as have developed exzema since having Tom - stress/hormone relate. I wake up SCRATCHING So steroid cream for me. At least it's still free for a while as is my dental appointment next week. The perk of pregnancy/birth I suppose.
Found out today that one friend had her first scan and was diagnosed with a missed miscarriage. Feel very sad for her (don't know her that well but am good friends via dh with her df). Seems scarily common as many friends have had the same happen to them recently. Another friend found out today that she's having her second boy in April - so far not one of my friends has had a girl, though everyone in my post-natal group (bar the friend above) had a girl first time round. Bizarre.
Anyway - that's it. Off for a bath then bed. MIL has dd tomorrow am so aim to have a relaxing morning cooing over Tom.q

So am I traeling through the book each morning for inspirational/amusing quotes on motherhood? Todays were from the chapter entitled mother you are unique. Other chapters are What is motherhood, love, guidance, trust, acceptance, communication, everything you give. So if you want a quote for a particular mood let me know.

Pooka I only had a RL antenatal group first time round and out of 9 only 1 was a boy I have kept in touch with a couple of the 'girls' one of them has gone on to have two boys and the other is still swearing never again

Cabe use as many smilies as you want honey we can allways ignore them if we get fed up. It's part of your on line style don't cut it short.

See I'm as bad as you some days!!!!!

thanks Mummyhill

And your kind words Beatie xx

Night night

...and Pooka xx

Cabe - Noticed an error in the number I sent you. The last three digits are 102 not 120 sorry can only think that the kids distracted me at a crucial moment!!!!

Unveiling of my Christmas name now it is actually December .

Thought for the day

You improvise withconfidence and imagination.

You help me see the fun in trying to do the impossible.

You have six pairs of hands and three pairs of eyes

Mum you are unique!!!!

I took dd2 (and Alice in baby bjorn) to Parent and Toddler gym yesterday and we really enjoyed it. Today I'm going to brave the toddler group with just Alice. Wish me luck!

BTw ~ I have a dilemma. DD1's Pre-school Christmas concert is soon and the Pre-school don't allow you to bring siblings along. All my friends work on Tuesdays as do my family. I'm stuck with what to do with Alice. It breaks my heart not to be able to go along. Past experience leads me to believe that DD1 will do nothing but stand there and stare like a scared rabbit, out into the audience, but that's not the point. I don't want her to feel left out because all the other mummies are there and I am not. DH can't go either as he's a teacher and that is his last day of term

I asked DH to ring his parents and ask them to come down for the night (they're 90 mins drive away). He did.... but stupid, stupid DH just asked them if they wanted to come and stay. He did not give the reason. They said no. Which of course they would as they'll be coming to stay with us for Christmas just 11 days later!!!

I wasn't entirely sure they'd put themselves out even if they knew the reason but it would be nice to know for sure. They're not renound/renowned (sp?) for doing favours unless the idea is theirs and they offer. But, they are so charmed by little Alice, I thought they might want to if they knew the reason was to look after her.

So, WWYD? I can ask DH to ring inlaws again and tell them the reason. I think they may still say no, or else will say yes and make a big neagative song and dance about it. I can ring them and they'll more probably say yes, but only because they'll feel like they can't say no to me.

I want DH's parents to do it, but I want them to want to do it and I guess if I ring and ask I'll never know.

OR

I can try and find a local childminder who offers occasional care and leave my baby Alice with a stranger (be it a qualified one)

Hugs beatie. Must confess i haven't asked about taking david to see dds christmas play, he is going and thats final!