Totally's PostGrads- you know who you are II

[clareanna]

Totally's original thread was for TTC after MC. It continued long after Totally herself graduated, and is still going strong. Totally's grads was set up as a thread for pregnancy post MC - i.e. anyone who graduated from Totally's thread and anyone else who had experienced MC and was now pregnant. It, too, is still going strong.

Now, more and more of us have graduated from Totally's grads - including LouiseSH, whose Georgie was born asleep. I suppose that makes us postgrads. We have travelled together for a long time and would like to stay in touch, but the pregnancy post MC thread is starting to get very big, and I think it should be allowed to keep its focus on pregnancy post MC. May it be as wonderful a place for support for current "members" as it was for us.

So this thread is a place for us to keep in touch, share experiences, and provide support.

Hello all can I join? My beautiful little girl was born on Friday night! It's lovely to see so many familiar names in here!

Hi pink, welcome and congratulations! Wow, it's been a while since new people arrived :) My little boy is already 13 months old... time flies!

I suppose you've noticed that things are quiet here these days - I think everyone is chatting away on Facebook. I'll be joining them there too once I get around to it, I think. But if you post here, people are bound to notice (eventually) and come back - fire away if you need support with anything, we've all been there...

How are you AngelGeorgieLouise? I hope everything is going well. Not long now. I've been thinking of you a lot recently!

Hi all. I m plodding on. Work has been very busy , which is good. Just been away for a spa break , which was fab and now I m on AL for a week. Back at work Monday then start my Mat leave on 7 th October.Dreading finishing work as , although, it ll be nice to rest my cankles and chill out it has been the constant in my life since Georgie. It's feels so unreal to be leaving once again when i ve just got used to being there.
I m finding I m quite emotional at times at the moment with Georgie's birthday fast approaching. Some of the old hurt and pain is re- surfacing , the bitterness of " why did it have to be our Georgie that died?" & " the unfairness of all she's missing out on"
Then as all my thoughts are taken up with Georgie & Scottie ( our beloved cat) I feel guilty towards GILS. It's incredibly hard.
GILS is fine. At my last scan 2 weeks ago they said she was measuring about 6lbs already!!!! 3 weeks today the section. Can t come quick enough now Ant is scared to death, my family are all holding their breath. It's a very scary time .
Nice to see everyone is doing well hi to all especially Meita . congrats Pink xxx

Oh Louise it must be such a mix of emotions for you at the moment, I can't imagince how hard it is. Hopefully you will find a way to celebrate and remember Georgie whilst being excited about GILS too. I know it won't feel like it to you but it really has come round so quickly, I can't believe it is only 3 weeks away. Will be keeping everything crossed for you.

Things here are good, just starting to think about going back to owork which is starting to loom. I'm not looking forward to it at all, which is a surprise, I thought (back in the day) that I would be desperate to get back.

Congratulations Pink, hope you are enjoying newborn snuggles!

Thanks Too things sound like they re going well. Xxx

I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now angelgeorgie. So many emotions plus those late pregnancy hormones. I hope these last few weeks go smoothly and soon you'll be cuddling Georgie's little sister.

I'll be thinking of you Louise, Georgie-big-foot and GILS in the next two weeks. I'll light a candle on the 10th. Hoping for good news on the 17th!

Thanks Meita xxx section date now the 18th. Very, very emotional at the moment with the 10 th coming up. Our darling GBF xxxx
Hope everyone is well? Finish for mat leave tomorrow. Scary again xxx

Have a good last day at work Angel, hope that you can find strenth for the next two weeks.

Hope you're being properly seen off by work today Louise. This maternity leave is going to be SO different than last one.

It's ok to be emotional! Do you have any plans for the coming two weeks?

Thanks guys. Xxx had a lovely understated quiet last day. Fish & chips for lunch, followed by cake. I only cried once , so done ok.
For the next week I m quite busy: Georgie's birthday Monday, nothing Tuesday,, scan& appt Wednesday, nothing Thursday , hospital appr Friday. My sister is coming up on the day before the section.
Hope you re both ok? Xxxx
Thanks for your kind wishes xxx

Dear Georgie Bigfoot

It was exactly a year ago that you were born. But you were too precious for this world and never drew breath. Your mummy and daddy got to hold you and cherish you, but then they had to let you go - they never got to see you gaze into their eyes, nor your first smile, nor to see you grow up. They are very sad and they miss you very much.

But though you never walked this world, you are still a little hero. Your birth and death did a lot of good - people from around the country donated to help prevent such tragedy happen to other people, and to help grieving parents by providing a remembrance book. You are a star!

Even though you didn't get to live a life, your birth - like any birth - was a little miracle, and it turned Louise and Ant into mum and dad. They love you so much. You made them into parents, though they have no baby to hold.

Soon now, your ickle little sister will be born. She will be a little miracle too, and your parents will love her and cherish her. But never worry, she won't replace you - you will always have a special place in your parents' hearts. If it is not too much to ask, would you mind looking out for her? You could be her guardian angel.

On this day, more people than you would guess are sparing a little moment and thinking of you. Happy Birthday, Georgie!

Meita that is beautiful, you are right... we are thinking of you Louise and your beautiful Georgie.

Louise I can't imagine how hard today must be for you or what a mixture of emotions you must be feeling right now. I am thinking of you, your husband, GILS and most of all Georgie.
And I can't wait to see the words announcing GILS arrival- not long now xxx

Meita what a beautiful post.
Thinking of you all Louise and sending so much love and strength to you and the upcoming joy and excitement of kikkle GILS arrival.

Happy Birthday Georgie. Xxxx

Meita has said it so beautifully, words from the heart.
Sending you much love today AngelGeorgie and all your family.

Happy birthday Georgie xxx

I am in tears at Meita's post. I can't imagine how hard today must be for you AngelGeorgie, you have got through this first year though and survived. And soon Georgie's sister will be born and your family of 3 will be a family of 4 and a whole new chapter begins.

Wishing you lots of love and strength today. We're with you. xx

Happy Birthday Georgie Remembering a very precious little girl.
Sending you love and light Louise, we're all thinking of you today and of GILS and we're looking forward to hearing your news soon x

Lovely message Meita. Louise, I'm thinking of you and your DH today, remembering Georgie and wishing you love and strength. Can't wait to hear the news about GILS :-) xx

Big birthday wishes Georgie BigFoot and lots of love to your mummy and daddy. When i look at the stars tonite i will be thinking of you. Xxxxxx

Oh meita, your post made me cry.
Louise - hope you've had a lovely day today remembering the gorgeous Georgie. I too will be looking to the stars tonight, as I know she'll be shining brightly. Can't wait to hear your news about GILS. Big kiss xxxx

Oh god. Thanks a million . All your messages are so lovely and touching. Meita your post is truely beautiful . We have had quite a nice day , considering. Loads of lovely texts & messages , flowers etc... Out for lunch then we went to Georgie's special place ( a lovely lake not far from us) & laid some roses and a pot plant for her. It was really quiet & sedate.The weekend was very hard going
though , as all the bad memories kept flooding back even though I tried to block
It all out. However, today has been quiet, chilled, relaxed & more of a celebration
of our gorgeous Georgie big foot.

Thanks very much all of you for remembering & caring.
GILS is fine xxxxxxxxx

Ladies - (name change - I was HappyGirl!) I have been looking and looking for you ladies and I haven't found this thread any time and so I gave up but it seems ye are here all along, I'm so annoyed now that I must have been having a very ditsy / tired mum moment to have missed this thread. I've even been saying to DH how I missed chatting to you all!

AngelGeorgie I wasn't sure of what date it was (what with not being onthis thread in a while), but I actually thought it was last week and lit a candle for your special special precious baby. I'm sending you every single possible positive vibe and I'm so so so looking forward to hearing your good news from the section. Tons of best wishes.

I've actually just had a BFP today ladies, having had another MC at 8 weeks a month ago so it's been v v tough and to be honest I'm in utter shock that i got the bfp today. Now somehow got to wait and hope and pray it goes okay this time round.

Anyhow I'm just so so pleased to have found you all! Lovely to see such familar names (sorry i just changed my name after this most recent MC as didn't feel super happy)

Hey Smileygirl congrats & thanks xx

Wow smiley lovely to hear from you. What news- the last few months must have been so tough for you, I'm sorry you couldn't find us for support through it- glad you've tracked us down now though xx

angelgeorgie hang in there- not long now, you've been amazingly brave xxx