Dec 08 Ladies - LIghtning Strikes... and the usual gossip!

[Beans33]

Hope this works for everyone - I'm assuming Summer won't give birth in the next few hours!! x

Blimey BEans you truly are superwoman! I wouldn't have touched entertaining on such a scale for ages with just one, let alone two. It's great that you've managed to get them both to sleep at lunchtime though, that's top time management! What did you make for the dinner?

Lady I wish I was nearer so could come and join in the DIY (and cheerfulness). I hope the carpet fitting goes well this morning and you feel more at home and much cosier there as a result.

Good news on the 2nd house viewing, Avo, I hope they make a decent offer.

Zoe I think love should conquer all in the blossoming nursery romance. Little boy from the wrong side of the tracks, society against him, little girl's father wants her to be treated right, he doesn't realise that they're meant to be etc etc....

Well, T is, to coin one of WG's phrases, sleeping like a tit at the moment and much more clingy during the day. He's also started to cry when we leave him at nursery which he hasn't done in ages. I know he's still teething and off his food but I also feel he's having nightmares or at least is experiencing separation anxiety at night as well as in the day. Instinct tells me he needs extra reassurance but when he's up for the 5th time in the night we tend to just leave him to cry as we're too exhausted to go to him again . It's like having a newborn. Is this typically a time for a new bout of separation anxiety? I guess as they become aware of things the world suddenly can feel scarier and knowing that mummy and daddy are doing other things must be weird as well. He now also takes over an hour to go to bed at night (used to be 7.30, now it's 9pm) and I wonder if it's to do with hearing us cooking etc and realising we have a life that doesn't involve him...

Veggie that's a tricky situation with that woman, hard to know what the kindest thing to do would be, but I guess not initiating anything on your end and being as nice but distant as possible when she makes overtures might send the message?

X-posts Rubes, the fact that DS understands so well shows that there's nowt wrong with his brain (and I am impressed that he was so helpful getting dressed ). He will probably come out with a full sentence one day and you'll fall over in shock.
T has very few words but is somehow very good at making his needs felt, so maybe they don't bother to speak if they know you get what they want. It does make it tricker for other people looking after them though, sometimes only mummy can decipher the difference between gnnnn, shhhh, mmm and thhhhhh.

Spot we suddenly have lots of night waking here too, not until after we have gone to bed as I think he can't hear us downstairs but def waking several times a night. He still sleeps in his bed next to our bed so I don't know I'd it's wanting us, I really think it's his teeth. As he will go through stages of sleeping through. Speaking of sleeping beside us, we did try putting him in with DS1 last night but they were both just too excited about it and it didn't work.

Zoe that is so funny that your DH is not happy about the relationship. A friend and overreact once mock planning the wedding of DS1 to her DD when they were 2.5years. They were very sweet together and would cuddle & kiss. My friend remarked to DH that she would love DS1 as a son in law & wouldn't they make beautiful children. Her DH grumbled "DD is not getting married...she's not even going to get boobs". Bless him he has 2 girls now who are beautiful, I'm not not sure I'd he'll
Survive their teens.

What the!!! Overreact where did that come from I need to preview these messages.

We finally have DS1's last 5th birthday party today it's at the sea life centre here near the beach and it's 14 4-6 year olds for 2 hours. Thankfully that staff do all the entertaining so shouldn't be too stressful. DS1 also start a group class for violin today, I tried to get him out of it because of the party but she insisted and even changed to class time to accommodate DS1's birthday party. So we need to get to the lesson (it's with the mean mummy & her daughter) by 45 mins after his party! Then poor little begger tomorrow he starts football and he has his swimming lesson! He's going to be shattered.

Thanks advice re: the Dutch women. I still find it quite disturbing that they are so violent with each other in front of their kids.

DD1 up a bit in the night as well - but she does tend to go straight back down again. Man, I've got a hangover. I didn't think I would after so few drinks, but DH tells me it was more like 5 glasses of wine, not 2! Oops. Poor DD2 clearly having secondhand booze in my milk! Nice. Need coffee and water. In that order.

I made beef with guinness and pickled walnuts, followed by the easiest recipe rhubarb crumble. Both were delicious. Then lots of cheese. Guess what I'm having for lunch again today! I even then had sex when we went to bed - sorry TMI, but I am wonderwife!!! Hee hee!

Am at a loss over what to do today as weather so odd.

Veggie - I know what you mean about that lady and not wanting to get too close. I think you just have to keep your distance a bit.

PS anyone here with DDs - do their fannies ever smell? I am v clean with DD1 and wash it in the bath every night and clean it with wipe every time I change her nappy and it's still really quite niffy and I'm not sure what to do about it! Do I need to do anything?

Beans you do make me chuckle . Any chance you could share the rhubarb crumble recipe? I love a good pudding, me.

Veg check you and your DS1's active social life! Hoe has has a lovely final birthday, sounds like a v good plan re-Sea Life centre.

Ugghhh. Beans, we can be twins today. I was out at the Hen 'til 1.30am and DD2 got up at 6am & has been bouncing on me ever since. DD1 at nursery and I had high hopes of napping while DD2 watched CBeebies but she just stood by the oven & shouted cake so now were are going to do some baking.

Trace, I was thinking about your work/CBT dilemma. What about a white lie such as saying To work that you need time off for fortnightly physio?

Love the romance Zoe. DD2 has a similar relationship with a boy called Teddy and when she wakes up she often smiles and whispers "me dream Teddy". So sweet.

Have a lovely birthday party Veggie Boy!

rhubarb crumble - I add some ground ginger to the rhubarb as well as just adds a certain something. V tasty indeed, if I do say so myself. And o easy.

Avo - miserable! DD1 shouted cake today, so just handed her a rice cake. I am rubbish mother!

PS We need a new thread soon....

Beans, the whiff is normal. It's worse when they potty train and fail to wipe properly. I always make sure they get a good clean in the bath each night (no soap, but lots of water).

I use Johnsons stuff that's meant to be as gentle as water. Phew, glad niff normal. Thank you!

beans You crack me up, and really are a wonder wife. I'll probably be in a similar state tomorrow morning after my night out later.

veggie Tricky one with the dutch lady...they actually chuck stuff at each other in front of the Dc's? Thats bad, we have been known to have the odd barney but we really do try not to do it in front of the DC's. Hope the party goes well, sounds like lots of fun.

Ha DS has just come to me and said 'yuck'....he has pooed!! he mightnot be able to talk but he doesn't like a dirty bum obviously...back in a bit

Beans you make me laugh you are wonder wife with the sex and all tell me their his friends and not yours (primarily) now too!
I'm feeling hungover but only on 3 glasses of wine (at home) gone are the days....
I haven't experienced the whiff here yet but have heard it's normal and am expecting it soon
ds gone for a nap and I'm going to take the opportunity to pay bills before my mobile phone gets cut off - joy.
6 week check thisarvy. I'll be the last patient for the day for the poor doc who I know has plans later as they moved me forward, and she won't be able to get away from me and my questions about when my tummy will go away and will I have to beat myself up on the cross trainer etc etc. I'm not pinging back like the first time [bugger bugger shit effing cock]

Beans Well done on the wonder-wifery, you put me to shame! I love DD's new shoes, by the way.

Deirdre What a good girl your DD is at the dentist. Katie got a sticker yesterday but was a bit dismissive of the selection. She wanted to know why they were all Toy Story 3 stickers. I thought but didn't tell her that she was very lucky that they weren't all tooth-related!

Avo Any feedback from the second viewing on your house?

Rubes Quick work getting your computer fixed. I hope you manage to get your shoulder sorted soon, sounds ouchy.

Zoe So cute about your DD and her boyfriend. Loving the cake talk too. DS has added a new word to his limited vocabulary, 'digger' but sounds more like 'diggy' when he says it.

Spot when I was pregnant with DS, DD's sleeping went totally to pot and I spent a lot of the night cuddling her in her bed and the HV said it is quite common for a child to be unsettled before a new baby comes. However, I think this happened a bit later on in pregnancy, is it February you are due?

Veggie I hope DS1 has a super party and isn't too exhausted for his violin lesson. Can we see a piccy of the cake?

Oh help, got to dash and fetch DD, I hadn't realized it was so late. Back later.

Rubes: it took me longer to lose the weight after DS2. I think your body just takes longer to recover. My shape has changed slightly too - I'm now carrying weight round my middle which I didn't before. Not sure how much is due to pg and how much to general ageing. I'm not disciplined at all when it comes to food and exercise though, snd there are plenty of women out there with glorious figures and 2+ children including some on this thread .

Due New Year's Eve, Nolda so you could be onto something, am definitely showing more and we do talk about the baby in my tummy, your brother etc. Maybe I should lay off the references for a while...

Avo, sorry for your hangover troubles, am v impressed your DD knows cakes comes from an oven though, I think T only knows their origin to be Asda.

You might have something there Effie, I'm 36 in a couple of weeks ......

Actually dh told me last night to pull my head in a bit about it all as it's never as quick with the 2nd and he said "you might have to actually exercise" .... I'm not expecting to slide into my skinny jeans just yet - make no mistake, but I just want out of these maternity trousers....!

I used to live near where that gas main burst in San Francisco Hope they don't find more fatalities

Someone asked about dentist? They gave ds an appt when he was about 12 months bit ridiculous, but just a ride on the chair and told me he had teeth coming through [duh] just wantted to get him used to the dentist etc. But as if he's going to remember next time!

Right I've just had a nice big bowl of spaghetti bolognaise - good to see i've started on watching the carbs See, I'm all talk ladies....

Well I did say after my 6 week check which isn't until later thisarvy to be fair, and then there's the last ever Ultimate Big Brother final so that will need to involve a certain amount of cheerfulness and the dinner of my choice (how sad am I) - and even sadder that I'm announcing it! Brian to win! Gotta love the gay Trolly Dolly

Yay just picked DD up from school, and she got a sticker for being a 'good sitter', I think that means she was sitting still!

DS shouted 'Daisy' quite clearly whenshe came out too, well more like 'Day-ee' but I knew what he meant.

Thinking caps on we need a new thread....

Yes but how much longer to recover Effie?See what dh has to put up with? Thing is, if I don't suck my gut in, or wear my brigitte Jones cesarian post surgery support pants, I actually could pass for 6 months pregnant

Wow DB! These kids are really gettin it!
Right I will think of new thread - it will have to involve babyLady2

Hope this will do

herewww.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1038534-Dec-08-Ladies-Waiting-for-BabyLady-amp-the-usual-grumpy