Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

[Vicks1]

Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

How do you "not know what to do"?
You mean you know what to do but you don't want to do it?

This with bells on. My dearly loved dog had to live with my parents once I moved in with my now husband due to his allergies and fear of dogs. Believe me, I loved that dog dearly, but even so my partner’s health and sense of wellbeing in the home has to come before the pet.

Your partner needs to rehome this dog. It’s not on you. A decent breeder should take it back, he could start there.

i wouldn’t let my kids walk a large dog on their own though, although I understand why you have been. certainly not the 12 yr old, and certainly not a dog who has bitten before (no judgment of a bit history I have a dog that resource guards and has bitten me before). Too much can go wrong, especially if you aren’t knowledgeable about dogs/haven’t understood this dogs bite/anxiety/aggression triggers.

My dogs are large spaniels, very strong, and while they are generally well behaved while out, I generally dont even let my 6ft tall 14yr walk them on his own, as they can easily pull someone over.

’Lovely apart from this’ He may well be, but please reflect on whether this is really true.

A woman I knew lived with a dog she was petrified of that her DH got. It was a subtle act in a long line of subtly coercive acts. He knew she was petrified of big dogs and that’s exactly why he got it.

Everyone on the outside thought he was a lovely bloke though, and so did she, for a while.

I love animals but not above myself and my kids. Hand it into the police station and don’t feel an ounce of remorse about it. Your DP created this situation, not you. You’re just being brave enough to make a safe home for your kids where he won’t.

Is the dog actually aggressive, OP? Are we talking an actual bite? I mean, you could say my dog 'bites' as she mouths when she's playing as do a lot of pups and could potentially catch someone with her teeth.

She isnt biting or acting in aggression though, she's just playing. If one instance you think may have been an accident and the other sounds like poor training more than anything? This is a miserable life for all of you including the dog. What does your partner say about the situation?

I dont know if anyone agrees but something seems very weird and not quite right about this post. It doesn't make sense.

Poor dog (and you) He knows that he’s not really a part of your family and is probably defensive and worried though 2 bites is 2 too many. Your partner is a dick. The dog is not.

What will you do if the dog kills one of your children?
You and your dp would be arrested.

Could you re home it and tell your partner and children that the dog got out of the garden and you can’t find it?

This dog is a danger & a safeguarding risk. Your children should never be left alone with it. How old are all of your children (and as a side issue, why is a 12 year old out until 11pm?) Are you scared of your partner?

Contact The Dogs Trust for advice and the vet to see if there is any underlying reason why the dog is aggressive.

Your responsibilties lie with your children, the only options you have are to rehome, keep looking for a week or take it to be put down. Personally I'd put.it down with a bite historyand the description ( sounds suspiciously like a Bully )

Your " partner " is not a good man, he knows you don't like dogs and didn't want a pet but got a big breed probably untrained who has bitten your children and fucked off half the time leaving you ti deal with it, he is an awful awful dad, partner and dog owner, awful.

TBH I think if the dog kills one of their own children, being arrested would be the least of their worries.

He’s had aggressive behaviour in that he doesn’t like people to go in or near my 14 yr olds room. Growls and lunges etc.But only whwn the 14 yr old isn’t home. If he’s in the room wirh him he’s fine. But it’s not aome attachment to my 14 ur old because he doesn’t follow him around or anything. The toast biting drew blood as did the bite on my 12 ye old but the 12 ur old bite I have no idea why that happened

and no I’m not scared of my partner for whoever asked but just feel like I have to accept a lot which isn’t fair

It's a bloody big issue though isn't it?

He got an animal knowing that he can't look after it as he works away.

What an irresponsible knob.

What paper work do you have for the dog and whose name is it in? If in yours, take to the vet and have him put to sleep. Then get rid of your dangerous partner who is happy to have you and several children in harms way for his whim. If it's in his name, break up with him and either kick him and the dog out or find a new place for you and your kids.

I cannot believe you think you have a great partner when he insists on keeping a dog whom you are scared of and who has bitten two of your children. You need better standards. Dogs killing children and women is not that uncommon but even more common are attacks the permanently maim and scar. This is not a trivial matter of different preferences.

Why should she do that? If she is able to rehome it (and currently she cannot find a suitable rescue) she should tell her partner the truth that she didn’t want it and is scared of it.

Please do not rehome the dog. If a reputable rescue won't help then it has to be PTS. Just for info I had to have a dog I rescued, PTS recently. He suddenly became aggressive and my vet agreed that he had behavioural issues and on no account should be rehomed. I've never had to do that before but I know it was the right thing to do.

A 12 year old is out walking a dog with a size and bite history in public? Where there are small babies children and vulnerable people? What have I just read?

You don’t want to say the breed, so it’s likely a bully of some description. Get rid of it, before it does some serious damage to either you or your children. If it’s a banned breed, report it and explain to the police you don’t want it to be known that you made the call.

I feel for you because I have had to do this too. Its never easy. Dogs with such serious behavioural issues are often dangerous because they are so scared and stressed and sometimes PTS is not the worst thing that can happen to them. OP wake up!! This is not only dangerous to you and your children, it can get you personally in serious trouble with the police. Stop "accepting a lot" and do something.

Yes, you can get rid of your partner, who got a dog and then left you holding the leash. Who owns the house?

Sounds very much like an XL Bully as OP is being so cagey.

The comment from another poster about a reputable breeder taking it back is not going to happen if it is an XL Bully.

I wouldn’t have one in the same postcode, let alone the same house. PTS is the only option with them.

You need to take control of this situation and get rid of this dog ASAP. Not only has it attacked your children at random but your children are walking it - they won't have the strength to control it when it decides to randomly attack someone else's child, potentially killing them. I would be beyond furious if someone knowingly let their aggressive, untrained dog with a history of biting children anywhere near my child. Take it to any home that will have it, even if you have to travel some distance to do so.

What do you imagine the parents of children who have been killed by the dog would advise you to do?

You and your partner are meant to be the responsible adults but both of you are absolutely irresponsible keeping a dog that has bitten more than once in a house with children, you don't even know what its breed is.
It's no wonder so many dog bites /attacks are happening in environments such as yours.
Any decent dog rescue would not take on a dog with a bite history , i'm not sure if you are making light of the situation but i hope you can see the very real risk .
You should be planning the euthanasia of this dog ,not re homing it.

Your partner is a horrible man @Vicks1 because he didn’t respect your wishes when you said you didn’t want a dog. He works away which means that you are left with all the responsibility for the dog along with dealing with 5 children on your own most of the time. Honestly, you need to get rid of the dog and the partner. A decent, kind, respectful man would not treat you this way.