Dog I don’t want and never asked for that I’m scared of

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Basicallly I don’t know what to do with a dog that I’m scared of and don’t want in my house.
My partner got the dog without asking because his friends dog had puppies. I’ve never owned a dog in my life and first as it was young it was fine.

then the dog got older and it’s a large dog, I don’t want to say the breed, but it’s big. I’m more of a cat person although I don’t have cats atm.
anyway my partner works away. Often I’m alone with the dog and my 3 youngest kids.

My eldest boys don’t live away but they’re often out wirh friends especially at the weekend.
They do come home in the evening obviously as they’re only 14 and 12. But then home they do the dog care because I am scared of the dog. They do the feed and walk etc. but weekends from around 11am to 11pm it’s all on me.

The dog isn’t super aggressive but he’s had his moments. I’m rambling I’m so sorry I’m just not sure what to do and where I can go. Partner doesn’t listen, my eldest kids like the dogs, youngest 3 are scared but may be because they’ve picked it up from me.
i don’t want the dog to be put to spew he’s only bitten twice within the family. No where will take him when I ask and say theyre full.
please can someone give advice and options I asked on FB groups and got bad things said and even mocking of my account photos and children which were just day to day photos and really unjustified thabjs

Lets hope the stepdad does a better job of it than you two fools. Good for him and glad you took some action for everyone's sake. I really hope your partner means what he says about no more dogs, he should not get another one and put your family, or another dog, in that situation ever again. Let's hope he's learned his lesson.

With respect, what the hell are you doing? It's bitten twice already and it's big and powerful? Accident waiting to happen, when you hear about fatalities (and they're not exactly rare) it's from dogs like this

On a long thread, if you don't want to read the whole thing you can just read the OP's posts.

I am just hoping all works out now. I had asked his stepdad to take the dog before but he’d said no but I didn’t tell him about the bites. But am glad I told him the full story now. he’s quite reliable tho so hope it’s nothing I ever have to worry about in my house again

OP isn’t a fool. She’s a victim to not having a choice, not having experience and having a partner that has overruled the welfare of her & the children.
I know that it’s great fun for some of you absolute saddos to kick people anonymously on MN but you need to do better than that attempt. 2/10.

No, OP isn't a fool. She'd have had the common sense not to take the dog if she'd actually been given a choice.

I'm so glad the doggie is going to get a chance. That's all he needs, to see if he will respond to proper training methods that reinforce his position as a pack member, not a pack leader. He can't be expected to know how to behave without knowledgeable training. I do hope that stepdad is able to make a good boy out of him.

Yes. But no children around him for the foreseeable future, OP. These breed types are incredibly strong and driven. It sounds like your FIL may be a sensible man so I do hope he takes the necessary precautions

Sorry, don't agree, and I don't care about the feelings of people who get pets they can't look after or train and don't take responsibility. OP may be less of a fool than her DP, but she doesn't get a free pass for her part in it.

OP may not have wanted or got the dog in the first place, but she has participated in the neglect of the dog's needs, failure to train the dog and failure to adequately supervise/manage the dog and children. And she let her 12 y o walk a dog that's bitten out in public by themselves, thereby putting others at risk too. OP also thinks a "great relationship" = one where your partner acquires a dog without consulting you, proceeds to neglect the dog and then leave you alone to manage said dog, and won't rehome it even though it's bitten two of your kids.

Thankfully, she has now made a less foolish decision to rehome the dog at this point. Which her partner should have taken responsibility for. But hey, that's what a great relationship looks like, right?

Well done OP x

Well done op!! Hopefully this is also a step to realising your partner can’t control the environment you all live in while he’s not there, and just dictate that everyone will feel unsafe at home. Nobody should feel unsafe at home.

I hope you take note of how irresponsible you've been with this dog around your kids. And I hope your relationship survives this - but it might not. Your poor kids - getting attached to a dog that's just handed around like a parcel. Please don't ever have pets again. You've shown you can't look after them

She didn’t get the pet, give her a break. She’s in a controlling relationship and has taken an important step. The breeder might not take them back at that age. The step dad can contact the breeder if he wants.

I still think it would be better to get the dog put down immediately. It is dangerous.

Quite.The problem has just been shifted elsewhere.
But thankfully the OP can now live peacefully in her own home, knowing that she and her children are safe.

Well done OP, I'm sure that wasn't easy for you, but you made the right choice for your children's safety.
I hope you might also be starting to think about whether your relationship with your partner is healthy.. Here's a link to the Freedom Programme https://www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/ .
All the best to you and your children x

Well done. That's the perfect solution really.

It wasn’t her dog, she had a dangerous dog imposed by an irresponsible man. It had aggressively attacked her children twice.

She literally rehomed it responsibly. What more do you want from her?

OP, hope your morning is going well,now you don't have the worry of the dog. And that your partner never foists another dog on you.

The family member has experience with dogs and is willing to train it, so I don't see why it's such an awful idea.

And OPs partner caused all this by foisting a dog on her when he's hardly there and she isn't experienced with dogs or training, is afraid of it and doesn't have time or energy for it.

It should have gone back to the breeder.

You appear to be unaware how most of these bull breed, even more so cross bred bull breed, puppies are bred and who by.

It's also a pretty horrible attitude to take to attack a stranger on the Internet for being more concerned about her children than a dog she didn't choose to have in her home, and that frankly won't know or care that it's been robbed of ten years that it could have lived.

The dog has never been trained. Why can't it have a chance?

Yes. The children that go out every weekend from 11am to 11pm. Those children? 12 and 14?