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Silv for the last couple of weekends Clint has had a poo on Friday before Daddy got home and in Monday just as the door shut behind him. I have explained to Clint that he is to poo on Daddy's watch but I think some counter-propaganda has taken place.

Clint is having bathtime with Daddy tonight hence many a post. Does anyone else have a baby who objects to mn?

we have done same with pram, he had started getting bored just staring at the sky!

If you don't want to, just leave it, it's much more of a faff than bfing as you have to do a lot more thinking about food rather than just heaving up a top - and it's sooo messy! I really don't see the rush to wean at all.

Oh and for ref, sleeping shows no indication of readiness for food, and food will most likely have no affect on sleep - it hasn't for any of my rl buddies anyway.

We have offered Artie food about 4 times, so don't really think we're "weaning" as such - am too lazy to do too much atm

vag I think I tried to do too much when MB first arrived. Instead of doing fuck all the essentials I tried to be my old self before baybee arrived and I was too ambitious and crippling myself in one easy step.

We've been out for lunch today with pals AND I got to eat my main and pud with BOTH HANDS!!! Top that. I dare ya. Life on the fricking edge.

I found when Artie was tiny, if I did too much I used to then get really really panicky when out and about, it was horrible. I seem to remember alpro being similar.

I haven't been doing much at all. Put visitors off this morning due to lack of sleep. They came in the afternoon and Bob decided to feed quite a lot. But we got to chat a bit. They're popping in tomorrow before going home and I hope she's a bit more settled so I can chat properly.

I have been trying to go for short walks most days, but not much more than that. I don't have the clothes to go anywhere more exciting! My maternity wardrobe is not feeding friendly and I don't quite fit into my pre-maternity wardrobe. Plus there's the whole "how do I feed her if we go out" thing.

Muse, practice feeding out and about and the world is your oyster. Honestly once you get the hang of it it's brilliant I've fed Artie everywhere!

Seconded. I found it less daunting to have someone with me the first few times so if anyone dared to tut i had back up. Also,tip of the day, all costs Coffees and Starbucks are BF friendly so why not start there? In my experience nobody bats an eyelid. A feeding top and floaty scarf help if you feel vulnerable.

COSTA Coffee that is.

YY to costa, starbucks and also cafe nero. Also M&S or JL cafe, full of mnetter types or middle ages ladies who will talk to you about when they used to feed their dcs.

I have only ever had lovely lovely comments from people and lots of conversations started with random strangers because of feeding out and about.

I also make a point to smile to other bfing mums.

It's the latching on bit. It can take me a few goes and involves much nipple exposure. Once she's on i'd be fine.

It'll come. Bring bob up from underneath your boob so she sort of scoops the nipple into her mouth. In that way you can leave much of it hidden until she is latched on. Practice in front of a mirror, you'll see a lot less than you imagine i promise. And in any case, i think most people turn away rather than stare. And if they see anything, well nobody died

Second the comments above. I've fed everywhere incl car showroom (whilst rowing with staff), restaurants, pubs, coffee shops, in the car. I found sitting strategically also helps eg sit with facing a wall/partition with your back to majority of other customers. Gives you bit of privacy to get Bob on without pryin eyes.

Also, if you are in a cafe, sit facing the wall, then you can worry less about people looking.

To be fair, the first time I did it in public, I completely cocked up the latch as I was trying too hard not to show anything, and I completely shocked 2 elderly couples at the table next too us to their credit, they were very good about it.

Anyway, far too soon you'll be showing nipple again as Bob will realise there is a lot of interesting stuff going on so will break off mid feed to look around, while you are busy trying to contain all the milk spraying around. That is most feeding from about 4 months onwards it seems.

Ah, xpost with sylvia re facing the wall.

What cos said - that's when wearing a scarf sometimes helps as it strategically floats down to cover your modesty

Agreed wrt the feeding in public. I just didn't do it with mini oke as too self concious. This time I splashed out on some BOOB BF tops and they are great and really help so now I can do it quite discretly. I have never really been one of these poeple who can just wang up their top and not give a shiny shite who sees..

Peppa seems to hate the lie down under carriage of the phil and teds. Tried her in the back seat today (just in the house) and she looked tiny and vulnerable and not ready to take on the car exhaust fumes, dog shit and fab butts that the lw down back seat rider has to endure. Reckon I will pop her in the sling and ride with just one child in pram until she is a bit bigger.

Mini oke vommed at tea and vommed in bed - plz let it be just tiredness and excitment and not a bug.

Oh yes, I do spend the first 5 minutes of feeding trying to control the spurt of milk that seems to go all over Peppa's face whenever she comes off and also dribbles down my top. Nice. I stgand up and inevitably have damp patches on my top and trousers.

Lack of suitable tops is the first problem I have to overcome. I have some vests for layering coming from M&S and some tops from JoJoMamanBebe. If I can get clothes sorted I can practice a bit at home. And to start with I can always stick to places with feeding rooms, like the blessed Wharf.

Sadly as I live in NotTrendyLondon I have no local chain coffee shops. I could do you a fried chicken shop or 20?

Does anyone else find let down much stronger in one boob than the other? I think that's why Artie didn't used to like right boob - I thought it was a positioning thing, but actually it seems to just come out v quick compared to left boob - it also leaks more than left boob.

Dear Lord, you can get a breastfeeding fleece top from the NCT shop. It is quite the most frumpy thing I have ever seen.

Boob bfing tops are nice, most other bfing tops seem to be a bit grim. I like shirts personally, just open the first couple of buttons and bob's your uncle. Well Bob's your daughter aktewally

Yes cos right side is far stronger than left. It goes everywhere.

Muse T-shirts can also work ok as long as they are not too fitted. A wrap/pashmina or muslin or baggy cardi helps to hid nips and flab tummy

Funny Cos I can't get on with shirts for BFing.

I think it may depend on size of boobage, I think if I were bigger they woudln't work so well. T-shirts also good. Actually I will wear anything other than thick jumpers.

You must have a cafe somewhere Muse? I don't live in trendy london either, but we have plenty of cafes - you can't be on mat leave and not have a cafe near by. Is there a cafe in your local park? If so that will be overrun with bfing mums? ours is.

It's weird to do all your shopping thinking "but can I bf in that" isn't it?

re-reading that, I sound obsessed with cafes. To be fair, I have spent the majority of my mat leave in cafes