Dh and I haven't had a child free night for a decade LOL- they just refuse. DS1 still tries it on, at ten. We keep thinking: one day (actually that's not true: we went to a hotel about five eyars back, after an awards do i go so hammered I passed out in the kkiddle of a road in Yeovil. Ooops)
Yes of course there are moderate Tories, of course there are; trouble is, the ones I know- my ex boss, my sister- are far from that. Ban Sn kdis dfrom schools, no state at all, etc- and they have an influence too, they are the darlings of the local groups becuase they talk big. I am not sure the people who ehar them relaise they actually mean what they say.