Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

[Vicks1]

Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

‘Only bitten twice within the family’… why do you think it’s less serious if the dog bites someone in your family than if they bite a stranger?
The dog needs to go.

Surely it's blindingly obviously that you need to prioritise yourself and your children over your partner and his dog and you should leave?

If a dog is big with a bite history and you have the kids walking it...that is beyond negligent. I'm actually pretty shocked any parent would put their children in that situation.

Re-home the dog through a breed specific rescue or PTS. Get rid of your partner as well - he sounds like a right prince bringing home a random, aggressive, dog and then buggering off away for work.

Edit: just to add, it sounds like a miserable life for a dog, only being walked by kids and living in a house with someone who is scared of it. No dog is ever going to flourish in that sort of environment. You can't ever hope for a dog to improve/change it's nature whilst living in an unsuitable environment.

No rescue would take a dangerous dog with a bite history, can you evict the boyfriend and he can take the dog with him?
If he objects, just refuse to listen, same ashe does.

No 100% I want the dog out of my house I’m just not know how to do that when dogs homes say no

@Vicks1 what breed is the dog?

I can't believe you've tried that many re-homing centres or even breed specific rescues. Lots of rescues take dogs with bite histories, including Spaniel Aid and my local Golden Retriever rescue (which I help with adoptions for).

So unless the dog is some sort of Bully X, I fail to believe there isn't a breed specific rescue willing to at least trye.

i can’t get rid of my partner he’s fine orher than the dog issue and he is obviously my children’s father and relationship is great othwrwise

I feel for you,OP- I also feel massively for this poor,poor dog who has been foisted upon you by someone who works away.
Large dogs need two hours of exercise per day and I appreciate you won't have time to do this- your partner needs to stop working away and look after this poor animal, ensure he's walked enough etc. etc.......I love dogs to the point of obsession but they're a MASSIVE responsibility which is why I don't own one.

He really isn't fine. He doesn't respect you. He doesn't listen to you and he thinks he's in charge in your house... I think you need to raise your bar significantly if you think this is a great relationship.

I’m not sure on the actual breed tbh. He’s kind of like a staffy in the face but his body is big. He’s a mix breed. Not an xl manchestwr dogs hole even said so

If they're refusing it, that sounds like it's an XL bully.

Easiest way to get rid is the police. They'll quite happily ensure that it is collected and dealt with according to the Law - and better now than when it's done something worse than it has already.

Who has the dog bitten? What were the circumstances?

The dog bit once my 9 year old who has toast, on the hand, and my 12 year old on the waist area but the 12 year old isn’t scared of the dog at all. Walks it etc May have been an accident we’re not sure

That isn't safe for your children and is unlikely to end well. If your partner won't agree to the dog going and you want to stay living with him you should find someone else to take custody of your children.

Op this situation is dangerous for you, your children and the public. You need to speak to the appropriate authorities about the dog and he needs to go.

The more I am thinking about it my partner is being an idiot here they are his kids too, except the 14 yr old. His own kids been bitten towce you would think he would want the dog gone to

Your partner needs to step up and take responsibility. He got the dog so he needs to do his bit, not just lump it onto you. What is his response when you say you are scared of the dog?

Has the dog been taken to any training? Or seen a behaviourist? And when you say bit, can you clarify? Some breeds mouth - is it that? Or is it resource guarding? Or is it aggressive biting?

Your partner makes you live with a dangerous animal that you are scared of.

He's a shit partner OP.

In fact he's not a partner because he made a unilateral decision and that's not a partnership.

Wake up OP.
This dog could kill or maim one of your kids.
It's bitten twice and you're scared of it. But you won't get it put down because your partner is lovely apart from this.
! This is HUGE!!
When this dog attacks one of your kids how will you feel then?

How many rescues have you approached? You need to keep looking.

I know. I’m feeling very emotional right now for my kids. I just don’t know what to do to be free or the dog I feel terrible tho he’s a dog and I’m an animal lover though not really a pet person

The answer is kind of staring you in the face.

Accept that the dog might attack your kids again or get rid of it.

Honestly in your shoes I would have it put down. Its aggressive and potentially dangerous to children.

he has dumped a dog on you that has bitten, that you never wanted, he goes away and leaves the dog with you and you have a great relationship? What would a bad relationship look like to you? And I say this as a massive dog lover.

If a big dog is biting this is a serious danger. The dog could kill you or your children. It takes a lot of work and knowledge and time to train a dog well, and you haven’t done so. I highly recommend you get a behaviourist in asap to assess your dog and work with you. It is no fair to you or the dog to continue in this highly stressful environment. Someone is going to get badly hurt. Your husband is an idiot for bring a dog home without you being fully on board with the idea, he’s a double idiot for not having a clear plan to train large breed dog who is a huge risk.

He's bitten twice. You need to have the dog PTS. If the dog bites anyone else you will be legally responsible, you will have a dog that is dangerously out of control. The punishment, if found guilty in court, is an unlimited fine and/or a prison sentence. The maximum is 14 years.
Please, do not be that person.
You tell your partner that the dog takes a 1 way walk to the vets.