October 08 - "I said no!"

[KSal]

it appears I posted the last post... so here's a new thread

Google shoes for kids. It will come up. Can't remember exactly but I think www.shoesforkids.co.uk... On phone and cleaning at moment but can check later

Oh hmm :( poor poppy. She'll get used to everything soon. She is likely just making sure that you're still there and able to see to her.

Patience I'm afraid hmm, and giving her as much attention as you can during the day, but ignoring her behaviour at night, so that she can quickly learn that it doesn't get her the attention that she wants.
That said, we had 2 entire months of this starting at Christmas, so clearly I'm not an expert at putting a stop to it! Ours went on through the night too, whenever he stirred.

I'm trying to cluster feed DS. I just feel like crap. Is BFing really worth this? Could get a bottle down him in 10 mins

I've just done her entire bath and bedtime myself while DH had DS downstairs, spent a good hour of one to one time with her and prob knackered my stitches again in the meantime. She's demanding warm milk as we've given it to her a few times now to shut her up, usually doesn't get any after shes brushed her teeth. DH in with her now but she still wants her mummy

Only you can decide if it's worth it to your family hmm, but to me, yes it would be, as the bf has lifelong benefits, whereas Pop's tantrums will pass within months at most, and prob only weeks.

Just went in with her for 15 mins between DS feeds and lay with her till she fell asleep, I got 'i love you so much mummy' about 5 times, poor love.

Im going to start reward chart tmrw for eating and bedtimes, does anyone else do this and how do u do it? Was thinking column for brushing teeth, reading books quietly etc then populate with 1 sticker in each column if good?

I really dont want to give up BF, will see how I feel by say 4 week mark. Thanks as ever guys x

Happy Mother's Day Everyone! I got a card that S had dictated to DP and it says "Here's your card Mummy. Would you like some trains?". Then he drew a picture of the sea.

Hmm i think setting yourself small targets is really the best plan. I started with 6 weeks, then 9 (because that how long i lasted with Em) and by then Orin was refusing the bottle and took it out of my hands. So glad he did, but that's easy to say in hindsight... i was tearing my hair out at the time.

I took Emma to all his jab appointments, she brought her toy fox along too and watched the whole thing. When we got home from the first one she stuck fox up her top and said 'fox needs milk to make him feel better'. So i feel good that even though i didn't manage so well feeding her she will still hopefully understand that breast is the normal way to feed and comfort a baby.

today of all days i am feeling like the worst mother ever. I watched Emma fall off a climbing frame onto her face yesterday. She now has one of her top front teeth pushed halfway back up into her gum and we'll find out at the dentist (hopefully tomorrow) whether it needs removing. I really hope not. The last time i saw that much blood was Orin's birth. We were out at a garden centre and DH was in the shop... luckily a nice bloke came and took Emma from me as i had Orin in the carrier. She's woken pretty happy this morning, but it looks pretty gruesome (sp?)

I think i feel worse about this as its so visible... she falls over and hurts herself all the time and when the bruises go down you can forget about it, but this just looks a bit shocking at the moment. Been crying a lot last night/today.

Oh KSal, How horrible for you. The exact same thing happened to a friend of mine the recently and her ds's two front teeth were pushed completely out of line. Her dentist recommended soft food for a while and 3 weeks later they look much, much better, not quite where they were before but they don't need to be taken out. I don't know if they've recommended that but softish food really does seem to help. It's completely understandable that you're feeling upset, but, as Pistachio says, these things happen and it's not your fault.

Happy Mother's Day to all :) yes I get to celebrate this one, too. Lucky me!

Ksal, I hope her tooth is ok. I agree these things just happen. Not your fault at all. How cute that she's soothing her toys with breastmilk, too :)

Cf and pistachio what cute messages :)

Enjoy your day, everyone! x

Oh no ksal, how awful for you and E. I hope it goes well at the dentist tomorrow, they wouldn't be toddlers without a few episodes like this, would they?

I am officially going to stop taking over this thread with my
moaning!! Feel free to slap me anyone if I fall off the wagon. I had hardly any sleep last night but it's fine [fake ]

Happy Mummy's Day everyone! x

Oh no ksal, how awful for you and E. I hope it goes well at the dentist tomorrow, they wouldn't be toddlers without a few episodes like this, would they?

I am officially going to stop taking over this thread with my
moaning!! Feel free to slap me anyone if I fall off the wagon. I had hardly any sleep last night but it's fine [fake ]

Happy Mummy's Day everyone! I'm spending mine apart from DD because I wasn't feeling up to going to PIL for meal due to cracking headache which started last night but it's fine [fake ]

Oh I tried the salt this morning, it didn't sting. Perhaps I need to up the amount ....

Doh. [fake ]

oh my god myjob. thank god she was ok... it must have really shocked you :(

Oh myjob :( thank goodness she's ok. How frightening.

Hmm moan away! Seriously. No one here minds at all! I hope you've managed to get a rest. X

MYJOB, how scarey. I have dealt with children choking at work but never one of my own. You have a quick thinking family. I am sure you would have done exactly the same, so try not to worry about the what if's too much.

HMM. I just poured a load of salt in. No measurement. I figure the more salt I could bear the quicker the healing.
I would echo the BF advice. I always gave each of my babies week long targets. If it didnt get better then they were going on the bottle. Luckily they all took to BF really well. Evening cluster feeding is often the trade off for a nights sleep.
I personally wouldn't use a behaviour chart for children as young as P. IMHE they just dont understand, well enough, to follow the idea of actions and consequences. It leads to frustration for you and more defiance from the child who hasnt really got a clue what it is you want from her!
Go easy on yourself and P. She has had her world turned upside down by this small thing who has stolen her mummy. She is just trying to make sense of it all and asserting her previous position as mummy and daddies number one princess.
I would perhaps sit in her room by the door, in the dark so she knows you are there, but you are not in bed with her. You could even do it while feeding DS at the same time. You will only need to do this for a little while before she gets back into the good bedtime routine she had before.

Muffins went ok. A little small but it could be that I over mixed them.
Pistachio. What different flavours do you put in? And how do you get the mixture right without interfering with the basic muffin? IYSWIM.

Ksal. Oh dear I hope it goes ok in the dentist tomorrow.
Teeth cause all kinds of problems. DD1 is still losing her first set and getting used to the idea that she will have to have a brace, DD2 is still desperate for her first one to fall out, all the other children in her class have lost teeth!