Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

Hi Ladies, just a quick update because me and my laptop arent friends no more. Until after this bump disappear it is way too uncomfortable.

Had my pre-op appointment today at the hospital incase I needed a c-section, which was booked for 23rd March. When we got there for 2pm we were told that they might have made a mistake because they make appointments for Tuesdays. Anyway after a long wait they agreed to get the relevant people to see me. Someone then came and told me that unfortunately due to a very complicated procedure that will happen on Wednesday they can no longer give me the slot and I had an option of Monday 21st or Thursday 24th. Of course I chose the 21st, domt think I can last that long.

So I must be there early in the morn and will probably be taken into theatre by noon if I am lucky. This of course is as long as baby doesnt come on its own before. But no matter what I will have my little bundle by Monday.

Hi to everyone will do proper catch up soon.

Just marking so I don't lose you all again. Will get up to date.

Just popping in to wish Eva a smooth delivery today and a quick recovery...cant wait to see pics of you new bundle of joy.

QoL I hope someone more to your liking comes around soon ...I wouldnt worry about having a child in tow making you less attractive...it is only a drawback to the sort of men who dont want kids of their own either so you wouldnt want to know them (sorts the wheat from the chaff eh? )

Neeps I hope J stretches her sleep pattern for you soon and I hope D settles too (though to tell the truth Alex is like that without the disruption of a new sibling)

off to eureka with 'mr attitude' today, he has started answering back concerned inquiries with "I know what I'm doing!" and flinging his things on the floor after nursery, throwing himself on his bed (on his back, leg crossed over raised knee) with is Leapster Explorer and answering entreaties to join me with "I'm busy" "hang on" or "I'm not finished yet")...I thought I had another 10 years before we got this behaviour...hopefully a day at the childrens science museum will readjust the attitiude

Thought I would have loads to catch up on but you've all gone quiet! Dareh and I have both been unwell and it is taking ages to get better properly. Bloody bugs he picks up from playgroup. We've both had conjuctivitus and it is not nice! Plus a horrid cold which has moved into my ear and I can't hear properly which feels weird.

I am busy trying to work out what to do about work and it is really stressing me out. I can go back in August and be there for the start of the new term. Means I can get to know new classes from the start, school will be happier. Also I am hoping to run a new course for seniors which I am quite excited about. Or I could just say sod it and take my full year. I won't have the trauma of putting Jana in a nursary and the school might not even let me do the course I want to do anyway. We might not manage financially though, it will piss ppl off at work and I don't want to totally forget how to do my job! Feel like whatever I do it will be the wrong thing.

Hope everyone is well. Not sure I will get back on this weekend as DH is away having fun in London so I will be on my own.

Hi all, like neeps thought that the thread might be busy. But looks like everyone has been really busy.

Neeps Good luck with the course. I would suggest do what you think is best for you and your family. Have a discussion with DH and decide between the two of you what the best option would be and financially will it be worth it. Or is it the way we have been doing. Small term suffering for long term gain.

So some updates here. I still cant believe we are a family of 4 and that I have 2 beautiful daughters. Zara is an obsolute delight. For some reason towards the end of the pregnancy I was convinced it was going to be a boy. I always said I can only see myself with 2 girls and for that to come true is still so amazing.

First day in hospital she was the quitest and hardly cried but the moment we moved out of the observation ward she screamed non-stop. Which was really stressful because it meant I hardly had time to rest and she would only be quiet once she was feeding. Apparantly cos of her size and the fact that my milk wasnt in yet she needed so much more than what I had. But luckily milk all in now so she is much happier. She is feeding only 5-10 mins at a time falls asleep and wants feeding again the moment she wakes up.

Can anyone tell me is it quite normal at this early stage for her to do a poo after each and every feed. I cant recall with A because we were back in hospital by now cos of my wound. Talking of which, I have a feeling my wound is re-opening again. Tonight just before my shower I decided to have a little look using a mirror. I could definitely see an opening and showed DH and he said I was right. I have midwives coming sometime tomorrow and will have to mention it to them.
This time around I am just annoyed cos I was told it cant happen again. Also I have a 3 year old DD and hospitals are way too quiet for her. DH would want to be at hospital to support me but cant with DD as she is only allowed from a certain time and she has been so great since we came from hospital that I dont want the stress of going back and worry again and more importantly it is so expensive for DH to come to hospital everytime and on top pay £10 per day for parking.

So fingers cross what I saw was not my wound opening again and all is well.

Hi to everyone and hope all is well on yourside.

Oooh, it's all gone quiet !

Eva - congrats, seen the pics on fb and Zara is beautiful. Can't remember about them doing a poo (omg, how long ago does that seem?!?) - seem to remember it was quite frequent though. How is your wound? (sorry if missed that on fb) - hope you are still at home and all is well.

Neeps - hope you are all better soon and you can hear properly again. Don't think there's an easy answer to your work thing - isn't that the eternal struggle of working mums that we always feel as though we're letting down either children or work colleagues (or both)? When do you have to decide by? Are there any alternatives to Jana being in nursery full-time such as grandparents having her one or two days?

FT - hope you had a good time at Eureka. Anya does the 'I'm busy' thing too, although she usually gets away with it by adding 'I'll just be five minutes, ok?', which is too cute to get cross about.

No news here - all quiet on the dating front - I think I've exhausted all the interesting ones now so might have to start on my reject list soon! How's everybody doing with the clocks going forward? I've not even attempted to get Anya to adjust, so she's going to bed late and getting up late at the moment. That might gradually change when she has a couple of days of getting up earlier for nursery.

Hi Ladies, a quickie as I need to go to bed but had a quick scan and needed to do replies!

We've been to Aberdeen all weekend at a christening, was lovely but so tired now and Shannon was sick as we where leaving the city so not good, she was not too bad afterwards though.

Eva-Hope your would is okay! Well done on your gorgeous daugter,she is lovely, I bet you're so proud. Shannon poo'd after every feed and in between for ages, was so fed up of shitty nappies and spew everywhere, it did calm down though :)

QOL- Don't start on the reject list, find another free site to try first!

Neeps-Can't you compromise and go part time somehow..? I know what you mean about not wanting to forget etc but I think you could regret going back too early. :)

FT_Both my two are Miss attitudes, as well you know Shannon is getting worse, taking after DD1 I think, and she only wants to know R at the min, in fact I got booted in the stomach yesterday as she wanted him, little sod. I was nearly crying it hurt that much.

I'm getting cravings to smoke, I started again after all the stuff with EX, but am trying to nip it in the bud. Oh and received a phone call the other day, he has entered a guilty plea so we do not have to give evidence, DD has still refused to speak to or see him though. He will be sentenced next Monday. Off to bed now. Love to all, will try and get on again this week xx

NeedCoffee - glad Shannon soon got better for your trip, its a nightmare when they throw up in the car, sods law its always on a long trip.

Good news about your ex pleading guilty, at least you don't have to go through with any more crap, and are you pleased that DD doesn't want to see him? Does she talk about it much?

Try and give up the smoking again, you'll be financially better off and health wise too :) How goes it with the relocation, are you still going?

QoL - Keep the faith on the dating sites, new people join every day, and definitely do not compromise yourself with a rejects list, come on woman, be proud ;)

Very cute about Anya and '5 more minutes'

I don't seem to have had much problem with the clocks going forward, but then again my two are into their second week of holidays so have not been going to bed till 8ish and waking up anywhere between 6.30 and 7.30. They are back to school for a week on the 12th before having another week off. Crazy holiday this month, best not to ask

Eva - Many congrats on the birth of Zara, I love the name and according to FB she is behaving very well for you. Long may it continue x Fingers crossed you don't have the same problems with your wound as last time.

Hello to everyone else :)

Well most of you are on facebook so know what's going on my end, but we finally move into our new house on the 9th of April, very very excited, can't wait to get everything unpacked and to settle in.

Then on the 12th of April I go and pick up our new puppy Steve, who is so adorable, I can't stop thinking about him and I have been puppy shopping and reading up on all the information I can for raising puppies. As I pointed out to James when he asked how much it was all going to cost.... 'Less than another child' I said

I will definitely be bringing him to the meet up on the 30th so you can all meet him then.

Love to you all xx

Hi Ladies, NC here, Changed my name to go on another thread but have decided to keep it as I can't be bothered to go into settings and change again. Last week I was supposed ot go for a proceedure involving radiation for problems with my bowel but had to do a pregnancy test to make sure. I got a very faint line so it was cancelled, the rest of the week I continued to get faint lines but yesterday I started cramping and bleeding. Not sure if it was Shannon kicking me or probably just one of them things. Losing a lot of blood and very tired and weepy. Rich has took today off to sort kids out and I was in bed all morning. Am up now, still feel rubbish but need to try and do college work and get on with things. I had a blood test yesterday and got another on Fri to see my HCG levels, pretty sure they're going to have gone down as sore breasts has gone now. Am sad but thinking it is probably for the best what with everything that is going to be happening over the next few months.

LLL-Fab news about the house, I am so so jealous but of course very pleased for you. Lovely news about Steve too, great name. Yep still moving. Rich starts in May and we will hopefully be going in July/Aug time. DD1 does talk about her dad but rejects every offer of contact, even talking on the phone. Not sure if it will go to court for access as if she is saying no I don't think he will want to force her...but he may go down that route. Am trying to encourage at least some contact so that it doesn't end up being that she is forced into it and we have no control over it.

Right, going to look at my work before I get sleepy again. Love to all xx

Thank heavens ! I thought I had killed the thread last week!!!!

Eva Congratulations again on your beautiful daughter...lurve the name Zara...and do hope the wound has heald without needing hospital admission.

QoL try a new site...you deserve the best.(I'd try Classic Fms site if I was looking...at least I'd meet people with the right taste in music ) Lol at Anyas "five minutes, ok?" too cute!

Neeps I feel for you with such a hard decision to make...no advice...just hope you can be happy with whatever compromise you decide on.

LLL Fab house and gorgeous puppy...best advise I can give is to use a crate (dont want him teething on that gorgeous staircase) and take him to the vets for his jabs when he is starving hungry with a tub of fresh chicken pieces in your pocket to plonk in front of him when the vet gets out the needle (especially the microchip one if you are getting it done...it is Huge!)....he wont notice he'll be so busy tucking in and so wont develop that pathological fear of the vets that most dogs have....oh and dont give him too much excersise too soon (difficult with a huge house and gardden and two boys who will want to play continuously with him). Enjoy both the palace and darling Steve (cant wait to see him )

NC/Crazy (suits you) ((((((HugeHugs)))))) It is unlikely to be the kick but no matter how inconvenient it would have been just now it is still very sad...I soooooo sympathise. Take care of yourself and let yourself recover. At least Ex has made things a little easier for you for once, and I think you are handling things perfectly with DD1, you cant do more.

Here ...not a lot to report really...but if you dont mind me getting this off my chest; I'm still terribly worried over my brother and his 'partner'...she upsets someone very week we meet up and this week I reacted without diplomacy (not feeling too guilty about that bit to be honest...I often find I unconciously tend to treat people the way they treat me ...so she has only really got a taste of her own rudeness tactlessness back) but she has apparently texted Db yesterday to tell him that she doesnt know why she agreed to having this baby for him and wants some 'space' ... she is such a manipulative bitch person ...this is her now turning the thumb screws and trying to cut him off from his family ... I just know the next line will be "its me and our baby or them".... I have said all along that it was a collossal car crash waiting to happen, it just looks like it is happening even sooner than I thought and I'm finding it horribly painful to watch.... Sorry for that but I needed to tell someone and cant on FB as she is a 'friend'

WOW I killed the thread again!

Just popping in to say NC/Crazy I'm soooo sorry to hear of your loss. I know it was early on but I'm sure that doesn't make it any less upsetting and sad. Hope the physical size of it is over soon and you're getting plenty hugs from Rich. Here's another (((hug))) from me, thinking of you xxx

Back soon, just trying to get Dylan to eat his bloody lunch! Argh!

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Thanks Dal and FT. Been to docs today, Tue bloods came back as positive and had another done today so back on Tue to find out results, prob get referred for a scan to check it's all gone. Sooo tired atm. Not good. Am already behind with college work for just the past couple of days.

FT-Sorry your fears have been confirmed with the megab**ch. How are you going to approach it? Poor DB. Hope things work out for the best, whatever that may be.

Now I've killed it!

Hi folks,
As usual i have been AWOL for too long and have missed too much. Name changed for a bit (its Mine here!)

Floria, i hope your suspicions are wrong, but you have sound instincts. that woman sounds like a nasty piece of work.

Crazybits, i'm so sorry to hear your news. I hope you feel better soon.

LLL, your house looks A.M.A.Z.I.N.G!!! No wonder you can't wait to get in and make it all homey!!

Hi to everyone else [waves with great enthusiasm!]

I've been busy with work and looking for a new house, which we have now decided to put a hold on for a while. There just seems to be lots of properties about in our price range, but are so much smaller than the one we have! It didn't seem to make much sense to move right now. My dad's condition is getting progressively worst. He is now is the early phase of the last stage of Alzheimer's.... if that makes any sense, so its a big juggling act to care for him between mum and i.
All in all, things are good though. Eren is just fab, much like your little angels!!
I miss being on here and keep telling myself "i must try harder' :)

crazy you will be tired physically and emotionally...try to be kind to yourself and dont expect to be fully fit immediately..I hope things get back to 'normal' asap so you can get on with your treatment, finishing your course, planning your move and starting anew. xxx

No real news here...DB cancelled a visit here for lunch today but declined to say why and he expects to be late for Mothers' Day dinner here tomorrow as he is with his gf until she leaves for her 'special' meal with her kids (she refused an offer to join us)...I have a feeling she is going to get what she wants and he is going to spend the rest of his life torn between his families

Crazybit - sorry to hear your news, hope you are feeling better soon. These things happen for a reason though in my opinion, no real consolation I know xx

Floria - sorry to hear your family news, but your brother has unfortunately made his bed... just be there for him if it all goes wrong x

onehappymama - be strong, sorry to hear about your dad :-(

Oh dear what a negative post

I am also in a negative mood this morning, feel really down over something really silly. 5 years on the trot and only a cup of tea to show for Mothers Day. The boys made lovely cards at nursery/school but that's it, feeling quiite tearful, I know its silly with everything else I have coming up, but hey ho, you can't control your emotions can you.

Love to all you special mum's on this day, hope you all have a lovel time xxx

Onehappymamma-We've missed you! So sorry to hear about your dad :( Please do come on here more, it is a great place to get your frustrations out and you know we're here to listen. Probably best to stay where you are for now, although house prices are meant to be dropping so you could maybe look at selling, renting then buying when they do drop? Are you coming to the summer meet up??

LLL-Sorry you're not having a good day, poor you and booooo at DH for not making you feel more special! Hope the boys are extra specially behaved and cute today to make up for it.

FT-I think the only thing you can do for your DB is to try and make it easier, and knowing you, that is what you will do, you are far more the bigger person than his GF. If you're able to be extra nice to her (say what you want on here!) then how can she possibly stipulate any choices to DB, what would her reasons be? Your family is too nice, now choose?? Hard I know, fingers crossed that she transforms. Maybe she truely does need some love and family bonding after what she went through with her ex. Could you invite her out for lunch, just the two of you, so you can get to know each other better?

News from here, still feel rubbish, hope this is going to lift soon. On the plus side, I have managed to complete 2 of my assignmnets, only 2 to go, although one of them is a biggy. Meant to be starting today, but putting it off being on here! Had a nice lie in this morning, my mum got the girls. Oh I dropped ex's mums mothers day and birthday gift off yesterday, DD was terrified, so I left them further down the street in the car. Her grandad answered with a angry face and just said thank you. I just don't know whether I should be pushing her to see them or not, most people say that I should leave her to decide for herself, but the way things are going she wont ever see her dad again, and I feel like I'm the one that should be guiding her in the right direction, I just don't know what that is! Oh and don't think I've mentioned, but I took DD1 for a meeting with a mental health nurse who has diagnosed her with having a general anxiety disorder and is going ot try her with cognitive therapy to try and combat this. He said I've got to try and stop giving her too much information, and that she needs to trust that I know best and will do the right thing, she doesn't need to know all the things that happen at court and adult things. This is difficult to put into practice as she is constantly asking and craving knowledge of what is going on with who, what did they say etc. Also, of course I will try to do the right thing by her, but how do I know it's right?!?

Anyway, we have got a week booked down in Gloucester in the Easter holidays, paid by R's work to let us get a better feel for the place. The man that Rich has been dealing with so far seems fab, he's addressed all of R's concerns and has had good communication with him. I so hope this is a taste of what the whole company will be like and it will help to verify that we have made the right decision.

Hope you all have a lovely day with your babies. Shannon is particularly funny at the moment, except when she stops the travelator at Tesco with a 'What's this button do?'.
She argues constantly with DD1, example... DD1 'Zip it Shannon!' Shannon-screeching back 'I can't zip it, I haven't got a zip!!!!!'

Or conversation with R
'Shannon when you was little you couldn't jump....white girls can't jump (taken from the film, White men can't jump)'

'Oooooh' says Shannon, 'Can black girls jump then?'

Ummmmm

Oh and very cute at the momemt- 'Mum, I need to tell you something, but it's a secret and you can't tell my sister or my daddy, ok?' 'OK' Says I.
'We're going to go on a bear hunt one day, me you and my sister and daddy!' she then proceeded to say the same to her sister and daddy

She loves nursery too, she shouts across the playground or street to her friends that she loves them and she'll see them at disco dive! (Where dd1 goes, although you have to be 8 to go) She is great at this age. :)

Right better go for a shower and get some work done.

NC - so sorry for you, how awful, and what terrible timing with everything else that's gone on. Take lots of care of yourself. Not surprised dd1 is suffering with anxiety - it would be strange if she wasn't. Not sure what the answer would be about giving her information - what does the cognitive therapy involve? Might be worth finding out some details and then you can do whatever's likely to reinforce that so she's getting consistency in therapy and at home. Maybe it's a vicious circle too - she might be craving knowledge thinking it's going to make her feel less anxious, but if it has the opposite effect then she feels even more anxious and wants to know even more to make herself feel better, etc. - in which case you need to break the cycle somehow. Don't really know though. Rich's boss sounds great - that's a really postive thing at least.

LLL/NC - thanks for the advice re reject list - you are so right, I will hold out, I am worth it . I have joined smooch and cupid today - both free - so will see what happens.

LLL - less than a week to go! You must be so excited, I hope we're going to get pictures when you're all settled. Love the 'less than another child' comment for a puppy . Can completely understand why you are upset today - it shouldn't be much to ask for dh to go to some effort with the boys to make you feel special. Have you mentioned it to him over the years or has he just not realised what he's supposed to be doing? You'll have to start dropping bigger hints .

FT - oooh yes, ClassicFM, not thought of that one - maybe try that next. Sorry your brother is suffering at the hands of his gf - it's no consolation to you of course that you knew this would happen. How sad that someone can think it's ok to behave like this.

Happy - love the new name. Sorry about your dad but so glad that everything else seems to be going right for you - you sound so happy!

I've decided I'm going to sort my garden out, or at least get quite a bit done, putting in patio, etc. A couple of friends came round yesterday who know lots about gardens, plants, design, etc and they've given me lots of ideas. All very exciting - would be lovely to have it all done by summer. Then I can start sharing the piggies meet-ups with FT!

Hope you've all had a wonderful day today and your lo's have been especially good.

LLL i hope you do the same on Father's Day and see how he feels!!! My DH usually forgets valentines day which is no big deal for me as i'm really not that into slushy gushy gestures of love, but after 5 yrs together you'd think i'd get used to it him forgetting, but a girl likes to a spoilt just a teeny tiny bit, so i totally understand why you'd feel teary about it all.

Crazy, you are such a supermum! Just keep doing what you're doing with DDs and you'll figure things out soon enough.

Queen, internet dating is a nightmare but stick at it... my sister met her husband online and so did 3 of my friends. It did take them almost a year though to find the one man that was not a loon, but they got there!!

I hope you've all had a fab day. I certainly did... had a fab lie in (until 8'ish!!), then went to the Science Museum and lunch at a fab Japanese restaurant in Russell Square and chinese takeaway at mum's tonight!! Phew am totally stuffed and bloated, but now thinking of desert

It was the best finish to a fab week..... i got my contract extended at work, finally got the confirmation letter from the school i wanted Eren to go to, starting in Sept, and then found out i'm PG (sshhhhhh its supposed to be a secret as i'm only abt 5wks i think) Crazy, i hope you don;t mind me sharing this xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

onehappymama - many congratulations

QoL-I think it involves training the way she thinks/handles things. I'm sure he will giver her/me excerises to continue at home to make sure it works.

Onehappy-Of course I don't mind, what great news :) Dates sound the same as what mine would have been, it will be a bittersweet following your progress but not for one second would I begrudge you of it. :) Congratulations!! xx

Onehappy (great name change )thrilled to hear you good news, I hope you have a smooth and drama free 9 months. Glad also that your contract has been extended but terribly sorry about your Dad though...you and your Mum must be exhausted, it is such a distressing condition (my Mum, Aunt, great-Aunt and I tried to nurse my Gran through it...but as she was very physically disabled too and as none of our homes could accomodate her needs Social Services eventually took things out of our hands and insisted on placing her in a nursing home).. I was footloose and fancy free at that time too..I dont know where you find the stamina to manage your own home, a job and a 3yr old too!

LLL Totally understand your feelings about mothers day...Dh has had a mug with his infant sons' footprints glazed onto it and silver cufflinks with his sons' fingerprints inprinted on them and travel photoframe with his sons picture on for his fathers days....I have had zero, a bunch of flowers and this year a box of chocolates which he and Alex instantly tucked into...I suggested we could swap lay-ins..he declined... so I was up at 6.30 and made the cooked breakfast and cup of tea myself and didnt get my card and pressie until halfway through the afternoon. His defence is that I am "not his mother" and he does enough for his parents all year round without needing to make a song and dance about MIL at commercially demanded times. It is hard for those of us who were brought up by wonderful fathers who set brilliant examples of how to appreciate our Mothers on special days... especially when we marry men who weren't
Oh and I very much 'hinted' this year too with a 10% discount voucher for the silver fingerprint jewellry place

crazy Hoping that you are feeling a bit better today...the right time will come for you and R (((hugs))). As to knowing what is right for DD1, you have managed everything perfectly so far, keep going with your instincts.
As to my DBs partner, your suggestion that I offer to go to lunch with her is inspired if only I thought for one moment it would work...we went out for Dbs mates birthday dinner 2 wks ago, she sat one person away from me and I spent the whole night talking to the stranger between us, at no point did she even let me catch her eye.......but I will be doing the saccharin sweet treatment (you genius you)

...dh just got home from work...i'll be back (I hope)

hello everyone
so sorry i haven't posted for ages - i have been reading, as I can do that one handed while feeding, but just haven't quite managed to have two hands free to type. Apologies if I forget someone/something - feeling slightly frazzled this evening!

Eva - congrats on your latest addition, love the name and hope Aaliyah is loving being a big sis
Neeps - did you make a decision on returning to work
Crazy - sorry to hear your news, I hope you are feeling better. and that DD1 is ok too.
Onehappy - great news! we like adding to the piggies!
QoL - looking forward to seeing your garden when it's done, and LLL - want to see your house too - hope the unpacking goes ok!
Floria - I second the saccharin sweet treatment - i find it freaks people out when you're nice to them and they expect you not to be

Nothing exciting going on in the world of strawberrylace - life seems to mostly revolve around feeding someone and doing some washing!

Olly is doing well, though he had a sickness bug last week, caught from some child at a party - whose dad brought him even though he knew he shouldn't as the kid had been sick all night the night before grrrrr - I wish people would take some responsibility for not passing on germs.

Twins are fine as well - they are 5 months old now, but still tiny compared to other babies. However, my health visitor said they are doing fine - I thought she might want me to stop breastfeeding them as they are not putting on that much weight, but she said no - she was happy for them to be small and breastfed, if that was what I wanted.

I have now lost 2 stone doing slimming world, which I am very pleased about. Still got a bit more to lose, but at least I can get into my pre-pregnancy clothes now. I am off to treat my self to a frozen Mullerlight yoghurt before bed now - if I close my eyes and wish very hard it's just like ice-cream!

Hope you are all well xxx