Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

Crazy...i'm soooo thrilled for you all...the ms and tiredness will soon pass and awwww it is sweet of you to recall how much we all mean to eachother..I had a look through old threads a few months ago and oh yes it does bring back just what a rollercoaster time it was for me and how much you wonderful women helped me survive it relatively sane.

OHM...glad that all is well with your little bun...I was lucky and St Marys got their superdooper new scanner when I was 16wks with Alex so all my scan were crystal clear (and I was spoiled by having them every month too ) I'm sorry you have spd this time and hope the physio can help

oooops got to go...bbl

Wow, the thread's suddenly picked up again - lovely!

OHM - I think Crazy's right about nighttime training - I think there's a hormone that gets produced at some point which stops them weeing while they're asleep, so you just have to wait until that kicks in. On the other hand, that might be rubbish. Anya hasn't had daytime accidents for a while but did do every so often a long time after she'd been trained. I think she was experimenting to see how long she could leave it and sometimes just left it too long - maybe E's just doing that. Brilliant news about the scan - glad everything's ok.

Crazy - sorry you're feeling so rough - hope it passes soon - did you go through similar phases with the other pgs? Can understand if you can't make the trip next week.

Nothing much to report here - all is still going well with the new bloke - if you want to see photos etc check out RS on my fb. Babysitting is a bit difficult to arrange at times - next door neighbours are being very obliging but they're away this weekend so we've not been able to have a night out together. Could ask my parents but it feels a bit like being a teenager again - going on a date and then going home to parents giving me the Spanish inquisition - I really don't want to have to do that unless I have to!!

Can't wait to see you all next week

QoL-Just had a nosy, he looks nice

Think you're right about the hormone thing, was posting on phone and couldn't remember exactly.

I don't remember being this bad the last times but I kind of didn't have a choice as I was working both times so had to get on with it, plus with S, had loads more going on.

FT-Hope you're ok, it is nice going back and reading how lovely everyone was :)

oh Lord! Just after a lovely (for me) meet up and we all go quiet again

I thought I'd come on here for a whinge...the silly cow person (I think I shall refer to her as SC from now on)and my idiot db finally came to my Mums for dinner last night...I'm a "tad" irritated that it has taken them a whole month for them to manage to drive the whole 1.5 miles (yes, 1.5 as in one and a half not 15 or 150) to bring her new grandson round (rather than expect her to go to them and be made to feel unwelcome) and eat her food with us (rather than db calling for the meals she has been cooking for them,) but I'm utterly disgusted that though SC freely admits to "freaking out" at discovering that DN has a cleft palate (relatively easily fixed at 8-9mths) she is totally unfazed at the recent advanced hearing test that indicates that he could possibly be profoundly deaf and though she bemoaned his lack of weight compared to her sisters' huge 3 week old, she spent ages glorying in how well endowed he is incomparison to his cousin and how he will have no problems in 'that' department .....AIBU to think that she is a totally witless chav of the lowest order with her priorities completely in all the wrong places or am I being a snob?

FT she is unbelievable!! I am absolutely with you on this one. Crazy woman

OVHM; thanks for that... I have taken a step back and tried to analyse myself to see if it is me being biased but quite honestly, despite my former 'job' and some of the people I used to work with, I'm sure I'm not a snob...yes some of my friends are from very privileged backgrounds and I am friendly with some of the arts world elite, but I also have friends with little education and from deprived backgrounds but what they ALL have is a decent level of moral and emotional intelligence and integrity...I just despair when faced with the Jerry Springer/Jeremy Kyle show level of humanity.
Having got that off my chest I shall now try to stop bewailing the situation .... (until the next 'episode' anyway )
How are you doing? is the spd still giving you trouble or have you had some relief/physio?

Crazy; thrilled to see the authorities have listened to DD1 and denied acess for the time being ...woohoo!!! common sense wins at last!!!!

WWAJC; how did the weekend date go? have you both kept to your decision or are you still seeing eachother?

Latest news from here is my bloodpressure is sky high so I now have to join those of you who are doing such good job of losing those excess pounds (Strawberry, Dal, Inzi) no excuses... so if you see me posting about getting possed or cooking something that sounds too delicious to be good for me you have my permission to slap my wrists.

Incidentally last weekends 'serious' clean up uncovered a pair of black sunglasses(behind the settee) 2 sunhats (1st light blue with flowery interior and the other dark blue, peaked with legionaire flap) 2 sachets of infant calpol and a really good large tupperware box ... could the owners please claim them send me addresses to return your 'goods' to

I'm so rubbish, thread disappeared off my 'watched' and was too lazy to find.

FT-I think the sunglasses are mine but don't worry about posting, will get them whenever or give them to charity shop. SC sounds like a very apt name for her, made me laugh that she more worried about the size of his tackle than deafness! Well, not humour, but disbelief. Just a though, but do you think she is maybe like it with just your family?? If she perhaps feels defensive for some reason? I know I'm different with OHs family cos his mum is also a -SC and they-especially his mum, seem to think I act/am somethingh that I'm not. Not saying you do anything to provoke it, maybe she finds it hard to feel comfortable. Also, sounds like your DB needs a kick up the arse, bloody picking meals up from your mum's Why doesn't he cook if she's bust with baby??

Thanks re the court case, was pretty shocked when solicitor said Caffcass had reccomended no direct contact yet, weekly phonecall and fortnightly letters/magazines. DD did speak to him on Mon and really seemed to enjoy it after the first few scary minutes. Think that is more nosiness for the gossip that is going on at that end though. The case is being moved to Bristol after Oct, so he now knows we're in the Bristol area but it is rather large anyway I suppose.

Other news is that went for the dating scan yesterday, took DD1 as she was desperate to go and OH away. All is fine with the baby, am just over 13 weeks. Also saw consultant and they have no plans to force a c section on me due to several problems that have arisen..mainly rectocele...so that's good, although have to have extra scans later on in pg and need daily asprin. Girls know about pg and seem happy enough although Shannon is adamant that if it's a boy we will be swapping him for a girl, so far we've settle on that if it is really really cute and a boy, then it'll be ok, but if it's a boy and not cute, then he's had it..he will be getting swapped.

Girls are doing well after the move, I'm doing ok although miss everything i know, and struggling with the lack of independence regarding money, chosing what i can buy etc. Also had mil here for a whole week the other week, with her 4yo. She wasn't a bad guest but it was tiring especially cause I'd literally just got over a month of feeling at deaths door. Although, was undermined a couple of times but nothing too major.

Had some bad news too, OHs aunty, whom struggles with conceiving had a mc last week. She was due around the same time as me, has a 3yo and had been trying since she was born. the baby died at 7 weeks and they're having a funeral. She is struggling so badly and really want to help her, but think I'm probably the last person that could help. So am keeping quiet for the time being, I have texted her to say to let me know if I can help. Not sure if I can do more. What do you all think?

Oooh and my niece is due one week today Really like her mum, although not my db so much. Am very excited, may be born on my birthday.

How is everyone else then?

OHM-How you managing? Hope spd is leaving you be.

QoL-Am also interested to know how it went with R, was just going ot wait ti find out on Sat though. Girls are excited that you're coming, me too. You'll be the second set of people to visit us:)

bah humbug!!!!!!! another post lost......grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!

I found it! Gonna catch up now... X

Well thankfully I haven't mossed anything too major..
Floria- Sc is unbelievable
OHM- just wanted to reassure you that Eren sounds totally normal. I am
However worried Dylan will never get it he has been potty trained since last
November. He was ok bear bummed, ok with pants on, but oce we put trousers on him he never quite got the hang of it. At one point very early on he was doing great for a few weeks but ever since he has wet himself several times a day. He's slightly worse at nursery as is distracted but not much better at home We've tried everything and worry he'll still be like this when he starts school. He is totally dry at night and rarely has an accident, only really if he gets disturbed by something and doesn't go straight to the loo.

Any tips anyone? We've tried reminding him all the time, taking toys away when he wets himself, not making a big deal of it, getting frustrated and slightly cross, ignoring it completely an everything in between.
I am convinced he is physically capable of staying dry, I think he just can't be bothered to go to the loo or gets distracted/forgets. Aarrgghh! So frustrating, I'm sock of washing several pairs of trousers a day

Bare bummed

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Heeelllooooooo!

Thanks inez, I'm not sure about pull ups cause I don't think he's that bothered about big bot pants. He kinda just forgets and acts like he has a nappy on anyway sometimes. Just absent mindedness I think. We have got him toy story pants and mr men etc, he likes them but still wees in them

I'm hoping he will just getting but it's been a really long time now.

All nursery suggest is to keep reminding him but we can't do that constantly, surely he has to take responsibility himself at some point or he'll never take himself to the loo once he goes to school and we're not there.

We've tried to ease off on the reminders and just let him realise himself, if he's not too busy he does realise bit if he's playing or engrossed in something then no chance.

Also, most of the time when we ask him if he needs a wee (even when it's obvious he does) he just says no cause he doesn't want to break off from what he's doing so we just have to end up telling him to go and do a wee. This is obviously what's happening at nursery when they ask him but they don't have the time to keep asking him and insisting he goes, plus there's even more distractions there

dal - a friend of mine has a really similar thing with her little girl, the same age as ours. i'm going to be seeing her tomorrow, so I'll ask her about what she's doing, and will report back. it must be really frustrating for you with all the extra washing :(

That would be useful thanks Strawberry
Inzi- I realised that it seemed a but like I was just rejecting all your suggestions in my last post. Didn't mean to come across that way, sorry! Guess I'm just a bit at the end of my tether with it so have become a bit defeatist..

at all the odd words and spelling mistakes! I'm blaming my phone!

Dal-I'm sure you will have, but all I can think of is to make a massive fuss when he does go, maybe a sweet/sticker/whatever he loves every time he does and when he does wet himself keep as non commital as possible and quietly change him. Obv this will only work at home...or sit him on the loo every hour, even if he says he doesn't need to go. We do this with Shannon before we go somewhere or bed, often she says she doesn't need t
o but then will have a big one....sorry I can't think of much else :-s

Hmm also you mention it doesn't do it with just pants on? Can you put thin shorts or trousers on so they don't feel padded like a nappy or pull up maybe :)

Hi Everyone
Dal We have the same problem with Alex...he has been out of nappies since he was 18months old but even now 'forgets' to go if he is distracted. For a very long time I told myself it was because we potty trained too soon but as long as he isnt distraced he is just fine..he has improved a little recently, I dont know if that is because we now simply state every 2 hours 'toilet time' (and before every trip out), no questions, no arguments (if he protests we threaten to take whatever he is absorbed in at that moment away) or because Dh lost it a bit a few weeks ago and made Alex clean the floor up after himself or because I couldnt change him into shorts (he 'loves' shorts atm, refuses to wear trousers ) and made him wear long trousers (not being stroppy with him, honest, just had no clean ones left in the drawer) but we have been ok for the last couple of weeks(touch wood)....how good he will be at nursery when he goes back I dont know ...now to tackle the 'getting him to wipe properly' problem and the "but I haven't touched the toilet!" hand wash refusal problem

Crazy, you have a good poi t about the stickers and making a fuss. We could step that up a bit and see if it helps. When we started potty training we did that and he had a sticker chart but it got to the point he wasn't bothered about the stickers anymore so we just stopped. We still give him stickers for pooing on his potty or in the loo and that works well. He hardly ever poo's in his pants. We've had a lot of probes with his poos and constipation, it started when he used to drink hi cal milk and take hi cal powders, clogged him up . Anyway, he's a lot better now and we're finally trying to wean him off lactulose!

Floria, I don't mean this to sound wrong but I'm glad someone else has the same issue. We were starting to think it was just us. At nursery there are other kids who have accidents but only once in a while, bot several times a day..

Oh god, we haven't even got on to bum wiping yet! He is scared of hand dryers though..

Helloooooooooo!

Just to add the the potty dilemma, have you tried putting the stickers on the potty - it worked an absolute treat with Rhydian.

Sorry to be rubbish!

Crazybit - shows how out of touch I am, I've been really confuddles about you being near Bristol ... we'll have to meet up!

Back to being cr@p now ...

Thank's for the suggestion crochet. Currently sticking them on his top but will give that a whirl if we're getting nowhere!

How is everyone today?

I feel stupidly broody but am trying to wait, my head says wait and my heart says not to wait argh!

Eva- how you doing?

Crazy- thinking of you, you feeling any better than earlier?

Always thinking of you all xx

Dal we more or less have the same problem with the boys. Eren just simply would rather sit and play in his wee-sodden pants/trousers sometimes than miss out by going to the toilet!! We've tried everything, and he still does it. You are not alone my lovely!!

Ironically, he seems to do it more when he's at home rather than when we are out and about, which i don't understand..

He also don;t do it every day, its very sporadic. I might have to give in to nighttime pants as i know he has a habit of night time bed wetting when school/nursery is involved. We did a 3 month trial at a private nursery a few months ago and bed wetting was a big issue. We pulled him out of there and he was fine almost straight away... then a month ago we did a trial session at his new school and guess what...he started wetting the bed again

I guess with a new baby in the mix soon, things might be easier in bed time pull ups of some sort.... i'm not sure whats best anymore

I saw an advert on TV for pull up for up to 7 year olds!! I was shocked, if this carries on till then i'll go nuts. I may as well buy shares in Pampers!