Sept 08 - No no no, ME do it!

[CappuccinoCarrie]

Shiny new thread for Christmas!

Good news Digi, I'll be keeping everything crossed for you

I can't wait until ds decides he can dress himself. He doesn't even try, he has no desire to do it at all.

DG Keeping everything crossed until your next scan.

My body is slowly but surely collapsing... My stomach muscles have separated really badly, I suppose due to the baby being transverse. Going to mention it to MW next week, as apparently you can get a physio referral for very soon after you give birth, which is apparently a Good Thing in the circumstances.

Have got my mother staying to help out with T, which is lovely, but my goodness she drives me bananas. She's very good about doing what she thinks is useful, but less so at helping out in ways that I think might help. Basically I'd like her to take T away for a couple of hours, but she has decided that cleaning is more important. Saying that, T is currently following her round with the hoover, so I suppose it's occupying him too occasionally... [ungrateful swine of a daughter emoticon]

hopefully My stomach muscles separated really badly too. Its ok now though.

hopefully a friend of mine had to wear a special belt to hold things together while the muscles re-knitted themselves, and is back to a svelt size 10, so you'll be fine!

Iltmimi DS makes no attempt to dress himself either, but one day we asked him to take his trousers down and showed him how to hook his thumbs over the top, and he managed it, so that's progress! And he can take his own shoes off, and I ask him to take his coat off too as that's easy and he's just lazy! DD was demanding to dress herself at this age, DS was seemingly waiting to be told!

Going away for half term, I look forward to catching up with you all when we get back.

Defo get a referral to a physio for post birth Hopefully. It happened to my friend and her MW told her to do crunches - which is a big no no - as she found out when her physio went

Isn't it awful when you have someone helping but they don't do the helping you would like. You feel very ungrateful and extrememly frustrated at the situation because it actually ends up being not all that helpful - even though someone is giving up their time.

MIL has offered to paint our extension rather than have ds for an afternoon every week. The truth is I would prefer to do the painting myself when ds is in bed at lunchtime and at night, and have her look after ds one afternoon so I can get things done around the house.

Oh and DS's quote of the day when everyone was cooing over a friend's newborn... "I don't want to look at the baby because I don't like babies". Oh dear.
And on that bombshell...

carrie He will love "his" baby

ds1 told everyone from day 1 that toby was his.

bookmarking... will b back

Carrie I remember taking Robyn to see my friends new baby last March. She cooed over her and gave her a kiss. On the way home I asked her if she wuld like us to have a baby and she replied 'no thankyou' She absoutely adores Lucy now and cuddles her whenever she can

bookmarking.

The dc's are napping .

Have a good break carrie.

lol carrie, that sounds much like the conversations I've been having with ds about having a new baby in the house.

He is fine when I hold baby's and is quite interested in them and gives them a stroke, but of course the reality of having one full time is going to be much different.

ah, found you again.
Not much happening in my life - ds and dn wreaking havoc on the house every weekend, vomiting bug gone round all of us, work really annoying as I can't get a permanent placement working part-time, and when I apply for new posts half of them wait until after the deadline to say 'sorry, we've withdrawn this post'. 200 people are taking voluntary exit in March/April though, so I hope it gets better after that. And our garden is mostly occupied by building crap thanks to the 2nd most unreliable roofer ever (only has about 3 hours work to go...)

Ds is sometimes asking to sit on the potty, but only as a delay tactic to get another story before a nap/new nappy. Suppose I'd better read up on how to do potty training for when it gets a bit warmer. And find some impressively cool pants to make up for not having bright coloured nappies!

Bookmarking.

...tired bookmarking from me.

We went to RHS Wisley today to see the butterflies in the huge glasshouse. The dc's were shattered after trudging around the grounds and stuffed full of food as we went out for dinner afterwards (thank you mum & stepdad ).

Meglet you thread killer!! [Grin]

Hope all OK. Well, I survived a whole week away though it was exhausting.
We got very little time, even in the evenings. I managed a bit of me time on one night but even then only got a couple of hrs.

C seems to have survived it all, though not sure she'd be happy for me to go away a lot.

Am knackered and away again this week - off to Bristol but taking C and DP with me!
I have a meeting on Thurdsday and DP is working wed, fri and sat. Different industries but good coincidences.

C is trying desperately to get out of bedtime nappy. She keeps getting out of bed wanting a wee and poo but most of the time is just using it as an excuse to get out of bed.
Sigh. Can't really stop her in case she needs one really but its a real pain.

bookmarking...

eek, have just spent nearly £300 on roof bars and bike racks!

Wow debi adds up doesn't it? DH is thinking of getting a bike and cycling to work to save money (works 5-10min drive from home), but not till we've got dc#2 in our arms as cycling really doesn't help when ttc. And he's never cycled on the roads before so anything to put it off.

Am currently waiting to go into my counselling appointment. Was booked last year as a follow up to see how I'm getting on after the mc. Plenty to talk about! Feeling a little more pg today (bit of mild cramping), although still bricking it about the scan on Friday.

DS' sleep has regressed. Dh has spent the last two nights in his room as he was coming into ours earlier and earlier, and thrashing about loads. Getting kicked in the stomach is something I'd like to avoid at the moment.

Debi we were meant to get bike gear for the car last year, as we had lovely ideas of cycling around Bewl Water most weekends. We looked at bike seats but could not work out if at the back or front of the bike would be better. Also are bikes better on the roof or behind? I get scared when I see them on top as I think they will fall off .

DG best wishes for your scan on Friday. DD is being a pickle at the moment with sleeping. For the past few nights she has been waking at 2am and wailing for me or DH and only calming down when she is in our room. Unfortunately she resists going back to her room, which means me and DH get limited sleep clutching onto the side of the bed :(

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Digi all the best for Friday. I have everything crossed for you (well, except my legs! SWI continues for me!)

Hello all.

Digi all the best for Friday. I have this feeling that it'll all be smashing!

I have been gone for a while, as Diego is still a bit difficult and needs all my attention, and Ines is, well, still quite new.

She is a delightful, chilled out baby, but she does eat an awful lot at night, so most nights I don't get more than one 2 hour stretch. I have reverted to cosleeping, as she can latch on while I continue sleeping. The problem is Diego waking up in the night and needing either DP or me with him. All in all, no one gets much sleep in Pacita HQ, but I'm trying to be zen about it, repeating the old MN mantra "this too shall pass".

I went to the breast clinic and am delighted to report that my lump is not ominous, just lumpy. Hurrah!

Pacita that's great news that the lump is just lumpy, not something to worry about.

DG keeping everything crossed for friday (including legs - no S without I for us, since I'm slightly worried my pelvis might part company with my body if I tried anything so athletic)

Feeling really sorry for myself today - got struck down by horrendous 24 hour bug thing on Sunday, so was up all night being sick, sore throat, runny nose, headache, pretty much every symptom going. To top it off, T started nursery on Monday afternoon, so I had to go and prop my eyes open for settling in session (apparently ill parents don't require the same quarantine as ill children!). He had another session yesterday (tears when I left, some tears while I was gone, tears when I picked him up) and today (more of the same, fewer tears while I wasn't there apparently, and he didn't fall upon me in quite such hysteria when I picked him up). I would be sorely tempted to give up, but I think, given his personality (extremely bouncy and bubbly and jolly when me or DP are around, very shy and quiet and nervous as soon as we are out of eyesight) it will probably be the same whether we start him at nursery now, in 6 months' time, or possibly even in a year or so. Doesn't stop me feeling absolutely awful about it, and horrifically stressed. Particularly because we're basically sending him to give me a break because of the whole pelvis-falling-apart thing (and also because I am not a coper with newborns, so a couple of breaks from T will at least mean I can sleep if the baby sleeps, or sit and feed and stare at TV), so it is kind of optional. Am cruel mummy.

And OMG, I just realised I am 34+4. How did that happen? That means I have to have an actual baby soon! [panic emoticon]

Oh, and does anyone use a trailer with a bike with DCs? Vaguely contemplating getting one after number two baby arrives, as nursery is just a bit far to walk, but seems silly to get in the car. Any thoughts/recommendations?