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clareanna · 24/05/2011 09:05

Totally's original thread was for TTC after MC. It continued long after Totally herself graduated, and is still going strong. Totally's grads was set up as a thread for pregnancy post MC - i.e. anyone who graduated from Totally's thread and anyone else who had experienced MC and was now pregnant. It, too, is still going strong.

Now, more and more of us have graduated from Totally's grads - including LouiseSH, whose Georgie was born asleep. I suppose that makes us postgrads. We have travelled together for a long time and would like to stay in touch, but the pregnancy post MC thread is starting to get very big, and I think it should be allowed to keep its focus on pregnancy post MC. May it be as wonderful a place for support for current "members" as it was for us.

So this thread is a place for us to keep in touch, share experiences, and provide support.

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toomuchteaching · 27/07/2011 19:54

I am perturbed by that video!

Thanks all for kind wishes re the op, it's on August 10th. I phoned them today and they're not very keen on me feeding in the day even if I'm waiting for my op, as it will dehydrate me, but if I am waiting for hours I'll have to express anyway, so I don't see what difference it'll make. But I can feed immediately afterwards (as soon as I'm ok) so I'm not too worried.

Dorcas if I told my MIL we were doing baby led weaning I'd get a major eye roll and a lot of "purees never harmed my three". So I find it easier to say we're letting her feed herself (that's bad enough though!). I just sometimes find the way everything that is just a normal sensible thing to do, when it comes to babies, has to have a cringey name... babywearing, baby college (a mums and babies group I go to), baby led weaning... of course I understand that a book called "Letting your baby feed himself" wouldn't sell so well, I just find it all a bit... much!

I am so ready for these teeth to come through. It feels like J's been teething forever! At least I hope that's the reason she's so unsettled at night, otherwise it might be like this forever... she was up 7 times the night before last. I'm dreading moving her into her own room as I can't face getting out of bed over and over, although I'm hoping it will miraculously be better when she's on her own.

Just in case we're voting I really like Phoebe and Pippa Angel!

Really lovely to hear from everyone, we have an active baby here too and whilst it is exhausting, I tell myself it means she's clever! Have a lovely evening all round.

AlbaDeTamble · 31/07/2011 12:05

Love the video! Grin
I had a super-active pfb, it was great fun and I was incredibly proud of my precocious little boy. This time round I have a much more placid baby.. I have to check baby milestone lists to be sure there's nothing wrong with him (which there isn't, he's perfect, just different to his brother).
Good to read updates and to know it's not just me feeding several times a night too (pfb was bottle fed and in his cot in his own room by now, often sleeping through till early morning after dreamfeed. this time I have a co-sleeping bottle refuser... All new)

And he's just woken and demanding attention...

Glad all well AngelG, Phoebe is a lovely name

AngelGeorgie · 31/07/2011 22:05

Thanks .Alba xxx

toomuchteaching · 17/08/2011 20:20

It only feels to briefly post here to say that incredibly sadly magic8 has passed away, leaving behind the twins, her four year old and husband. There is a thread in chat for memories and condolences which we will make sure is passed on to her family.

Hold those little ones extra tight if they wake up in the night tonight.

malteser1981 · 17/08/2011 21:06

Words fail me. Heartfelt condolences to Magics family. So sad, so tragic, such a loss. I will say a prayer tonight for her children and family.

AngelGeorgie · 18/08/2011 11:31

Poor,poor Magic hope her family get the support they need. Once again life is put in to perspective. Hope Magic is cuddling up to Ruby. So sad xxx

BunnyBaby · 18/08/2011 16:27

Sorry have not posted in the longest time. Just logged in to say hello and I am so saddened to hear the news of Magic, she was lovely and I remember her BFP and the discovery that she had 2 lovely babies in there. Life really does seem so unfair.

So sorry for her children and husband.

Will post another time, just so sad to hear of the loss of such a lovely lady.

SpringFlowers · 18/08/2011 19:19

Oh my god, I didn't know. What happened?

DorcasB · 18/08/2011 19:36

Just saw this, I can't believe it. I don't even know what to type, there are no words...

thefatladyscreams · 20/08/2011 17:11

Hello lovely ladies

Been absent so long and just popped back to see how everyone is doing and can't believe the news about Magic. My heart goes out to her family. So, so sad.

Louise - so pleased you are doing well - I do lurk and follow your news from time to time (when exhaustation allows!)

Love to all.

AngelGeorgie · 20/08/2011 23:07

Thanks TFLS I m plodding on 29 weeks now only 8 weeks to section date!!! Pretty
Much ok but freaking out every so often particularly at 3 am. Back at work on Monday so hoping I ll be so knackered then I ll sleep. A block of 5 weeks at work 1 week AL then 1 week back then mat leave starts on 7th October. How odd to be back here again???? Hope u re ok?
Hi all. Love to all however, I know we re all still shocked and subdued over the news of Magic. xxxx I can imagine very slightly these early dark days but obviously from
A different perspective and I wouldn t wish it on my worse enemy. It's a truly, truly horrible time where life had changed totally and utterly and the whole meaning/ validation of your life is questioned. Do hope the family have good RL support as I found that was 1 of the most important factors in helping me to move foreward.

toomuchteaching · 21/08/2011 10:37

29 weeks Louise that is amazing! I can't blame you for mentalling at 3am but you are doing so brilliantly. Maybe the distraction of work will be a good thing, but do make sure you take it easy.

Hope these 8 weeks go quickly for you.

AngelGeorgie · 21/08/2011 11:17

Thanks Toomuch x hope u re ok? Hi all xx

PenguinsMummy · 24/08/2011 21:07

OMG. Haven't logged on for a really long time & can't believe the sad sad news about Magic Sad

clareanna · 25/08/2011 11:51

toomt thanks for posting the news about magic on here - I just couldn't bring myself to. It's been 10 days now and I still can't believe it :-(

Louise 29 weeks! That is bloody brilliant - I'm so pleased for you! How are you getting on with names?

Waves to penguin dorcas bunny Malteser and Spring
T is now 6 months old and a big cuddly bundle of joy (who is currently trashing Ds1's car track - oops) I am absolutely loving having 2 and am seriously considering no3 but think I'll wait until T is toddling before making the final decision! Ds1 is starting school in 2 weeks - can't believe it, he seems too young.

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PenguinsMummy · 26/08/2011 20:48

Hi Clareana. Incredibly sad news about Magic - so difficult to get your head around Sad

We are good - DD1 starts school next week & lost 2 teeth this week as well C is 4.5 mths & we have moved onto solids which she is loving. Smile The move from 2-3 was move easier than 1-2 & although it's constant chaos, I'm loving having my 3 girls Grin.

Louise so glad everything is going well. Hope you're taking good care of yourself.

Big wave to everyone. Hope you're all well. Sorry for not being around Blush. X

thefatladyscreams · 30/08/2011 21:41

Hello lovely ladies

So glad you're doing OK Louise. May the next 8 weeks rush past for you. 3am is an evil time of the morning isn't it. I just try and put things in the "I'll think about this in the morning as I can't think clearly at this time" box - and occasionally it works! Hope work isn't too tiring.

Thinking of the poor Magic family.

Love to all. By the way, how are people doing on the sleep front. DS is coming up for 11 months and we are hiting a real wall of exhaustation (well I am, he seems fine as he catches up in the day!)

AngelGeorgie · 30/08/2011 22:48

Hi all. Doing ok thanks. Work good busy but good. It's a great distraction. You all sound like you re doing fine. Wink
Names; mmm.... So far Phoebe Grace, we think. With Georgie we both loved Georgina from the start , love Georgie and it suits her down to a tee!!! However, with GILS we ve had about 3/4 names we like so at the moment she's Phoebe Grace.
Still in my thoughts; Magic and her family. Hope they re surviving. Love to all xxx

toomuchteaching · 02/09/2011 11:17

Sleep, what sleep!? I'm still up at least twice between midnight and 6. Actually the twice thing has only happened a few times. I know we'll get there but I really haven't had more than 3 and a half hours in a row for nearly 8 months, and even then only occasionally. I am exhausted.

thefatladyscreams · 02/09/2011 12:21

Phoebe Grace sounds lovely - I guess you'll know it's right when you see her. We had a short list of around 3 names and just decided on the day when we saw him.

Toomuch - sending you virtual caffeine. God it's hard work isn't it - DS was up at 2am and 4.30am last night. I finally went to sleep and had a dream that I'd had my foot amputated and replaced with a rusty stump! Maybe I should cut back on the caffeine! DS' problem is that he doesn't self settle when he awakes - I need to work on that (planning on doing the No Cry Sleep Solution) but need to muster up some energy first (plus have family staying from abroad for the next month). Can see family members muttering "rod for her own back" to themselves! Grin

Meita · 04/09/2011 22:01

Hello ladies,

Got home from lovely holidays to find the terrible news about magic. I was totally lost for words (still am, really), had to give it some time to get my head around it. How very sad for her and her family. Sad

Do you do this as well sometimes: Maybe I'm just weird but sometimes I think about what would happen if I were to die, and nowadays well it's all about I. and it makes me feel really bad, how he would have to grow up without his mother, how he would never really remember me, how there would just be someone missing. And sad for myself too, how I would never get to see him learn to talk, go to school, figure out what he wants to be in life, meet someone special, ... then I shake myself out of it. It's just that these days I feel like there is so much to live for. So I am more scared of dying than I ever was, before I. arrived. Accordingly I find it extraordinarily sad that Magic died, she and family have been in my thoughts a lot.

On a more positive note, I. is 1! What a year it has been. I feel blessed to have him, to have had this year with our little family.
On the afternoon of his birthday he developed a fever, which lasted for three days and was followed by another three days of a rash all over his body. We think it was Roseola Infantum. It was the first time he had a proper fever, typically on his birthday! Well actually, he had a fever once before, that was exactly a year earlier, when he was born - luckily, because that made them look for causes, pick up the infection, and treat him immediately with the ABs that probably saved his life. Yeah, I guess him turning one made me reflect a bit on the whole birth experience again. He didn't much care - he did burn his finger on the candle though ;)

Re sleeping, well we have our highs and lows. Sometimes he sleeps from bedtime to about 5ish without interruption, and then in the mornings, one of us goes and sleeps with him on the sofabed in his room until it's wake-up time. We'd take him into our bed, we're fine with co-sleeping, but it's a lot lighter in there and he won't sleep. So one of us in his room it's got to be. That's great, really, however unfortunately it's a bit of an exception - usually he'll wake and need settling at least once before that, and if it's me, he'll insist on a feed. I too could do with more regular good sleep, though things have definitely already improved a lot. And yes, I do put it down to the NCSS, at least partly!

Louise, Phoebe Grace sounds lovely. Not long to go now. I hope you are managing to relax a bit every now and then - I imagine things to be very tense for you these days. Can't wait to hear some good news in just a few weeks time :)

AngelGeorgie · 05/09/2011 17:55

Thanks Metia Gosh I a year old. Doesn t time fly??? Trying to relax, luckily work very busy so good distraction!!! 6 weeks today to section date!!
Hope Magic's family are muddling through. Love to all xxxx

VivClicquot · 07/09/2011 14:17

angel - I've not been on here for aaaaaaages but just wanted to say that you and I clearly have very similar taste in names seeing as the 19 week old gorgeous doll currently asleep on my lap is a Phoebe and our lost little one was Gracie. :) Hope you're doing really well and that these last few weeks are as calm as they possibly can be for you. Much love xxxx

AngelGeorgie · 07/09/2011 15:39

Thanks very much viv sounds lovely Grin