Son gets rebound girlfriend pregnant after 3 months

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I posted on here a while re my Son cheating on his long term girlfriend and he had gone into a relationship which appeared to be a rebound.
It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!
My Son never told us, he did so through his Brother.
He never had children on the agenda (his 22) but I predicted she would get pregnant (call it mothers intuition) when he first started seeing her as he is a good meal ticket for anyone.
She (I am sorry to say) is unemployed and from a not so nice background or equally family.
When we approached our Son (by phone as he has avoided me fact to face since this all came to light) and said he also has options his response was "she wants to keep it" so I have to get on with it.
It is like he been completely cast under a spell with the woman and her family, the bottom line he came last week (I was at work but his Dad was at home), cleared his room and said he cannot stay here anymore with me and they love each other and are going to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Subsequently he has blocked both myself and his brother from all forms of contact and we have not heard from him since.

His Dad has not heard from him and it us left us all completely devastated.
I did say to him if you do not want to be a part of this that's is fine, no one is judging you but you do have to be responsible financially for the child.

We know this is a rebound situation and not only will it ruin his life as no matter what this mistake, and before you all curse me, it is a mistake will stay with him for life. A child will be coming into this world, not because it was planned but because it's mother purely wanted to trap someone, my Son or some other poor soul and then there is no escape even when you split.

Both my Husband and I are just carrying on with our lives, leaving him to it, if he gets in touch we will talk to him but if not then so be it, of course heartbroken inside but he is very stubborn and will continue down this path even if it makes him unhappy.

My Sons last message to me was I do not want you in my life and never want to see or hear from you again. I have come to terms with that now.

Anyone else on here, by any chance experience the same and please I am looking for constructive comments, the last experience here produced some less than nice responses which quite frankly that is not what I am here for, I am here to hear about anyone else who has had a similar experience and where did it end up. TIA

Gosh the level of contempt and disrespect you have for him and for her, it’s no wonder he’s cut you out. It sounds like he’s standing by her, and that he won’t tolerate your poor behaviour and attitude, so respect to him for that.

of course he has been irresponsible. completely brainless,

Wrong they had sex together! It takes two to tango and to get pregnant.

All makes sense OP as to why your son has chosen to cut contact with you… You sound toxic TBH. Your son has chosen this woman - it doesn’t sound as though he is being held against his will. He has chosen to spend time with her ‘not so nice family’ - hold the mirror up. What does that say about you? You can be unhappy internally about your son’s choices but it is his path. You need to think about your grandchild that will be coming into this world whether you like it or not.

If you spoke about my daughter that way I’d be seriously unimpressed! Your a jumped up full of yourself imbecile… poor girl if anything your son sounds vile and this girl sounds to good for him,wonder how long before he cheats on her!

Oh, dear…

Yes it is hard to bring up an unplanned child but you trying to blame her while calling out how she is below your social standards is disgusting.

Your son is a cheat who has gone ahead and gotten another woman pregnant and you're going on about how "she" got herself pregnant to I guess trap your amazing son right?

I'm sure the girl he cheated with is glad to be out of this shit show.

Your son is an adult, he's had unprotected sex with his girlfriend. Now it might be she told him she was on the Pill and wasn't/or took it incorrectly/it failed. However, if they're only 3 months into a relationship, he should have been using a condom, and she should have been insisting. They are both equally responsible for contraception, it's not just the woman's responsibility, and for a man's peace of mind he shouldn't be leaving it all to her either. It might be the young woman doesn't have the greatest home life, and no real role models to guide her in life - but that doesn't make her a dreadful person. You son doesn't have a choice regarding the baby at all, if his girlfriend is going ahead with the pregnancy. He doesn't have to stay in a relationship with his girlfriend but he does need to step up and be the best Dad he can and provide for his child financially. It may be that he's decided to support his girlfriend for the sake of his unborn child, and is willing to give the relationship his best shot. Now, that may or may not work long-term - given they've not been together long, and are still getting to know each other, it's likely their relationship might not last. I can appreciate you are upset, it's not an ideal situation, but it's one that you are now currently in. If you have told your son that you believe his girlfriend is a gold digger, who deliberately planned on getting herself pregnant, then I can understand his reaction. You aren't going to get very far with that attitude. You need to build bridges, that means offering support to BOTH of them, trying to get to know the Mother of your grandchild and putting aside your opinions. As he's blocked you and his brother, then all you can do is hope he contacts you. Or if he's not blocked his Dad, you need your husband to help to build bridges.

Why would it ruin his life? Men of every age and stage have ignoring their children and leaving mothers unsupported since time began.

he is vile and no doubt will cheat on her in the coming months/year
he is too good for her though you don't know her :)

Got Herself Pregnant?
Biologically impossible

Surely you don’t know her really either? They’ve only been together 5 minutes. Give her a chance.

Also, do you honestly not want a relationship with your grandchild?

yes that is a fact but not one that I would want my son to do to someone
I have never said he should not support it financially btw

Stopped reading at "got herself pregnant" 🙄

you are looking for nice comments, but I will give the real ones:

1. Stop mocking the mother of your grandchild and her family background. Each human deserves equal rights to family and happiness, no matter where they came from and who are their parents
2. You cannot be sure her pregnancy is because she saw your son as a meal-ticket
3. There is more to the story otherwise you would not be blocked by your son

Support It
You are just getting better and better

Forgot my last comment: no child deserves to grow up and hear from their grand mother that they trapped their daddy and are a mistake

He doesn't sound good enough for anyone, let alone too good.

his 22
good job had his whole future ahead of him
love to travel/living his best life
this will stop him in his tracks
why would I feel bitter - mine were planned in a loving/financially stable environment with the best life

Did you teach him to use contraception?

Got herself pregnant. Hmm that's a new one.

Is he ashamed, and that's why he has cut all contact?

I am sure he will reach out, eventually.

I was 22 when I had my oldest DD. it was the making of me. Of course, I wouldn't want that for my own children as it is young, but not crazy young (think teen years)

I would advise opening your heart to that girl, as she is the mother of your grandchild and also very young herself.

Hopefully she never allows the child to have contact with you

I don't and don't want to either.
exactly been together 5 mins
at the moment no I see no need to have a relationship with the child

Congratulations, soon to be grandmother! Like it or not, this child is innocent and a quarter you. In your shoes I would take a few weeks to think about it and then eat humble pie like it was your last meal if you ever want to have a relationship with your son and his imminent family.

You never know, they might make a tremendous success of this even if it doesn’t feel like it at the minute. Instead of sounding like a minor character from Pride and Prejudice you could really create something lovely if you play your cards right.