IS THERE A SEPT 2005 CLUB YET?

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Hi all fellow September mums. If I'm duplicating another thread please tell me. If not, would love to hear how everyone is getting on.
Tom is a week old today. All well - though has a slightly infected cord stump so am going to GP today.
I'm still madly hormonal, could burst into tears whenever I think about the impact all this has on my lovely dd (2y2m).

kiwikate i can't do links but try looking on breast/bottle feeding for the expressing clique thread, there is advice about massaging and compressing whilst expressing as well as links regarding fenugeek (hope i spelt it right) which can help increase milk supply.

It must be really difficult trying to work at this early stage in babies life.Rest when you can and try not to expect too much of yourself.

ohh sorry cross posted with sarahhal.

STM - 7 hour sleeps already!?!?! That is great. Longest Grace has slept in 4 weeks has been 3 hours. She once went 5 hours between feeds, but it is usually 2 to 3 hours between feeds, except in the evenings when she feeds CONSTANTLY for 4 to 6 hours at a stretch.

Have expressed and am leaving dh to administer the first bottle ever. Hope it goes well for him (and that I am asleep and don't hear any fuss)

SH & MH thanks for the support. It didn't quite work out, because I had not expressed enough, so had to get up to feed in the end anyway. At least she took the bottle happily.

Will check out the expressing threads. At least I got a good hour lie=down (with dd crying for food in one room with dh in attendance, and ds 2.5yo crying in the other room because he didn't want to sleep with my mom in attendance - I just pretended I couldn't hear a thing)

Still nothing from RZ. Hopefully we'll hearfrom her very soon.
Expressing is very hit and miss with me atm. Tried just now, but to ittle avail. But have managed 3oz a few times, all for the freezer. When dd was little, the best results came when I expressed from one boob while she fed on the other. By the time she was about 5 months I was regularly getting 8oz plus. But then I had more time for expressing then, and was more committed. this time I rarely feel bovvered.

KK - keeping a business going???? NEARLY in tears???? You sound utterly heroic to me. Most of us are struggling with just getting through the day. Go easy on yourself!

mummyhill - hope your family are feeling better. sounds like my difficult time the other night - ahhh
KiwiKate - hope you are ok. I do voluntary work & have had to ask my collegues to help but when I have to ask if they would make home visits I feel guilty. I don't feel able due to lack of sleep & then having to drive with ds4 in chaos city traffic.

Hi All

RZ - I don't feel it's right to post without sending best wishes that all's going OK - really hope that it's just that you're too busy to post xxx

Just surfacing from a very busy few days... Conrad seems to have been feeding constantly - then I suddenly decided I couldn't do without some new clothes to make me a bit more presentable - the bonus of this though is that I've found a fantastic baby feed/change facility in Leamington Spa - feeding room provides three of those wonderful rocking chairs designed for nursing mothers and a chilled water dispenser! oooh I didn't know I was born!

To tell you the truth I'd rather taken the pee out of the chairs until I experienced one - I take it all back, they're brilliant! no need for adopting that bent forwards, knees scrunched up position that I always end up doing - you know the one they have diagrams of, saying how incorrect it is

KiwiKate... I thought I was a busy lass?!?!?!

Just been catching up on the thread - where everyone's been answering Kelli's questions - I see I'm not the only one who's been fed up of looking a frump! My spending spree was rewarded today by DP complimenting me on how I looked... it's been a while since that's happened - last May I think

Beatie - 4oz of ebm and then some!!! A very content little froggie baby I should imagine!!

Conrad's having a doze now, DP's disappeared off again as he's got case notes to write up for Monday and my wonderful Noop has gone to the Cantonese to provide food for me so I don't have to cook, I might just round the evening off perfectly by getting myself a glass of chilled wine

Hi all, sorry not been on much lately, having a bit of a crisis. Me and DH had a MAJOR disagreement about the baby the other night, basically he wanted her to sleep in the swinging chair thing + I wanted to start to get her used to sleeping in the basket (she usually sleeps in the Moses basket later on, but not in the early evening). I was trying to do the pick-up put-down method from the Baby Whisperer book. Basically, it all went a bit pear-shaped and I ended up being assaulted I am now at my parents' house with the baby having some time out. The problem I have is (apart from the obvious) that DH can't see anything wrong with her sleeping in the swing, and he thinks that if she cries and I can't stop it then I'm "torturing her" in some way. What the hell can I do to make him realise that she needs to sleep in the ruddy moses basket?!!

ladyl, do what my friend did, set the health visitor on him! has he read the same books as you? if not throw them at him and tell him to read and inwardly digest. I must be very lucky that when it comes to the children dh bows down to my greater knowledge, afterall i am the one with a child care qualification and i spend the most time with them.

all is calm in the hill house. DH is playing with his new phone and both children are sleeping.

I am quite impressed, I was a size 20 pre pregnancy and i managed to put on, zip up and sit down comfortably in a pair of size 16 stretch fit jeans this afternoon whilst window shoping. Loosing any weight whatsoever is a major miracle for me under normal circumstances let alone post nataly.

Fingers crossed for relativley quiet nights all round. Will look in durring my late expressing session.

LadyL I'm so for you! It's such a stressful time, isn't it? Hope you sort things out.

ladyl - hope you work things out - you & your baby are the most important - there is no excuse for violence. best wishes to you xxx

LadyL - hope this bad behaviour on dh's part is a one off. If not you need to talk to someone. Hugs and much respect to you. cat me if you need to chat love mummyhill.

thanks for the kind words. This is a one-off, although he can be pretty controlling a lot of the time if you disagree with him. Have been in touch, and he still insists that the other night's incident was 'my fault', so not too sure where we go from here really. At least my parents are pretty easy with me staying for as long as need be... not quite the great start to the little one's life I'd envisaged...

LadyL - not quite sure what to say but a huge hug to you. Take care of yourself and put you and the little one first. Being assaulted is not and can never be your fault. Thank god you've got your parents to go to. Lots of love.

Oh LL - thats all you need.

I'm really sorry- its not your fault. It is never excusable to use force of any kind to make a point. I understand he's tired and frayed like us all. Thinking of you.

I don't know if this helps - but my Dad was very stressed some years ago and pushed my Mum over in a fit of peak - he blamed her - we all sided with her - he's never done it again.

Oh LadyLazarus, how awful you must be feeling. I totally agree with Franch and Redhelen... it's not, and never could be, your fault. {{{Hugs}}} to you and your little one

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend with well behaved DH's and DP's....

Mine's been a sweetie and has just said he'll buy me a little run-around, so no more waiting for buses in the rain for me and Conrad

Hugs to the babes, both teeny and the older ones too xxx

LL i hope things improve plz dont go back until he at least accepts it was his fault he lost his temper and apologises and promises not to do anything like it again, we can all get stressed but any kind of abuse is out of order and he needs to learn right now that you will not tolerate it, well done for getting out of there, thinking of u

i've been a bit upset about my weight if im honest, i've been and bought size 20 jeans today and though im happy ive at least got something normal to wear i still feel sad im not the size 12 i was pre pg, its going to take a lot of hard work but im determined to get there, is anyone else on a mission to lose weight, perhaps we can support each other?

dp goes bk to work tomorrow and im scared (even tho im now mum of 2 i still feel so inexperienced as dd1 is now 6) ive been and bought the gina ford book hoping it will give me an idea on what kind of routine i can expect from my 2wk old anyone else trying this?

Hi everyone,
RZ, still thinking of you, hope you get a chance to pop in soon just to let us know that you're both safe and well, i'm getting very worried about you xxx
LADYL, hugs sweetie, i really feel for you. don't think that you were in the wrong, i used to get annoyed with dp. when he does the early morning feed, instead of putting her back in her cot, he let her sleep in her chair. I really do sympathise, people don't realise what strain babies put onto relationships, believe mme you're not alone try and keep your chin up and make sure you get a apology
KELLI, i too am on a diet now. went back to slimming world 3 weeks ago, and have lost 2 and half pounds so far, get weighed tomorrow so wish me luck i'll need it. I am still 10 and half pounds over my pre pg weight so am trying very hard to shift it.
Went to mil surprise 60th last night and had a fab time, Mia was very well behaved. she's such a little angel and was awake most of the night and smiling at everyone. i wore the only going out outfit that fits me and the LOVELY barmaid told me i look fabulous and that she wouldn't have said i'd had a baby 6 weeks before. VERY NICE LADY LOL. i ended up collecting lots of glasses for my new bf LMAO.
Sorry to waffle, hope all of you are ok, and babies and older children too.
STM, you didn't answer our question, how has dnm taken to noah? good i hope
KELLI, what diet are you going to try and how much do you need to lose? i will give you lots of support hunny

Weight !!

I too scared to weigh myself!! I was a size 14 - some of my more generous clothes still fit - which probabaly means I'm now a size 16. Will try to get to Slimmers world (Fat fighters!)on Tuesday! I lost over a stone with them just before I feel pregnant with Rachel. I hate dieting - but I do like slimmers worlds green days - as a veggie they work well for me and I love quorn!

Take care all especially LL and like you all very worried about RZ XXXXX

This week I'll shall be organized and may even tidy up (yeah right!!!)

thanks for the support i was 10 n half stone pre pg then went up to almost 15stone (omg) im now about 13 n half so i have 3 n half at least i need to loose ideally id need to lose 4 stone so i have a long way to go, wasnt planning on dieting just gonna eat sensibly cut out all snacks just eat cereal when i get peckish and exercise as much as poss to start with im going to walk to and from school in the afternoons join a bums n tums class (if i can get a babysitter on a tue am - hopefully my mum will be around sometimes) also go to aquafit on a thursday night (this is when ive lost a bit so i feel ok in my swimsuit) - this is the plan and dp is very supportive so i should stick to it, my goal is to be a size 14 at most for my birthday in december........still baby jess s only 2wks old so i hope most of it will go down naturally (plz someone tell me that it will)

good luck for your weigh in and keep us posted, maybe we should start a weight thread?

we can all spur each other on. yippee, it's great when you're doing it with someone else.
REDHELEN, i know a recipe for syn free, meat free lasagne for a green day if you want it????

Oooh Can I join you girls wanting to lose weight too?

You might think I'm a bit of a wuss but I've not dared to weigh myself yet - was a very svelt 8.5 stone before getting pregnant... No wonder my old clothes don't fit me now, when I bought new things last week my GAP jeans were a size 16

OK so I realise pre-preg weight rather out of the question (think my boobs alone weigh that now!!) but I'd love to lose all this wobbly fleshy stuff that's lingering around my middle

Redhelen - I can't stand diets either and have been walking every day to get muscles something like - but still find the ligaments in my groin are very weak and it all aches if I've walked just a bit further or faster (anyone else experiencing this?)

Sorry, I'm waffling too now

going to try to eat only 'sensible stuff' tomorrow

night night x

I too would like to lose weight and tummy. I was also 8.5 stone before prenant - got up to about 12.5 stone I think. And I'm 11 stone at at the moment.

Have no idea what size I am - my bottom half is still in maternity clothes. I think my top is about a size 12, although size 10 clothes give me a most impressive cleavage .

Think my feet have grown too - I need new clothes, shoes, body etc

Hi everyone I have been reading but usually don't have enough hands free to type.

Firstly - I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to LL. I agree with everyone else that it was not your fault and that your DH should accept responisbility for his actions.

Add me to the trying to lose weight club. I weighed myself when Alice was 10 days old and I was 12 st 3oz. I think I went from 11 st 3oz to 13 st 3oz during pregnancy. But, I would like to be closer to 10 stone - which I would have been pre dd1.

I plan to join some exercise classes or a gym when Alice is old enough to go into a gym creche. I hate the gym but I will do it for a short time to tighten up my abdominal muscles.

I wish I could find a postnatal exercise class specifically geared to pregnancy flab. I found one for a Friday which allows you to take your baby along but I have nowhere to leave dd1.

Alice smiled last week at 3 weeks and 1 day. I guess you get earlier smiles with a late baby. She smiled for DH first though

Alice won't take a bottle. We've tried to give her a bottle of ebm everyday. We had some success one or two days but now she just gags and screams. I don't know what to do? Should we revisit it at 6 weeks down the line or should we persevere?

Cabe - you described my breastfeeding position perfectly I sit exactly how the books tell you not to. With such a tiny tot, what else can you do? (Except buy one of those expensive glider chairs - apparently)