Son gets rebound girlfriend pregnant after 3 months

[Itcanonlygetbetter72]

I posted on here a while re my Son cheating on his long term girlfriend and he had gone into a relationship which appeared to be a rebound.
It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!
My Son never told us, he did so through his Brother.
He never had children on the agenda (his 22) but I predicted she would get pregnant (call it mothers intuition) when he first started seeing her as he is a good meal ticket for anyone.
She (I am sorry to say) is unemployed and from a not so nice background or equally family.
When we approached our Son (by phone as he has avoided me fact to face since this all came to light) and said he also has options his response was "she wants to keep it" so I have to get on with it.
It is like he been completely cast under a spell with the woman and her family, the bottom line he came last week (I was at work but his Dad was at home), cleared his room and said he cannot stay here anymore with me and they love each other and are going to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Subsequently he has blocked both myself and his brother from all forms of contact and we have not heard from him since.

His Dad has not heard from him and it us left us all completely devastated.
I did say to him if you do not want to be a part of this that's is fine, no one is judging you but you do have to be responsible financially for the child.

We know this is a rebound situation and not only will it ruin his life as no matter what this mistake, and before you all curse me, it is a mistake will stay with him for life. A child will be coming into this world, not because it was planned but because it's mother purely wanted to trap someone, my Son or some other poor soul and then there is no escape even when you split.

Both my Husband and I are just carrying on with our lives, leaving him to it, if he gets in touch we will talk to him but if not then so be it, of course heartbroken inside but he is very stubborn and will continue down this path even if it makes him unhappy.

My Sons last message to me was I do not want you in my life and never want to see or hear from you again. I have come to terms with that now.

Anyone else on here, by any chance experience the same and please I am looking for constructive comments, the last experience here produced some less than nice responses which quite frankly that is not what I am here for, I am here to hear about anyone else who has had a similar experience and where did it end up. TIA

He’s an adult. He’s had unprotected sex. There is now a baby on the way. He sounds like he’s being mature and stepping up.

You need to as well. This is your grandchild.

Stop bringing a bitch about his girlfriend and get to know her.

Sorry - stopped reading at “got herself pregnant.” 🙄

thank you. Nothing diluted at all. We offered to speak to both of them together, in no way would we say to abort, it is the woman's decision BUT in the time they have been together they have split up twice, and the bottom line, with the my Son's personality this will not end well for either of them. We have not had any contact/meetings with her as he has kept her at arms length.
Again appreciate your constructive comments.

Yes you may be upset at your son’s behaviour but given your attitude towards the woman I’m not surprised he’s cut contact. You need to take off your rose tinted glasses.
She didn’t get herself pregnant, they had unprotected sex. Your son is as much responsible for this as she is. It takes two to tangle. To be fair to your son he is stepping up to his responsibilities.
From your perspective I think you need to build bridges if possible so that you can at least have some kind of relationship with your grandchild if not your son.

Gosh. I feel sorry for her. Getting (herself) pregnant with someone who has been raised in such a toxic situation. Hopefully you have nothing to do with this child, for the good of humanity.

He will be back
all you can do is support him when he does
and hopefully you will support her too

She got herself pregnant?

Thank you for your comment. Appreciated.

Your son has helped to create a life and now has to deal with the consequences. If she was such an awful woman, and you and your family are so wonderful, why has he chosen to cut you out of his life? Surely he would get as far away from her as possible. Telling him he doesn't have to be involved apart from financially, doesn't set you in a very good light. You won't care but I think you sound horrendous. I guess one blessing is that you don't want anything to do with your grandchild, so at least the child won't grow up having to deal with your disdain and disapproval.

You sound very bitter, no wonder he doesn’t want you in his life.

Thank you for your kind comments. much appreciated.

Ain't you a nasty piece of work? Really she got herself pregnant, not your cheating idiot of a son who can't keep his dick in pants or be responsible and use protection???

Not bitter, realistic. Bringing a planned child into this world is hard, unplanned is even tougher.

I’m just going to go ahead and say it.
You sound awful, mother in law from hell awful. I’m not surprised he decided to go non contact.

Perhaps he did want a child, he has upped and left fairly quickly.
You sound like a woman who has never had a daughter and blames woman for men being shits 🤷‍♀️

What really? It was an immaculate conception and he wasn't involved at all?

This is my fear with my 19 yr old son. Thankfully they have broken up for the last time hopefully.

I totally understand where you're coming from.

You really need to adjust your thinking on this one. Your son was not conned into a pregnancy, she didn’t do it herself and she will now be part of your life for the rest of your life if you intend to have a relationship with your son.

Your son is a grown ass adult, sex education has been taught in schools, information is freely available and anyone who doesn’t know that unprotected sex can get a person pregnant (and risk STDs) shouldn’t be having sex. So either your son was ok with the idea of having a baby or is so stupid he didn’t even think about the possibility.

You may never come to love your sons girlfriend like a daughter, but presumably you would want to have a relationship with your grandchild and you would love them so you need to at the very least be amiable with her, to support them emotionally as a family, to not actively oppose and deter them.

I have no idea and that is the truth.
He literally changes from one day to the next so you never really know what is going on his mind.
If there is mental health issues (no history of that) then that would explain it.
Will just need to wait and see if he contacts us. If he chooses not to then that is his choice.

She didn’t get herself pregnant.

Get with the program and support your son, otherwise you’ll have no access to your son or your grandchildren.

Hes 22 not 16. He knows full well how to prevent pregnancy. He seems to be stepping up to support his pregnant girlfriend. At least he has the decency to do that.
What's done is done and the baby is coming come what may, so why don't you get off your high horse, write to your son apologising for your behaviour and get to know the mother of your grandchild?

I can understand why he doesn’t want any contact with you.

She didn’t get herself pregnant, they both had sex and got pregnant, it takes 2!

Also he’s 22 not 16, he’s old enough to make his own decisions.

Why is he in a fortunate financial position- is it inheritance? Is it money accessible to him at the moment or just earning potential?

Your ‘meal ticket’ comment is idiotic.

At best, when they split up, he will pay some financial support over what the system says is the minimum, and spend a small proportion of his time parenting. The woman will do the vast majority of parenting and paying for things, and/or she’ll get whatever benefits she’s eligible for.

At worst he’ll be a deadbeat dad who pays nothing and does little to no parenting.

In all scenarios the woman - and of course the DC - have far more risks in this situation than your DS.