October 08 - "I said no!"

[KSal]

it appears I posted the last post... so here's a new thread

Thanks Pistachio, I had a brill appt yesterday with my normal midwife and she completely put my mind to rest, baby exactly where I thought, no back to back. I'm having a sweep with her at 40+2 having discussed it with her, she's only had someones waters go once since she's been doing sweeps (which is a long time) and stop start contractions not necessarily a bad thing cos they opening cervix and means main event shorter.

I'm sorry to hear you're feeling crap though It's especially not good when your DH is bad too. Get the cbeebies on!! x

Ugh Pistachio - Sounds hideous. Hope you're all better soon. Does SPD come and go or is it something you're basically stuck with until the baby arrives?

Glad you're feeling a bit calmer now HMM. Keep going with those hynobirthing cds!

Well I had another follow up appt today. Turns out that they did leave something behind (and I learnt that I have a tilted uterus, didn't know that before) but co-incidentally I started bleeding again today so the doctor thinks it may be coming away. I really hope so as he said the next step would be another ERPC. Got my recurrent miscarriage clinic appointment date through today. It's 10th May. I'm going to call them and ask if they have any cancellations to bring it forward as I wasted a month getting my referral sorted.

CSWS- How are things?

Star - I Q any better now?

Pistachio I hope labour is quick for your friend. Will you have to miss class on Thursday if she's in labour then?

Hmm glad you are feeling more calm. :)

Cf :( I hope it all goes naturally for you. Can you ttc before your appointment or are you advised to wait?

How are you csws?

How are you myjob, ronshar, ksal?

Pistachio I hope you and dh are feeling better soon. Sort of a humourous thought of trying to use available senses to care for dc . it's not funny and I have sympathy for you all, though.

Q is doing a bit better but still awful chesty coughing fits. I hate the night ones when you can see his ribs sticking out as he breathes in the skin between them between coughs trying to get a breath. It's horrible. But other than that in better spirits!

Does the tilted uterus mean anything much cf? Can it be a cause of m/c? How utterly crap that they left stuff behind last time. Really hoping that the bleeding is quick but means an end to it all.

Things here going well. Changed dressings last night and the wounds look ok - belly button looks a bit mangled but I expect it's fairly normal at this stage. Movement getting easier.
We've been working on ds2's sleep at the same time, since I have someone here who know's what she's doing, and I can't be tempted to go in and cuddle him every time he cries, since I can't pick him up anyway. Yest evening was hellish, but his last 2 nights have been better overall, and he's slept better in the daytime too. Fingers crossed for further improvements over the next couple of nights.

That sounds like a rapid recovery for you CSWS. A bit of sleep training will help you get better sooner as well.

Pistachio, you lucky girl, I would love to be a birth partner. Although I do hope its a good one for you so close to your own birth.

HMM I want to give you a good talking too including a wagging of my finger. STOP analysing every little comment and action. It only make you unhappy and you cant afford to put yourself through it all again. DH DD and your new addition need you to be fit and well. Not a stressed out heavily pregnant woman.
It is pretty difficult to get some babies position right. I know loads of women who have gone in to have babies who are in a completely diff position than was palpated at last midwife appointment.
With each successive preganancy the baby sits higher in the abdo for longer. Most only drop into the birth canal when mum is in active labour.
Both dd2 and ds were right up in my abdo until waters broke with both. That only happened 5 mins before they delivered!
Please try not to over think everything. Your baby will turn up when he wants to. Nothing you can do will make it happen faster or quicker. You can only stay calm and make it the best you can.
Ps a student midwife can be a lifesaver. They are extra to numbers and so can stay with you the whole time. Use them to give you complete one to one care while knowing they will get help when you really need it.

Star is Q having oral steroids? Brown inhaler? It sounds like he might need a bit of extra support when he gets a cold. Also how often are you giving him his blue inhaler?

I am watching BBC2 about the 23 week babies. I have cried so much. Poor little beany babies.

Ooh good luck CSWS. I may have missed this but have you got a night nurse in atm or is it a relative?

I don't think the uterus means anything in terms of miscarriage but it is a reason why they may have missed some "products" while doing the ERPC. It's blind procedure and, because of the angle, they might not have been able to get to the back IYSWIM. It can also mean that early scans can be trickier to see clearly, which may be why they kept me hanging on at the beginning of the pregnancy. It's quite common apparently.

Bleeding has stopped again now, so I think this could be another drawn out procedure...

CF. I didnt forget you. I would consider asking your consultant to try and push your appointment forward. You should have had it by now if they hadnt messed up at the beginning!
How are you feeling now? The crash of post MC is horrendous isnt it. Worst 12 months of my life for my mental health. Still a bit mental now if I'm honest

I have a friend working for me this week cf, who works with children in a diff capacity as her main job now, but has worked as a maternity nurse and nanny and other similar roles, and still does some privately at weekends and holidays. She has taken a week off her main job in order to help me out. She is live in as she lives a couple of hours away, and is happy to help us day or night as needed. She is a star! Today she spring cleaned the playhouse for me :).

How is the job hunting going ronshar?

Gave up CSWS I took the rejection as a sign that I'm not fit for work yet.
I have started a Open University course. Easy one to start with. Understanding Children. I need all the help I can get
You have a lovely friend. Does she have the same approach to parenting or are you just letting her get on with it? I admire your ability to let someone in to help. I would be forever saying, ooo I dont do that Unless they just took the children out. Then I wouldn't care, the peace would be too heavenly.

Yes v similar approach to parenting (although she sadly doesn't have dc of her own - is trying to adopt), but we have gone with sort of cc as the only method likely to work quickly. We have discovered that if we swaddle him then it works much better as he doesn't spend ages getting up and standing up at the end of his cot screaming! Went off in just a few mins tonight, and woke a while later but resettled. We have only done 1 to 2 night feeds last couple of nights, which is massive improvement.
You need to meet her ronshar - she is only 15 mins from you and quite lovely (I've just told her the same about you!). She used to be an MNer too.

:) pistachio

Ooooh I got chills reading that, pistachio! :) So lovely! And some tears.

Oh bravo for fluffles. I really must sort out selling my newborn ones. Where's the best place to do that now that ebay don't allow it?

J slept through last night .

Hooray for J sleeping through! :) A little sleep training is a blessing.

Q stayed in his bed all last night with only one coughing fit and got into ours at 5am, so there must be something in the air!

Ronshar I will PM you or FB message you later about breathing stuff so it's not a bore on here.

cf I hope you don't have to have another procedure. They really are making you wait a long time. please excuse my forgetfulness, but was S more easily conceived?

Love the pic of his haircut, btw

HMM you listen to nurse ronshar.

How is W doing, Ronshar? Is he enjoying nursery?

cf, i also have a tilted uterus. I'm surprised it hasn't been said before. I found out at the 12 weeks scan with Emma as they had to look a little 'deeper' to find her if you see what i mean. Mind you i guess it is possible that it is only tilted since you last gave birth. When i read up on it it seemed as though a tilted uterus can become untilted following pregnancy, so i guess it can go the other way...
I really hope you don't need another ERPC...

Star, William loves nursery. He goes in now without a care in the world. I have to remind him to come back and give me a kiss! I dont mind either email or pm. I like to have my brain stretched by something other than how to feed the children dairy free while not killing G with nuts.

Ksal. I have an anterior cervix which only became so after having DD1. Right pain at smear/coil time. (one for Star there) How are the little ones? All of mine have spent the first couple of years with a constant cold, runny nose etc. As they have gone to big school they have not had to have any time of with colds just the odd D&V bug. If that helps to put your mind at ease at all?

CSWS. I think a gentle form of CC is the only way with some children. It only has to go on for a few days before it becomes easier for everybody. How about D is he sleeping as well? You wont know yourself soon. Sleeping children, you not having a small one in your bed all the time. Almost heavenly Hopefully you will begin to feel well again. Sleep is an amazing healer, better than drugs or drink I find!
Which direction from me does your friend live? Can she suggest a solution other than tying W to his bed to get him to go to bloody sleep at bedtime? He is driving us mental. Every night he is in and out. I have to sit in there with him now. I hate it. My mummy juice runs out at 7pm sharp. After that I am a human again.

Pistachio. Amazing news. I bet you were brilliant for your friend. It just helps having someone there you trust.

HMM I hope I havent upset you. I didnt mean to be hard. I do hope you havent taken it all the wrong way.

Ronshar have you tried a full week ofputting him back in bed for an hour, supernanny style (sorry I know she's crap but this worked for us) - exhausting but long term gain is bliss.

Star love I have been trying to be GF, Super bloody nanny, the baby whisperer, my hero Dr Tanya. W has beaten them all. This has been going on since he was big enough to stand up. First in his cot and then in his bed. So all in about 2 years.
The only hting that works is for me to stay in the room with him until he goes into a deep sleep. If I move too early then he is up like a jack in a box.
I have 2 other children who need me at the same time. I just dont have the time avaliable to devote to just him at bedtime. It can take up to an hour. H needs her sleep and isnt getting it because of W.
All pants really. At least he is sleeping through now so thats a good thing.

It's lucky that I really love him