October 08 - "I said no!"

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it appears I posted the last post... so here's a new thread

Tonsilitis a lot better than it was thank you. Still sore head/throat/neck, but much better elsewhere. But of course that means that I've taken less painkillers today, so I can feel my gallstones hurting again instead. Can't win! Ah well, will all be better in a few weeks.

Ugh sore throat is the worst kind of illness. It is so painful. You poor thing! Glad you're on the mend, though. Op soon! You're getting the gall bladder removed, right?

Hooray for one assignment down pistachio! :)

Well whilst it's very unpleasant I wouldn't actually call a sore throat the worst kind of illness. But thank you for the sympathy nonetheless .
Yes, gallbladder being removed in 11 days. Pre-op appt on Tues.

I guess you're right. I meant among common illnesses that people tend to get a lot. Among colds, stomach bugs, sore throats, coughs, conjunctivitis...etc. I consider throat pain the worst.

I can't believe you've had to cope with 3 LO's, gallstones AND tonsilitis CSWS!! And is your DH still at work a lot? Dunno how you do it!

BTW I have been sorting out Poppy's old clothes and have a bag of girls stuff you gave to me when we came to yours for Duncan's first birthday... do you want me to send it back to you or charity shop it?

11 days CSWS, not long at all. Are you any closer to sorting out the hospital conundrum?

HMM- I hope the debrief goes well. It might be quite upsetting to go through it all again but I hope it brings a bit of peace.

If you were given a toddler bed, would you get a new mattress for it even if it was in good condition? I'm having a bit of a clear out and was thinking of chucking the mattress for the bed we were given after the recent reminder that cot death doesn't just affect tiny babies. WWYD?

Well I have nothing to say about NCT. I wasn't impressed, though because I was only offered a course for the weekend (2 intensive long days or something like that) for when I'd be 39 weeks. Q delivered at 38 weeks. I kept ringing and asking early on, but to no avail. I'm sure they are just busy but it didnt help me.

Pistachio - I didn't do an NCT course (wanted to but they allocated me one miles away), but it's a very strongly-held perception that they don't deal with interventions in any details isn't it. It must be very frustrating for you.

I did my ante-natal stuff at the birthing centre that I had hoped to have S at (didn't even get a look in there in the end as I was high-risk) and they really did skim over a lot of the stuff about interventions which in retrospect was staggering considering that of all the people I knew who were hoping to give birth there, only one actually did, as all the others were transferred to hospital. They wouldn't discuss breast-feeding either, as they said they would support us with that once the baby was here. Again bugger all use for those who were in a busy London hospital with no BF support...

I think I'll ditch the mattress. Nor sure why I'm even considering keeping it really.

Yes that is why I wanted to do the NCT course. For breastfeeding information and help. Fortunately I found a lovely bf counsellor.

My NCT sessions were great Pistachio, I felt i knew plenty about intervention. Didn't need it the first time round, but really helped the second time.

turns out i needed a bit more help with the parenting stuff tho :)

CF I'd ditch the mattress x

Wish me luck for debrief tomorrow folks! DH coming with me which will help.

Hope it helps HMM

I'm back at school (lunch). Dh has brought Q to the zoo today. I'm really because I'd like to be in his place for a 2nd week. I have a new student, who is lovely. They are all lovely. Just really, really exhausting all at once and as I haven't done much schoolwork over the holiday, I have loads ahead of me now. Summer isn't too far away!

HMM I hope it goes well for you today.

Hi all, my god that was enlightening! I'm so glad I pushed for a debrief. It turns out I definitely didn't have pre-eclampsia so my high BP was purely as a result of my having borderline high BP normally plus the stress of so many things going wrong or not as I'd have liked. I basically need to keep myself (and DH/ midwife need to keep me) as un-stressed as possible and I can't let myself get worked up even if things aren't going as I want them.

The midwife I saw was brilliant and is going to make sure I get an experienced midwife and make sure they know I'll be anxious after last time. My main concern was that I would be made to lie on my back for continuous monitoring which was much more painful last time and it was me arguing that I wanted to be on my front on the birth ball which initially set my stress levels shooting up. She said it was rare to make people lie on their back and she pretty much said it was due to the inexperience of the midwife I had that I had to lie on my back to get the foetal heartbeat (which I kind of knew but nice to hear!).

I've now started a thread to get as many de-stressing tips as possible for the big day! If anyone has anything to add I'd really appreciate it - here

I'm Term in 2 days eek!

I used the hypnobirthing CDs religiously last time and I was really calm at home before I went in the hospital to be fair, doing well on my ball, but I wasn't in active labour as it turned out because my contractions (which were 5 mins apart at home) stopped on the way to hospital. I've only listened to it once so far this time... I am just ringing round hypnobirth therapists to see if it's worth my going in for a session - I was going to try a reflexologist before I saw the replies to my thread because I thought they could teach DH how to massage certain parts of my foot to keep my BP down/ keep me calm?? I'm a bit cynical about all the alternative therapies to be honest so am wondering if I'm just planning to throw my money down the drain....?

I wish I could labour at home but they said fairly high chance of big postpartum hemorrhage again so better to be in hospital

Plus there's the strep B...

HMM glad it went well for you :) Maybe make a list of things that could be triggers for stress and superglue them to dh's clothes make sure you bring them with you for DH to have on hand to look out for? Maybe this is bad advice. I'm not sure. Sorry if it is .

My contractions most certainly did not halt when I was disturbed or moved. I could barely sit in the car, writhing around in pain. I must be a very odd specimen of our species

Star on the contrary that is very useful and very similar to what my dad was just telling me about cognitive therapy, thanks! [HMM goes in search of superglue]

PPH I was told at time was mainly (TMI alert - look away Star!) because my BP was so high when placenta delivered, the v small hole it leaves in uterus gushed much more blood than it should and I lost most of the blood in about 5 seconds, the consultant had to go have a shower , but I found out today that also because epistomology (sp) was bleeding too.

I went to hosp at appt time of 24 hrs after waters broke, and had a mec poo as soon as got there which was main reason for induction.

I have a reflexology appt in the morning, she sounds really nice, like my Aunty Barbara! [means nothing to you guys but my Aunty Barbara is really nice and mumsy]

Right, am off for a long soak in the tub.