Son gets rebound girlfriend pregnant after 3 months

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I posted on here a while re my Son cheating on his long term girlfriend and he had gone into a relationship which appeared to be a rebound.
It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!
My Son never told us, he did so through his Brother.
He never had children on the agenda (his 22) but I predicted she would get pregnant (call it mothers intuition) when he first started seeing her as he is a good meal ticket for anyone.
She (I am sorry to say) is unemployed and from a not so nice background or equally family.
When we approached our Son (by phone as he has avoided me fact to face since this all came to light) and said he also has options his response was "she wants to keep it" so I have to get on with it.
It is like he been completely cast under a spell with the woman and her family, the bottom line he came last week (I was at work but his Dad was at home), cleared his room and said he cannot stay here anymore with me and they love each other and are going to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Subsequently he has blocked both myself and his brother from all forms of contact and we have not heard from him since.

His Dad has not heard from him and it us left us all completely devastated.
I did say to him if you do not want to be a part of this that's is fine, no one is judging you but you do have to be responsible financially for the child.

We know this is a rebound situation and not only will it ruin his life as no matter what this mistake, and before you all curse me, it is a mistake will stay with him for life. A child will be coming into this world, not because it was planned but because it's mother purely wanted to trap someone, my Son or some other poor soul and then there is no escape even when you split.

Both my Husband and I are just carrying on with our lives, leaving him to it, if he gets in touch we will talk to him but if not then so be it, of course heartbroken inside but he is very stubborn and will continue down this path even if it makes him unhappy.

My Sons last message to me was I do not want you in my life and never want to see or hear from you again. I have come to terms with that now.

Anyone else on here, by any chance experience the same and please I am looking for constructive comments, the last experience here produced some less than nice responses which quite frankly that is not what I am here for, I am here to hear about anyone else who has had a similar experience and where did it end up. TIA

He'll be back when he needs money.

He has made the biggest mistake of his life (my step son did exactly the same and is paying for it every day with his ex).

Wow ! No wonder he blocked you ! Your post not only is the most misogynistic post I’ve seen from a woman but it reeks of “ Karen “ behaviour !
begace yourself woman he is an adult , if you ever want to be part of his life start by apologising!
Thankfully your son has a better moral compass than you and won’t simply pay to have a child hidden away somewhere

Imagine getting yourself pregnant! Leave him alone. I'm not surprised he isnt communicating with you.

I could not teach as I am a female :) but we reiterated the importance of it from an early age

He'll be back when he needs money and he will guilt you in to giving it to him.

He has made the biggest mistake of his life. My step son did exactly the same and is paying for it every day with his ex. And we are paying for it financially. It has cost us thousands already and will carry on costing us.

A baby should be the least of your worries if he's sleeping around having unprotected sex. We had it drilled into us in sex ed class to wear belts and braces. Meaning both the male and female have to use contraception to prevent pregnancy. I know some girls lie say their on the pill but their not. A few girls in my school did this.1 girl who was in my year could have gone onto university. She lost a baby at 15 then got pregnant at 17. To

nothing to apologies for.
but thanks for the advice.
he has zero moral compass he cheated on the last girlfriend
Karen :)

*He is 22.

It sounds like you are creating far more drama about this than needs be. You don’t know what is going to happen in the future. He may well be head over heels for this woman for the rest of his life - go on to have many children and a great marriage. They may well split up before the baby is born. Her coming from a “bad” family - what do you mean? Are they violent criminals? Are they drug addicts or abusive? If it’s based on a difference of economics then you are being judgmental and ignorant. I agree that a pregnancy after 3 months is not ideal, however your son is a man and I would say to him that he needs to make the best go of the relationship as he owes his unborn child that respect. He is not a child anymore and actions have consequences. Interestingly he seems to grasp this more than you. Why does he know about this large inheritance if he is not mature enough to make sensible decisions and not yet able to access it? That was a poor decision on your part. You have said yourself that you have not met/don’t know this young woman so how can you be so sure she is the conniving villain you have created in your mind? Young women fall pregnant incredibly easily and she may well be terrified of what the future holds but not able to terminate due to any number of reasons. It sounds like her family are trying hard to support this young couple to have a chance at creating a stable family - they probably feel just as anxious as you. Calm down - the baby will come, the baby is a gift many people would be grateful for and a child has never destroyed the life of someone with a good support network and money - regardless of relationship status. Dramatic grandparents acting like an inheritance is the most pressing issue or dear sons feelings (baby trumps him now) cause unnecessary stress. Give yourself a good talking to and calm down - tell your son the selfish period is over and new life is all about child (regardless of relationship status) . All this over a new life - some poor parents are currently sitting with terminally sick children grieving that they will never experience such joys in this life.

You realize saying "you have options" is basically telling someone "have an abortion". I wouldn't speak to you either.

You said that out loud. To other people.

I don’t think the term Karen is acceptable to use - it is derogatory to women. I agree with the sentiment of your post though

She didn’t get herself pregnant

Of course you could have taught him. It didn't require a demonstration on your own bits. FFS.

You have done nothing wrong at all and I agree with everything you are saying.

My stepson's ex deliberately got herself pregnant, she admitted it to me.

I would say the more accurate statement from your son would have been that HE has to get on with it, not you OP. He's the one who has gotten this girl pregnant, I hope he will step up and be a decent father.

I am sorry to hear about your step son and the effect it has had on your as a family. I hope he and you get through it.
I am pretty tough and will not be giving any money to him I am the trustee thank god.
these a the best years of their lives (not only him but the woman as well)
good luck and thank you for your kind and honest comments.

God, this stupid quip has annoyed me more than anything else you’ve said - and it’s a tough call.

His 0 moral compass he probably got from you! A apple doesn’t fall far from the tree . You are showing to be a nasty person

that is your interpretation not mine

What are the male role models like in hi life. Has he had any good influences from men since he was a child?

That often gives an explanation even if it doesn't solve the actual problem in hand.

What are the other options?

Parthenogenesis you say? Staggering, you must write it up for the medical journals.

It's not her fault her parents aren't as wonderful as you seem to think you are. But then you said he's vile so you can't have raised him that well.