Hi Ladies :) thanks for all the advice, feel a little better in myself today even with the lack of sleep. Think it's because I sort of have a plan and I intead to stick to it 
SeaChelles when Maria-Ann worn mittens i had the same problem i would put them on and when I looked again they would be off. I found socks worked really well.
Maria-Ann is on aptamil comfort, I've tried hungry baby but it just seems to make her really windy. When i give her formula she would rather chew on the teat than drink it. She is really suffering with teething and it's got a lot worse in the past week. I've tried calpol, teething granules, bonjela, dentinox, bickie pegs but when she bites down she screams and teething rings. I will be suprised if there is anything left of her fingers the way she chews on them 
I've notice a bit of a difference with her meals being 4 hrly apart she doesn't seem to be as crabby during the day.
Well last night i totally crubbled and gave in with the dummy. I was so tired but tonight I intend to be much stronger
She hasn't had her dummy all day and has screamed quite a lot but i'm not giving up. She has had naps without it today so I know she can fall asleep without it. I have a comfort blanket which is attached to a little rabbit which I used last night. I've been using it all day and she really seems to like it so hopefully that may work tonight. She will also use her fingers to chew as comfort when falling asleep apart from when she chews to hard then screams.
It's my dd1 8th birthday on Wednesday, got presants sorted just need to wrap them. She really wants to have a friend stay over which I've agreed to. I'm taking them both for some tea out and then to watch tangled in 3d. I think I'm looking forward to getting out more than her 
I see there's a lot of little ones poorly, I hope they are feeling much better soon 