Son gets rebound girlfriend pregnant after 3 months

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I posted on here a while re my Son cheating on his long term girlfriend and he had gone into a relationship which appeared to be a rebound.
It now transpires that the rebound girlfriend has got herself pregnant after 3 months with my Son!!!
My Son never told us, he did so through his Brother.
He never had children on the agenda (his 22) but I predicted she would get pregnant (call it mothers intuition) when he first started seeing her as he is a good meal ticket for anyone.
She (I am sorry to say) is unemployed and from a not so nice background or equally family.
When we approached our Son (by phone as he has avoided me fact to face since this all came to light) and said he also has options his response was "she wants to keep it" so I have to get on with it.
It is like he been completely cast under a spell with the woman and her family, the bottom line he came last week (I was at work but his Dad was at home), cleared his room and said he cannot stay here anymore with me and they love each other and are going to spend the rest of their lives with each other.
Subsequently he has blocked both myself and his brother from all forms of contact and we have not heard from him since.

His Dad has not heard from him and it us left us all completely devastated.
I did say to him if you do not want to be a part of this that's is fine, no one is judging you but you do have to be responsible financially for the child.

We know this is a rebound situation and not only will it ruin his life as no matter what this mistake, and before you all curse me, it is a mistake will stay with him for life. A child will be coming into this world, not because it was planned but because it's mother purely wanted to trap someone, my Son or some other poor soul and then there is no escape even when you split.

Both my Husband and I are just carrying on with our lives, leaving him to it, if he gets in touch we will talk to him but if not then so be it, of course heartbroken inside but he is very stubborn and will continue down this path even if it makes him unhappy.

My Sons last message to me was I do not want you in my life and never want to see or hear from you again. I have come to terms with that now.

Anyone else on here, by any chance experience the same and please I am looking for constructive comments, the last experience here produced some less than nice responses which quite frankly that is not what I am here for, I am here to hear about anyone else who has had a similar experience and where did it end up. TIA

That's harsh. By the sounds of it he's planning on staying with his partner and raising the child so I cant see where your opinion that he's a bastard has come from?

Edited to add:

Ahh do you mean because he cheated? Tbf he's more of a foolish young lad than a bastsrd really

thankfully not married so I am not a MiL

An immaculate conception just in time for Christmas!

Is he though??

inheritance plus a decent income that in his rebound state made her aware of.
he has not got direct access but is fully aware of it.

What's wrong with your sons personality?

You obviously hate this woman OP and consider her below you and your son so it's probably best if he stays away while he tries to make things work.

Oh dear your coming across as a very petty woman. I hate to say this but it is fairly obvious why he has gone no contact with you.

He’s 22. That is a grown man, not some 16 year old boy. This isn’t your problem. He’s plenty old enough to learn to use a sodding condom. Many of us here were living independently, married or parents by 22. Not your problem.

Aww op he hasn't ruined his life. Don't keep going with that attitude.

Yes he's made it more complicated but it's not ruined. Not at all.

It's not your first choice for your son. It's probably not his first choice for himself if he's perfectly honest. But it will be okay. And it might well even be lovely.

I hope he gets back in touch and you can work it out.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do when you’re a young adult is to admit your parents were right and I have a feeling now he has shown you that your prophecy was accurate he is doubling down on the situation.
No doubt he should have been more sensible about contraception, no one can ‘trap’ anyone with a baby if the person they are having sex with is sensible and makes sure they themselves are responsible so I think you need to alter your mindset about her being the only one at fault.
Having said that you must be so disappointed, I’m sure in your shoes most of us would be. All you can do is keep the door open, welcome the girlfriend and baby and take an interest, that baby is after all your grandchild too.
Regardless of her background and family, that shouldn’t be what you are judging are on, she is her own her person

But he’s gone from mummy’s house to GF’s parents’ house. So he can’t be in that amazing a financial position when he doesn’t even seem to live independently.

Are you willing to accept their relationship for his sake? And step up as a grandparent when the baby is born?

You need to change your attitude to her if you want a relationship with your grandchild. This woman did not get herself pregnant, or trap your son. He had unprotected sex with her and clearly old enough to know how babies are conceived. The fact he’s broken contact with you says that he knows how you’ll respond to this and clearly has made his choice. You need to change your attitude to this, or lose your son.

And later you will be moaning you never see your grandchild or son..
You come across as bitter and maybe jealous op.
Yes he has to support the child.
Why were you suggesting he walk away completely ?
It s maybe not the best time but he can step upand be the best dad he can be
Shame you choosing to step away as grandparent but no one would blame himfor never speaking to you again

he is a complete shit for cheating IMHO

and I do not see him staying put in a situation where he ultimately does not want to be.

Him having money still doesn’t mean he will share much of it at all, unless he marries her and stays married for a few years - the odds of that seem unlikely.

She hasn't got herself pregnant or cast a spellon him! Takes two to tango. You don't even know her and you're blaming her rather than even considering your son has been irresponsible. Jeepers

Your son, girlfriend and the baby will be fine, sounds like Grandma needs mental help though. Poor girl having you as potential MIL

Your son and his girlfriend each chose to have unprotected sex with someone they barely knew. They both behaved with a complete disregard for the risks of unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

Way back in the 80's, we had the importance of safe sex practices drummed into us in our early teens. How on earth do 20-somethings not know this forty years later? I assume schools still teach reproductive biology and sexual health, so I blame parents for not requiring or reinforcing even basic standards of responsibility toward self or society these days.

At least your son currently seems to be making vaguely appropriate stand-by-her-choice noises. Everything you've posted so far is offensive and regressive.

I wont be moaning that I do not see the child
nothing to be bitter about
Agree he MUST support whatever happens
I did not say walk away he said it was an accident on the last verbal convo we had but she wants to keep it, he did not but what can he do.

Jeez she got herself pregnant! Maybe he should stop waving his willy at women without something on the end of it....he wants to stand by her and youre furious!! Hes cut you off and you wonder why!! Yes he pronably has messed up his life but its done and hes standing by her it sounds like he will be a better parent than you

thank you for being kind.
this will impact both of their lives is my point above all.
yes the odds are very unlikely hence my asking the question.

Op why is having a child messing up your life? Is that what happened to you? Dud you feel bitter for having your children? Why? It takes you a different path to no child in your 20s but why are you only seeing negative?

No remember the Virgin Mary?