Oct 2007 - These little piggies are not so little any more!

[Dalrymps]

Welcome to the thread for ladies who's lo's were born on Oct 2007!

Some of us have been here from the begining and some have joined along the way. New ladies always welcome to join in and chat with us, we're a friendly bunch!

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Hey ladies, here's the new thread, had to start it cause the old one is nearly full and Inzi has been in touch to say she can't post on it as it won't load on her phone. She has been booked in for a section on fri!!!

Hope you are all well, off to bed for now

there it is....proof positive that my moaning kills the thread!!!!

OMG I really have done it...Floria Tosca long running thread killer extraordinaire.

Shall I try and resurrect it then? I have news - I have met somebody (go, me!) We met on match.com, we've been for 2 dates, 2nd one was last night, and we're going out again next weekend. He's 38, divorced (nearly), no kids (haven't asked why yet), very chatty and funny, 6'5" (I like tall men ) and has gorgeous eyes. Early days yet, but we'll see how it goes - I think he's very nice and he seems quite keen on me.

Hope everyone's loving the sunshine. Hugs all round.

aaarrrghh! just done a long and, of couse, incredibly witty post..and it has been eaten!!!!!! ggrrrrrrrr! Got to go bath this child...I'll write it again later.

Hahaha FT, don't orry, we've all done it at some point. Can't believe how quiet it is here, I blame FB. How's things with the sil from hell type thing?

QOL Woo, that is great, really made me smile reading that. I hope all continues to go well, and you have lots of fun :)

Well as most of you probably know from FB, we have moved. There has been so many things gone wrong and I haven't technically moved for another couple of weeks due to the mutual exchange, am very worried that something goes wrong as I am techically living in the house that was exchanged with, but the kids are living with R for school & nursery iyswim...

I was served with papers to attend court for dd1 with regards to contact on the evening that we where leaving, pretty sure he got wind of us leaving from a child at her school, who's dad is friends with ex. Luckily the case isn't till the summer holidays so that makes life a little easier. can't wait to see you all next month, I've still not got a hotel for the night but I do have one not too far away for the night before to get the travelling out the way.

How is everyone else??

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QOL; thrilling news about the new fella...I'm so excited for you. Enjoy!!!

Crazy; Yes I think we had all guessed you had moved, shame about the exchange causing extra confusion and difficulty but you have earned loads of brownie points for helping your friend and also a pity that the local kiddie network/grapevine leaked the news to your ex but he hasnt a leg to stand on when it comes to going to court...he is just wasting money. A friend of mine in a very similar situation with her stepson (well, her husband has..)has just been taken to court for resumtion of contact (natural mother an alcoholic who has convictions for threatening behaviour/abh) and the court has ordered NO contact ...The way your ex has behaved it could very well go that way for him (let us hope eh? )

Situation here is Alex is now almost clear of the chicken pox (Poxclin is magic stuff!), my horrendous chest infection is clearing (..so bad I had to sleep in a chair for 3 nights because I cholked everytime I lay down) and on Tuesday we fly to Cyprus for a week !!! DBs partner is now 1 day overdue, db moved her and her children into his house (despite her reluctance because it is too small) on Friday (I'm relieved that he will at least be able to be a full on Dad from the start). They are still determined to call the baby Mason...so I'll just have to find a nickname for him ..she has avoided seeing us for several weeks now because of one reason or another, latest one being that her DS hasnt had the pox and she doesnt want the baby to come home to a pox ridden house..oh and she has managed to extend it because my mum hasnt had it either (despite being a nursery nurse and nursing lots of kids, her baby brother and both me and DB through it so obviously has natural immunity) so ''might be harbouring it" so she probably wont be allowed to see the new baby until out of the 21 day incubation period ...my fixed smile is getting lots of practise.

Soooo looking forward to seeing you all at the end of the month..I'll get my organising hat on when we get back from our week in Cyprus ...
crazy; you can always bring a tent, we can have a mini Glastonbury out there

Hi all - very quick hello before I go out the door!

QOL that is so exciting! I want to hear more!! I love a good romance :)

How's the health in your house Floria? Dareh just had a bad chest infection too, these things seem to be doing the rounds right now. He had antib's but it hasn't totally cleared it.

I am getting nervous about August! I hope this train journey down isn't going to be too difficult with a baby and a toddler. I am mostly worried about entertaining Dareh for all that time. I need to price up the tickets today actually. Think I will need to buy two just to make sure we have seats, or maybe even three so I have a place for Jana too. I need to look into it. I am worried about things like taking Dareh to the toilet because I won't be able to with Jana there. I might try and convince dh to come, that would make it so much easier but he will be working on the extension hopefully so might not want to stop.

Right have to go - have a good day all :)

Crazy - I really hope things settle down for you in the next few weeks and you can feel as though your life is back on track again. I'm sure the court decision will go your way.

FT - hope you are all well now and enjoying Cyprus .

Neeps - would be lovely if dh could come to the meet-up. If not though, I bet you will find people on the train who will be happy to give you a hand with Jana and Dareh, or you could swap seats with someone really close to the toilets so you've always got Jana in view. Is it a straight-through train or will you need to change?

So, I'm wondering if the new romance is floundering a bit - I'm having a dilemma. We've been on 3 dates now, and he's really nice - chatty, funny, etc, there's an attraction between us (always important!) - but as far as I can tell we have nothing in common - no shared interests, nothing. So far we've really just chatted about stuff at work, or stuff we've done over the past week, or anecdotes, but nothing that's captured the other person's interest and led to an excited discussion about something. I'm quite into music/books/films/etc - and he's not culturally-minded at all so if I talk about stuff like that he's got no input at all. We don't even watch the same TV programmes - I can't find any common ground at all. I'm not sure how much that matters? He's taking me to see As You Like It this weekend because I mentioned I'd like to see it, so he's making an effort, which is nice, but he's never seen any Shakespeare (I'm not even sure he's ever been to the theatre) so how much are we going to be able to talk about it afterwards?? Am I expecting too much from a new fella?

I might give it another couple of dates and see how it works out, but I'm feeling a bit pessimistic at the moment. Oh, and this might be a more serious issue, but he's said he never wanted kids (his ex-wife didn't either), but he does accept that anybody he meets will probably have kids and he's fine with that. I've wondered since though whether that means he still doesn't want kids of his own, because I hadn't quite given up on the prospect of maybe having more. That's definitely a conversation to have soon.

I feel better for getting that off my chest!

That's a difficult one QOL. Depends on how much you enjoy his company. Dh and I aren't really into the same things. He likes engineering and I like the arts. We do watch some of the same tv etc but we get on if you know what I mean. We can have fun together. The kids thing could be a bigger issue.

On the train Jana won't be in her pram, you have to put it down as there is no space for it so I have to hold her all the time plus entertain Dareh. I have to make a change at Edinburgh but there is a direct train from there to Manchester. Dareh is a bit hard to entertain at the moment though so I am not sure how he will cope with the journey. I still haven't brought it up with Dh but I would feel a lot better if he came with me, easier to cope with the two of them then.

Hello ladies

FT-Hope you're having a fab time and there are no mishaps while you're gone, or when you get back for that matter. Glad your chest infection cleared in time for the hol. Guess you don't like that name then? The only Mason I know was in fact ginger Suited him though. Does dbs partner still worry about the baby being ginger? may be worth mentioning that, may plant the seed of doubt..
RE DDs father, I don't know what i want to happen. I flip from hating him to feeling sorry for him. Also, am going to have to let legal services know that I will not be on benefits, so will probably have no claim to legal aidno idea where that will come from but my solicitor doesn't appear that good anyway tbh so may be better finding a cheaper better, more local one.
Will probably bring the tent and if it comes to it they can all sleep in that and I'll have your lovely comfy sofa if you don't mind.

Neeps-I have googled and it appears that you should be able to keep the pram up for jana..it is reccomended that you get on at the end(?) coach and then the porter mister is obliged to help you-plus surely they cater for wheelchair users, so if you can at least have the pram up for part of the journey it would help. Would Dareh wear a pull up in case of emergency? Then saying that, you would need to wear one too! Hope DH can come, not just to help but would be nice to meet him.

Qol-Agree with Neeps, don't see it being a massive deal about the lack of common ground, it may just be that you've been brought up differently/had different walks of life. I've never been to the theatre, not because i don't like it but just because I've never been taken/always prefered to do something differeent with my time and money. Also agree with Neeps about the no children thing, he may have been brainwashed encouraged by his ex that he did not want children. It's difficult to imagine someone not wanting children ever. Hope the date went well.

News from here: Well I'm 8 weeks pregnant. :)
It was a bit of a shock as we where not trying and although not actually preventing it, it could only have happened on one occasion which should not have been anywhere near my fertile time (sorry if tmi!) so was unexpected. I did a test when we first moved..and then had to wait for R to get back, then I daren't tell him! Then he didn't want to speak about it for a few days, much to my frustration. Anyway, he's come round even with his argument of lack of money, space, bad timing, I wont be able to get a job, go to college to complete my course, go on our planned trip to Florida blah blah. Had bad pain last night and spotting this morning, but a scan showed all is ok and since I'm not allowed to tell anyone in RL I had to tell you ladies. Had terrible MS and literally falling asleep on my feet, it's a bit embarrassing as I'm not making a very good impression on my new neighbours but hopefully they will understand when they realise. Going to try and find the threads from when we where having the piggies as I don't remember being this bad last time..but I probably was.

Looking forward to the meet up at the end of the month, hope everyone is going to make it!

Just been reading one of our old threads It's got when we first met-Inzi and others, only read half of it so far. Love this bunch of ladies

Crazy - congratulations! That's wonderful news - glad R has come round to the idea. Hope the ms passes quickly. How exciting - I am so pleased for you! It will be due in February then?

Anya woke me up about an hour ago wanting a drink and I've not been able to get back to sleep - hence the stupidly early time! I'm sure I'll be paying for it later.

Well, the date went really well - he liked the play, he'd even gone to the trouble of getting one of his team at work to google it and write him a synopsis so he'd know what it was about (a man with power! ). I think I'm trying to find excuses why it won't work - it's a long time since I've dated and it's a bit scary tbh, but I do really like him so I'm going to just go with the flow. We're going out again on Saturday to a comedy club. Not discussed the kids thing yet, but you might be right Crazy, it might just be that he's not been bothered either way and his wife didn't want them - he's comfortable with the idea of Anya anyway so that's a good sign. We shall see - watch this space...!

Crazy i am soooo happy for you and R and of course the girls!!!!!!! I hope the morning sickness passes quickly but i suspect you have few more weeks of misery :(

Queen, i'm glad you've found someone. I know its early days, but i think you've got the right idea of not putting too much pressure on the relationship at the mo and not read too much into everything, just go with the flow, enjoy yourself and each others company. If all else fails at least you've done some great things!!

I used to go out and about with DH all the time to the theatre, museums, all sorts of things really, but we just don;t do anything like that any more. Time seems to always be the issue. I must try harder on that front otherwise we'll be sofa slobs forever!!

:D congratulations Crazybit, you crazy bit :)

Glad you have met someone QoL, keep with it, he sounds good from my end.

Can't believe I keep forgetting to log on here, it is FB's fault, and when I do log on I have enough time to read, but then never enough time to post, so you'll have to excuse the short post.

I am really looking forward to the end of the month, Floria have you a paypal address yet so we can send a food donation?

Hope the weather is a bit better than it has been, don't fancy camping in the rain with a dog and two kids :-)

Well we are all good this end, nothing really to report other than we are fully settled in at home now, feels like we have been here forever.

Hope everyone is well and sorry this is a short post xx

Thank you everyone. Still not sure it's sunk in yet.

Great news QoL, you have nothing to lose really, just seeing how it goes :)

LLL-You where on that thread I linked to too, glad you've settled in. Must be so nice to have a home that you've built from scratch :)

I wish everyone got on more often, reading the threads from when we all 'met' really reinforced how important you all are to me. I'm a bit soppy lately

Oops missed out OHM, how are things with you?? Sofa slob is the way forward

How are you feeling Crazybits??
I guess the fatigue has kicked in from a while ago!!

I'm doing ok. I'll be 20 weeks on Tues next week, we have our 20 week scan next week too which i'm really looking forward to as i haven;t really felt any significant movement from the baby yet and its worrying me. I've felt an odd sensation here and there but nothing major. I'm sure everything is all right, just can;t wait to see him/her again :)
I've got SPD which i've never had before. It has been quite an adjustment to have to be so mindful about what i do and how i do it. I've got physio lined up for next week so i'm hoping that will help, if not its crutches or bed rest for me :(

Anyway, i am soo excited about meeting up soon. More so than last year i think because i'm not so nervous this time iykwim.......??!! I hope i'm not the only one!

Off to a birthday BBQ today.... even if it is going to poor down with rain. We will not be beaten!!!!

xxx

Thanks for finding that out for me! I was told on the trip to London that I had to put the pram down. It was a nightmare!

What is the plan with money for food etc?

I am quite nervous, am I the only one who hasn't met any of you?

Not long now, hope the weather perks up a bit. So Margo, money for food.... what's your paypal address?

Plus hoping not to bring Steve now, would be too much hassle especially if the weather is rubbish, plus won't be able to get everything in the car if we bring him.

:)

OHM-So sorry you've got SPD, poor you :( Can physio help?
I am feeling utter shit, so sick and tired, and suspected UTI but cant keep abs down. Got some phenergan off GP yesterday and it made me practically pass out, dd1 woke me up and I nearly went for her. After googling it seems it can make you nasty, I don't remember properly what I did but it was scary to her but she knows it was the medication luckily, so doesn't hate me!. Going to try and take half tonight and not take when on my own with kids. Don't know what's worse, the deliberating sickness or the struggle to walk for 5 mins to get dd2 to nursery before falling asleep on a bench

Neeps, did DH say no to coming then? All will be fine.

Also, would anyone be interested in a travelodge the Fri night at Oldham? I've booked one but we may not be able to make it.

blimey Crazybits, thats a serious side effects!! You've sadly probably got a few more weeks of feeling wrecked before it subsides, but i hope it passes quickly and that you are well taken care of at home :) The girls should be running around like elves doing everything for you...... "yeah right" i hear you say!!!

We had our 20 week scan today, all looked great. Baby is happy and healthy in its oven!! I was really surprised at how much clearer the scans are now. When i was pregnant with Eren i don't recall the scan's being as clear as they are now. I mean we saw all the baby's features sooo clearly it was amazing. Stupidly though i forgot the picture at the hospital....doh!!

Can i ask you ladies if you have had any pants/knickers wetting issues with the little ones...? Its just that Eren has been fully toilet trained for over a year now but he still wets himself every so often because he can;t be bothered to go to the toilet sometimes. Its really frustrating because i know he sometimes does it on purpose but i don;t know why.... I've asked him about it, but he just says sorry and that he doesn't know why he's done it. Is this normal or any ideas of why he's doing this...? How can i get past it.... ?

Ohm-I'd say normal yes, maybe he does it just to annoy you? I'd ignore it tbh. S is still in nappies on a night, she is nowhere near ready for no nappy on a night. Did u find out the sex?

Thanks Crazy. I'm not sure he's doing it to annoy me, at night it doesn;t seem he's aware of doing it... its not every night either, there seems to be no pattern to it. I don't know, its just so frustrating.
I suspect it'll get worse when he starts nursery in september and then the new baby comes along too!!

Anyway, the we decided not to find out the sex of the baby. Although i was desperate to :)

How are you doing?

Sorry it came out
Wrong, stupid dopey drugs. Just tried to write what I meant but I don't even know, do you mean he's doing it in the day or night? I've read that day and night training are very different, you can train in the day but night times cannot be learnt, its just when.they develop the ability. Oh I'm taking rubbish, just ignore.me! Have managed to tidy kitchen today but still weak and pathetic, only taking half a tablet at the minute.