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clareanna · 24/05/2011 09:05

Totally's original thread was for TTC after MC. It continued long after Totally herself graduated, and is still going strong. Totally's grads was set up as a thread for pregnancy post MC - i.e. anyone who graduated from Totally's thread and anyone else who had experienced MC and was now pregnant. It, too, is still going strong.

Now, more and more of us have graduated from Totally's grads - including LouiseSH, whose Georgie was born asleep. I suppose that makes us postgrads. We have travelled together for a long time and would like to stay in touch, but the pregnancy post MC thread is starting to get very big, and I think it should be allowed to keep its focus on pregnancy post MC. May it be as wonderful a place for support for current "members" as it was for us.

So this thread is a place for us to keep in touch, share experiences, and provide support.

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clareanna · 25/06/2011 15:17

Hello how is everyone? stuffed what sad sad news- I hope your friend has lots of support around her Sad

We have had a lovely week away with the in laws and sil's family, am now back frantically making quiche for T's christening tomorrow. 30 to cater for at lunch and 11 other family members descending, so have to entertain all weekend. T is now getting interested when we're eating so won't be long now before we start pebbledashing the Walls with baby rice!!

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Loopymumsy · 26/06/2011 21:45

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AngelGeorgie · 27/06/2011 17:42

Hi loopy. and all SANDS service very hard going but touching. Lots of people there and thd SANDS garden I'd beautiful , truly lovely. X

SpringFlowers · 27/06/2011 20:19

Too hot, too hot, too hot...!

clareanna · 29/06/2011 08:15

Anybody there??!!!
Quick poll- what age did you start weaning at??
T is 20 weeks old tomorrow so I'm starting to think about it. Am also feeling quite sad too because if he's my last baby (jury still out) then it's all going too quickly!

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HappyGirl1 · 29/06/2011 13:38

Hi All,

We have been away in Ireland for over a week and just back now. We had such a lovely lovely time. Baby C is just great.

To be honest I had a bit of a meltdown before we left, I just felt so horrendously guilty for not being able to help C sleep during the day and I just felt so so bad. DH was really worried about me but thankfully I'm fine, I think just a holiday away was what was needed and since we got home C is sleeping much better through the day so I'm feeling less guilty now. I just love her so so much. SHe is such a cutie, loves playing with her toys and just wants to be sitting up all the time.

How is everyone here?

AngelGeorgie how are you and baby?

Hope all are well.

Meita · 29/06/2011 13:50

ClareA: I. started grabbing food from me from about 21 weeks, from 5 to 6 months he got one 'proper' meal per day, and from roughly 6 months onwards we have been doing mostly BLW. First with 2 meals/day (lunch and dinner) and then from about 7 months upgrading to 3/day (breakfast), from about 8.5m introducing non-milk snacks between meals. Not planned, just how it worked out.

I know what you mean about it all going so quickly! I. is 10 months old now, and a real joy (ignoring the fact that he just won't sleep through ) but I do miss my baby-I. already!
Two from my NCT group are expecting their second... seeing their bumps makes me all broody. But no, no, no. Not until I've finished that PhD (if then). It's exhausting enough as is, I just couldn't do with being pregnant now too!

AngelGeorgie · 29/06/2011 22:16

Hi all I fine ta happygirl had a sad week , though, as one of my beloved cats had to be put to sleep as had taken anti- freeze resulting in severe renal failure. Scottie was 11 years old we had him since he was 12 weeks old and so loving. It bought everything flooding back all the crappy feelings of despair, loss of hope, upset etc etc.... Talking about cremations and caskets again. I had hoped we had done with all that talk for many years and again, felt like we' d been whacked in the face with a sledgehammer as everything changed so quick. Xxx

sparklyrainbow · 29/06/2011 22:33

Hi everyone, glad to see some lovely updates and lots more babies... this thread cropped up in 'active' so I thought I'd pop in- lovely news Lou/Angel Georgie, so pleased for you :) Sorry about Scottie x

6 months yesterday here, A now on 3 BLW meals a day (refused purees but grabbed proper food from us- Clare we started at 5 months giving tiny bits of fruit/veg and faffed about, at 24 weeks I decided sod it and went for everything as he could sit up by then), two teeth, sitting up for ages (like 15 mins without falling over), almost crawling and trying to pull himself up on everything. He even manages to sleep through some nights! Meita, I'm with you on the little baby going already.

I'm still not right though can't face getting anyone to check (3rd deg tear and epis for forceps), I get very panicky just thinking about someone coming near me in that area :( No idea when I'll get over it, if ever? Also still get flashbacks. Thought I'd got over things but another couple of months down the line it doesn't seem much better.

Anyway, hope everyone else and little ones are good, will try to pop back for some more updates and to see if anyone else is about x

toomuchteaching · 30/06/2011 11:14

Oh no sparkly, please get some help with that. I've got to go and have some repair work done on my scar tissue, and was very worried about it, but am now just thinking that the hospital referral next week will hopefully get things sorted so that life can return to normal.

If you are having flashbacks you really should talk to someone. Have you thought about a debrief? Please don't soldier on hoping it will get better. My GP was absolutely lovely, and when I said "well I thought it was normal" he replied, "it's not unusual, but it's certainly not normal, you shouldn't be putting up with pain".

Sorry to hear about your cat AngelGeorgie.

23 weeks here, and just starting to head towards weaning. Got to go and get a highchair at the weekend (we're thinking IKEA Antilop although it's a pita to go get one) so we can really get going with BLW. I'm really excited, although DH admitted last night he's worried about the mess.

Glad things are better happy, and that you had a good trip away. We're off to France for a week in August and I can't wait.

Right, must dash. Waves to all.

Redheadgal · 30/06/2011 20:24

Sorry to hear about your cat anglegeorgie - how terribly upsetting after the awful year you've had. BUt hoping your pregnancy is going well.

Clare - we started weaning properly this last week. Already we're onto 3 meals per day, which might be too many, but she's not getting much stuff down - I think of it as an additional play session. We're doing a mixture of stuff, mainly baby led. We tried a couple of purees and she pinched the spoon off us and started feeding herself. Loves squash and strawberries (mashed up). She's about 5 and a half months now, a wriggling and giggling bundle of joy :-)

Sparkly really hope you start to feel more able to speak to someone about how you're feeling soon.

clareanna · 30/06/2011 22:35

sparkly Please get checked out, nothing hurts as much after giving birth (!) and there is no reason for you to be in pain or not feeling comfortable down there. I had a 3rd degree tear and Epi with no1 so know how "delicate" you are feeling, but it should be better by now xx

angelgeorgie so sad about your puss- how did it get the anti-freeze? They are such pals and it is so so sad when you lose one.

T had his jabs today and we had a lot of screaming this evenIng. Gave him some calpol and within 15 mins he was like a different baby - giggling and happy again- poor little chap. Thanks for weaning info. Have bought some baby rice and read up on blw but not going to start just yet I don't think

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Muser · 01/07/2011 22:36

Hello all.

Very sorry to hear about your cat AngelGeorgie, I cried for weeks when my beloved cat died. I'd had him for 17 years, since I was a little girl.

Interesting to hear all the weaning talk. We already have a highchair, got a Graco one that reclines for small babies so she could sit at the table with us instead of on our knees! I'm trying to put off weaning as long as possible as it would mean a lot of extra work, and I am lazy!

I have a rolling baby now, very exciting. Hoping finally mastering this will mean she sleeps a bit better at night. Doubt it somehow.

AngelGeorgie · 05/07/2011 20:46

Thanks muser nice to know you understand xx

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clareanna · 11/07/2011 23:02

loopy good to hear from you!
Well, my little piggy got steadily more and more hungry so I started weaning and he has taken to food very well - in fact he is an eating machine! The more food he has the more he wants, so he is really ready for it. We are already on 3 small meals a day after bfing as he is just loving it. Currently just under 18lb of gorgeous baby!

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SpringFlowers · 18/07/2011 15:38

Oh no, is the thread dead??? I am a fine one to talk as I rarely post but have popped in to give the thread a dusting down and to shout very loudly (although not so loud as to wake the sleeping babies) to see who might hear me!!!

Louise I hope that your pregnancy is going really well and that GBOS is thriving.

I'm a little jealous of your 18lb baby Clare - my little one who is already nine months old Shock probably doesn't weigh that much. She's like a little doll with all her hair.

Is anyone else back at work? Thankfully the summer holidays are nearly here so I'll get another six weeks off shortly. Phew, what a relief. All the expressing is driving me up the wall. R doesn't even drink it. Totally refuses all milk unless it's straight from the boob.

I hope that you are all still around and that the thread will revive a little, I might even attempt to post a bit more often to do my bit for keeping it going.


Of course, I have name changed, so I'm actually SamB, not some strange thread reviving imposter!!!
toomuchteaching · 18/07/2011 16:30

Hello SpringSam, welcome back, and thank you for the shout. Was just thinking of you this morning as, unfortunately, I have to go and have an op and am stressing about feeding J. I have to have my scar tissue repaired after the rubbish job done initially on my tear. I'm obviously nervous but mostly about the feeding situation. I seem to remember you were told not to BF after the general anaesthetic, but all the research I've done suggests it should be fine, would you mind explaining what you were told? And I hope you are all recovered!

Things here are good, we've started a bit of weaning with J feeding herself (I can't bring myself to use the term BLW) and so far peach is the absolute favourite. She was only six months yesterday so we're taking it very gently at the moment.

Sleep still isn't totally happening here, I'm still up (well awake - we're co-sleeping) at least 3 or 4 times in the night, but I'm hoping the summer holidays are going to help crack it and DH can help out.

Otherwise all is well, waves to all, hope the quietness is just that you're all busy enjoying your LOs.

SpringFlowers · 18/07/2011 16:57

TooMuch - sorry you need an op...I was catagorically told not to breastfeed under any circumstances for 48 hours by the anaesthetist (sorry about the very non teacher type spelling). The anaesthetic is present in breastmilk and will transfer to baby during feeds causing drowsiness. On the up side I am still exclusively breastfeeding now and we overcame two days of not feeding. Something to bear in mind, you cannot drink for hours prior to the op and you will be dehydrated post op. The nurses weren't that clued up on breastfeeding and it would have helped to have a drip to rehydrate immediately. It's worth mentioning to someone. I am very happy to offer further info if you'd like.

We still co-sleep too and I feed R three or four times a night, making up for all the milk she doesn't drink in the day. Plays havoc with my poor boobs!

I am sure everyone else is out there somewhere...!

AngelGeorgie · 20/07/2011 18:46

Hi all.
GILS is fine saw my consultant and had a growth scan earlier this week. She's measuring 26 weeks I m 24 weeks, 4 days. All looks fine. Got a proposed section date of 17 th October, a week after Georgies birthday. The pregnancy is going quite quickly with 4 weekly scans. Just been to the Lake District for a week try and have a trip booked every month to help the time pass. Saw the minster who conducted Georgies service at work the other day, not at clap clinic, in the canteen he's so lovely asked him about GILS christening said he d love to.
Names we re considering for Georgies sister; Phoebe, Charlottle or Grace. I prefer Phoebe think it goes with Georgie and both a bit quirky!! Ant also likes Phillpa or Pip!!! And no, before you ask???? Not after Phillipa Middleton!!!
Love to all hope you re all ok??? Xxx

DorcasB · 20/07/2011 19:32

Hi, I am still here. I find I have much less time to post, now those days of long, lazy feeds and snuggly naps on me are a thing of the past. These days Little D feeds in super fast time and as for napping... they are still on me but it's a battle to get her to take them. Shiny distracting iPhones do not help! But she is just fab, very smiley (apart from the overtired meltdowns!) and it's lovely seeing her personality emerge more and more every day. Her favourite thing is to roll, over and over and over... She never stops moving!
toomuch sorry you have to have an op, poor you and how annoying it's because someone didn't do their job properly. Why don't you like the term BLW by the way?
spring/Sam after nearly six months of getting up to feed in the night I have started co-sleeping. Was a bit nervous about it but I was going insane as she still wakes a lot in the night. I still get woken but it helps not having to get up- and it is rather lovely!
angelgeorgie so pleased to hear all is going well for you. All those names are nice, Phoebe was on our shortlist and I still love it.

Muser · 21/07/2011 09:30

Hello everyone.

toomt I hope the op goes well. Awful that you have to go through this

Glad your pregnancy is still going well Angel, October will be here before you know it.

We've been suffering through sleep regressions here. Well, I've been suffering. The small, wakeful one seems fine. Lots of rolling and squirming happening. Had a really good night last night so hopeful that we may be nearing the end of the regression.

It is such a grim day out I'm not sure I can face doing anything. Was going to go to bounce and rhyme. I feel a bit bad if I don't get some activities in now as, like you Dorcas, we are past the spend all day cuddling phase. Now there needs to be entertainment. Thank god for CBeebies. [bad mother emoticon]

Meita · 21/07/2011 12:21

Hi! So good to see everyone coming out of hiding :)

SpringSam, I'm back at 'work' i.e. my PhD, but only two days/week. It's really weird, on the one hand I keep feeling I need more days for work, as I'm never getting anywhere and it always feels like ages from one Thursday to the next Wednesday and I forget what I was doing. On the other hand, I miss my little baby so much on the days he goes to the CM (like today) that I start thinking I'd actually quite like being a SAHM. Just a little bit ambivalent about what I really want, me. How's work going for you?

Regarding the night feeding, well I. is 11 months old already (!!!) but he still wakes for a feed in the night. That is, I BF him at bedtime, at around 4am-ish, and at wake-up time. He also gets about 4-5 ounces of follow-on formula for breakfast (most in his cereal) but during the day he just gets water. The tommy tippee cups with the soft spouts are the only spouted cups he will drink from, but he's quite good at drinking from regular non-lidded cups now. Anyway I think he shouldn't really need that 4am feed, but there's just no other way of getting him to go back to sleep.
I well remember when we were trying everything to get him to drink from a cup, so that he could go to the CM during the day, and he just wouldn't. We resorted to catching up with the milk in the night, as you're doing SpringSam. It isn't really a long-term solution though, as if you're going to be awake and alert at work, you can't be feeding all through the night! ( Well I can't anyway) But in a little time, your LO shouldn't be needing more then 2-3 feeds per day anyway, so could you consider working on reducing the number of night feeds?
We sort of did the NCSS thing (sort of as in: it was about 2 months after reading the book, and I didn't really remember everything but just worked from memory) and that did improve things lots. He now sleeps straight through from about 7:30-ish to 4am-ish, and then again until 7:30-ish. Oh I think the black-out blinds help a lot too.

TMT sorry to hear you need an OP. Probably BF won't suffer from a short interruption, as SpringSam said. And even if you don't manage to express regularly, you shouldn't normally have a supply problem - just feed often once it's all over and supply should be back to normal within a short time. Good luck - when is it scheduled for?

AngelG, I was very sorry to hear about your cat. My own is a frail old thing and on daily medication, I don't think she'll make it much longer - I dread the day when she dies. I. loves her too, although she won't let him get close. Will you be getting another cat sometime? Will you wait until after GILS has arrived? I love Phoebe too, it's soft and beautiful and has a sort of mysterious sound to it. Philippa on the other hand, sounds like a clown to me - no offense!

Dorcas, oh so you have a constantly moving baby too? They're hard work, aren't they! Well mine is anyway! Sometimes I get all jealous of some of my NCT friends' babies - they just sit there and happily play with their toys. Mine, in contrast, is always, always on the move. He can go up and down stairs now, and loves to - any stairs in sight, he'll go straight for them. He's also very nearly walking. He'll take a step or two without holding on to anything, into my waiting arms - and he's delighted by it :) And climbing - he gets up onto the sofa by himself now, and is always trying to climb into the bath.

Muser hello, hope you get some more sleep soon!

Was late for dropping I. off at the CM's today and had to skip breakfast, so stopped at Nero's on the way home for a coffee and pastry (after doing some shopping). While I was there, two ladies with similar sized, big bumps walked in. Then another. And another. And... at the end there were eight of them, and obviously together. Must have been an NCT group or similar. They looked like they might be due in August (as I was last year) and they really reminded me of last year! They were talking about hospital bags and getting the nursery ready and good/bad things they had heard about the local hospital/maternity ward. It was 10:30 which is when rhyme time starts at our library and I was thinking, this time next year (or actually, in a few months already) you'll all be meeting up over at the library instead of here at Nero's. Grin It did make me a feel a bit broody too... Two of my NCT group are expecting their second already, one for October, the other for December, and I suppose it's just a matter of time for more news of this kind to arrive. There's no question for us however. Have to finish that PhD first.

DorcasB · 22/07/2011 12:26

Oh lord Meita it really is hard work and I see it only gets harder as their mobility increases! I mean, all she can do is roll at the minute but she can cover a surprising amount of ground in a short time! I know what you mean about feeling Envy of placid babies. It is exhausting having a baby who just won't stay still, although I do love it as well, it gives me a lot of pleasure too to see her so excited by life. Although she seems to make up for her love of exploring the world by day by insisting on being glued to me all night!

Meita · 22/07/2011 22:12

Dorcas can I just point you to this little video? (which I just found linked to somewhere else on MN)
www.wimp.com/babyplaying/

Though while mine does move a lot, he does not entertain himself like that at all for very long.