50% of people granted asylum in the U.K. are women/children.
A little thought experiment for you. Your home is in danger of being bombed, you have to leave. 150 miles up the road, there is a refugee camp, but you don’t know anyone in the area. You have no connections, and the camp is known to be a pretty awful place. If you go there with your family it could be years you are there, no hope for returning any time soon, you have 2 school age children. You have people you know in Sweden and you speak the language. You could go there and start afresh, get a job, get your children in to school and give them a future. The only way to get there is to make a 600 mile journey on foot by land, then take a boat to Sweden. It might take a few attempts but you think you can do it. There is nowhere near you to apply for a travel visa.
Do you:
A) All travel together, make the long, arduous, treacherous journey to Sweden with two small children in tow, not knowing where the next meal/resting place is available.
B) All stay in the refugee camp, risking disease, no education for your children, no opportunity to provide for your family, and hope you get back home quickly enough so your children’s entire future isn’t damaged.
C) Send the strongest most capable of the group, allowing them to make the journey to somewhere you can get set up, have access to an embassy to get your family the correct travel visas and make their own asylum claims, and enough money to join you in a safer way?
If you pick A or B, you are a liar or an idiot.