Dec 08 Ladies - LIghtning Strikes... and the usual gossip!

[Beans33]

Hope this works for everyone - I'm assuming Summer won't give birth in the next few hours!! x

I reckon Summer is away! Will do a spot of chanting and wafting vibes as I cook the tea.

Rubes: according to this, painful let down can be linked to a blocked duct:

www.kellymom.com/store/handouts/concerns/mastitis.pdf

Hello all! Been a bit hectic so hvent really even been lurking much - what have I missed in the last few days? Any new babies, new clackerification or Dec 08 babies performing their first violin solos I should know about?

What? Your children aren't playing musical instruments yet? Tsk! So backward! DD is on grade 6 flute already

I'm definitely going to new York in september for a week. Will be so strange being away from DD for so long. Slightly looking forward to it though, I must admit.

Kiwi DS2 could def hold a tune with his gastric wine instrument.

WIND! Not wine, OMG Gastric wine what a horrible thought

Vag!
Thanks Effie - on reading that - I definitely had a blocked duct and I'm still feeling bruised like it says I will.... I just fed her from that side though and had another very painful latch and let down then periodically was slightly painful. I think the only answer is a complete evaluation from the pro's tomorrow.
OK ds in bed and just had the shortest story in history. In fact I made it up and skipped to the end as dd started screeching downstairs, and to be fair he was concerned about her too and not interested in the story
Hello Kiwi!!

Right everyone, sorry but still nothing happening here.
Can't post much as parents staying!
Sorry, know you are getting bored of this now. Imagine how I am feeling! Off to hospital tomorrow to discuss getting this cheeky bugger out, think I am going to ask for c-section on Friday if not made appearance by then.
spot I think you are having a girl!

on Friday Summer?! Geez you've got some patients! Ask for one tomorrow! Ignore me Vag u have made me want wine now....

I am loving having 2. I get tired and ratty and sometimes feel like weeping. But it is smashing. I think week 7 is when it starts to get better! So to all you expecting your 2nd - it is lovely! Eventually!

DD2 did the mother of all craps this morning - all the way up to her neck. Guess she'd been saving it for me for just when I was in a hurry to be somewhere and had to shower her down. Nice work squirt!

Summer - am thinking of you. Hope you aren't feeling too pissed off with it all. I am knackered, but feeling v smiley. Maybe it was my bottle of Sol!

DH out again tonight. He wasn't back from work til 10.30 last night and is leaving the house at 7 tomorrow morning. Honestly. I am feeling very much like a single mother at the moment! BUT I am going for a run on Sunday morning at 8.30, which I'm quite looking forward to! What I really want is him to do a full day or 2 without me and see how exhausting it is! But I think my norks would burst.

Kiwi - good to hear you! DD1 cannot play an instrument yet. But she can speak fluent Latin. At least, I think that's what it is! And DD2 is actually proficient on the harp now. Is that impressive at 7 weeks?

I'm going to go and do sudoku in a minute. Just found I can do it 2 nights ago. Sad, moi?!

Nolda - hope you're ok. I'm not sure what's going on, but thinking of you and chin up.

Rubes - I hope the boobs let up with the pain soon, you poor thing. It is horrible when that happens.

Wow, stream of consciousness. Sorry!

Pubie I had a breast abcess from a blocked duct with DS1 & had to have it excised it was a bit annoying having it all sorted when DS1 was only 5 weeks old but I managed to get past it & continue BFing. However with DS2 I started getting another blocked duct so this time I fed from the effected side as much and as often as possible and whilst feeding I gently massaged the area that felt blocked. I also had showers and massaged my boobs in the shower while the hot water was running over them. This time I managed not to let it get as far as it did with DS1 & it all settled down. I'm sure a little vino would be good too....& drink water!

Lightening I'm sorry this is dragging on but I think you having made a decision like that is good gives you a focus and know either way you will see bunny soon.

Beans that's lovely, & it only gets better. There are many downs but loads of ups. Your doing brilliantly by the way, esp with DH being away so much.

OK tonight was ridiculous. I have been feeding dd almost constantly since ds went to bed. She cries like she has wind and I can't get anything up then she cries and cries for boob and has her mouth open searching for it!! She has finally nodded off I think - can't wait to speak to this bf clinic tomorrow. I def need a glass of wine now....!
Just repositioned ds in bed as he was passed out at the wrong end of his bed, and he feels really hot. Thought it was quite cool tonight so got him in long sleeved PJ's

Beans so glad you are enjoying the 2 - I am too - despite how it sounds tonight!! She's hard work tonight but still lovely

Right off to get a spot of cheerfulness and a large glass of squash

Welcome back Nolda, although what a crappy ending to an enjoyable holiday. I think you?ve done a good thing by sticking to your guns and not giving anymore chances and insisting that action is taken. I hope it all comes good for you, and you know that the basket is here to support you through it all. xx

And Beans, I didn?t comment on your post yesterday about your sister and I meant to as I?d be equally concerned if my sis was having such troubles. I?m sure you must have thought of this ? but could the AA offer support to your sister and the DC?s on how to minimise the impact to themselves?

Jolly and Spot it is the law that clackered people must rest on the sofa, so actually, had you had my day you probably would have been sent to prison! Don?t worry too much, I predict a repeat of all that activity sometime in 2013 and not a moment before

Summer you have my sympathy, in Dec 08 we were all hungry for baby news, but at least the burden of going into labour was shared between us. Now you poor thank have to shoulder the pressure from all of us on your own

Rubes this probably doesn?t help, as didn?t have the pain with BF as you have, but I do remember dreading that moment of let down until I?d settled in BF after lots of weeks. Until then I gritted my teeth each time because I really disliked the sensation. Hopefully it is a simple as getting everything to settle down

I have been thinking (I know, I shouldn?t, its not good) and I think that there?s only me and Kiwi left with only one DC (or at least not having no 2 on the way). Oh and Pingu, does she just have one? I always think she has 2, but think I?ve made that up. I can?t believe how few of us are left

Rubes - DD2 did a lot of that constant feeding and searching. I have discovered that she does that when she's totally exhausted, so put her to bed and she generally conks out pretty quickly... When the time comes, please can I pick your brain about getting rid of the dummy?!

ZJ - thanks for your concern. Yes, think my sister is going to see someone about it from AA. He won't admit he has a problem, so he won't do anything about it. And she's too scared of him to tell him that's what she's going to do. It's really sad. I feel sorry for him on the one hand, but on the other, I hate him for making her so miserable. They've been together for 23 years and she's been unhappy for about 8 years. It's no good. But she's too proud and scared to leave him, I suspect. Makes me sad and angry. To be honest, I've never liked him. He's a wanker!

Right, must go to the chemist to get laxatives for DD1!! Got a prescription from the doctor yesterday. Hurray!

Beans Glad you are enjoying being a mother of 2 lovely girls. And on the poo, how do they know? They always do that full outfit change poo when you have no time, darn it.

Rubes Hope you get some help at the BF clinic today and Summer hope the baby extraction meeting goes well.

I went to the toy shop yesterday as I had to get a present for a little friend of DD's who is having a party on Sunday. In a moment of weakness I ended up also buying a toy mini cooper for DS and Sylanian Families dressing table set for DD. Funny DD knew that this was unlike me and asked why I had bought her a present. I said it was because I loved her and she said she loved me too. She later made me a ring out of turquoise pipecleaner. She can be so lovely, when she's not being a monster .

uckin ell I'm at my tits end!! She ended up conking out out of pure exhaustion I think and slept until 530 when ds made an appearance - nice.
She has fed a little while ago for a freakin HOUR and will not stop crying now. baby Bjorn is the only thing that will settle her.... until I take her off....
they are going to cop an earful at the clinic if they don't have some answers for me!!!!
Thankfully dh is on his way as he has the rest of the day off - lucky him. I have a hair appointment after my clinic! and it's 3 HOURS long!!!!

Of course you can Beans - it's 3 days of hell but well worth it (cold turkey approcah basically) but off it forever!!

Brill, thanks Rubes.

Poor you on the boob thing. It's such a comfort thing - dummy??!!!

Right, off to feed the beast.

She slept from 10.30 feed to 6am this morning! And hasn't had a feed since then, so must wap out my norks!

xx

V quick SL update - I texted to ask if she wanted to come to a soft play to get things moving (by chasing ds obviously, not by going up and down the play equipment herself - can just imagine the call "could the pregnant lady stuck in the tunnel please move, there are children waiting behind you"!), she said "A bit tied up right now, busy dilating" so lots of baby vibes for her and there will be a new thread baby before long!

Rubs good luck at the BF clinic, they were brilliant for me with dd.

Hooray for SL, hope it all goes off brilliantly! I am speeding from Stafford to London for appts with the consultant and the bank, sans DD for a change as DP is still in Staffs hanging with his sister and the kids over from Bermuda. DP's sister is great and the kids are gorgeous - DD is getting so much from being with her cousins who are 9, 6 and 3 - but man, they are busy. It's been an exhausting couple of days. I am dying to do a proper catch up but my feet still haven't touched the ground. Nolda, just for now I wanted to say keep strong and keep your sense of self and hopefully everything can be sorted. Beans, I am sad for your sister, it sounds like a vv tricky situation...Rubes, best of British at the bf clinic - could possibly swing by to see you on the way home from London tomorrow as I won't have DD and it will be easier - what do you think? JJ, I am so glad that you seem to be over that hiccup the other day - poor you, it's such a worrying time. To the rest of you I send big love and a promise of a proper catch up hopefully before the weekend as there was loads I wanted to respond to.

Aaahhhhhh I'm so excited for SL thanks for that JJ. I wonder when it kicked off, Jam was right with her prediction!

Rubs, just a tip. I went to a BF clinic once run by a HV and it was like a mums group and everyone sat around drinking tea. I think if you want help you need to corner the HV as soon as you get there. I'm sorry for your pain. I do know how it feels, if you remember DS2 had that weird lump in his lower jaw and it caused loads of pain the only way I got around it was really concentrating on the latch and making him relatch if necessary, and the boozie massage with lots of feeding that I wrote about yesterday.

I hope Lady enjoyed all her trip. When is she back.

Oh hello Lady.

Good Luck SL -
Vag,
I asked the HV yesterday about it - it's at the hospital and said I would get proper 1 on 1 with the bf specialist since it was my first visit. She talked of a less formal one similar sounding to what you mentioned. She said this one is a proper consultation type thing. Problem is my boobs will be so drained that she won't see the full extent of my problems, as it's way worse after 3hrs of no dd hanging off them. She's finally asleep now after I just fed her again - well I didn't really stop to be honest. In the meantime the dog has chewed up my shoe as she is pissed off at being ignored and ds is going completely mental and rolling around on the floor! I must sound completely out of control! Though I'm still able to type so can't be that bad I spose!

Lady - I have to be in Berks tomorrow to reg dd however not sure flippin how yet, though might have to get mil over so not really sure what time would you be coming past? I have no clearance to drive yet

God gotta go....

Right, well assuming DP doesn't get any last minute work tomorrow morn, I have to be in Oxford by about 3 to relieve him of DD. So could be in R any time between, I guess, 1030 and 2ish. But no worries if we can't work it - just a thought. If you end up going in on the train, ring VW station to check there will be a staff member present to carry your gear up and down the steps.

Rubs why do you have to go so far away to register?

That's brilliant about the BF counsellor person. I always was a bit miffed in our area that they fobbed me off to the group. When I said how much they were hurting they said they would get the BFC to contact me but she never did. In the end I just drove to Wolverhampton and saw my tutor for that Hellers course I was doing. If I hadn't been committed and known the BfN tutor I'd have given up in pain or ended up with an abcess again.