Thread 48- Covid GCSE Cohort - Summer before Year 2 Uni

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Summer ending. Year 2 for many at Uni about to start.

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and advice to be had.
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@crazycrofter I had the same chat with my friend the other day! We both married the guys we met in our placement year. So any boyfriends our DDs get now could be the one! It feels too young for them to be thinking about this stuff

That is a scary thought. It feels like only yesterday we were deciding whether DS was old enough to have an Xbox 🤯

I'm another who met DH aged 19 and in my first year at uni. Six months earlier I'd dumped my then bf because he started talking about moving his job to wherever I went to uni. I was far too young for such commitment 🤣 I can't imagine either of my two finding 'the one' any time soon. DD has too much traveling to do and DS would have to get off his Xbox/be awake.

Praise be 🙌we have an updated timetable!!! It appears he has missed 6 hours of lectures so far.

Good news on the timetable @JustHereWithMyPopcorn 🎉 but not on the missed lectures 😬

Dd had just been telling me in Sep that she was finally feeling content to be single for a while 🤣

Blimey, most of you lot are proper steady eddies! I'm like ED, meeting my husband when I was 30. And he was (and still is) 8 years younger than me, proper cradle snatcher me. But we had our 24th wed anniv last week, somehow in my head, the age gap is closing :)

But I didn't go to Uni, which seems to be where many of you and your DC meet their partners.

I'm sorry to hear of the broken hearts your YP are experiencing. I think mine would love a partner, but she admits it's also good that she hasn't as she would struggle to invest the time needed to make one work. And has never gone beyond 3ish dates because of this.

Joining the met DH at 30 club. Had a few longish relationships late teens/twenties including a couple of proposals (didn't see them coming). We got married at 36.

Young heartbreak is so hard. DS is too busy with sport as far as I know...but who knows?

I met DH when I was 23 and he was 29. But I had done gap year, uni, 2 years of law school and was well into my 1st year of training contract. Precocious, moi? My 23 yo DS is still in his 4th year of uni! He has a different girl in every city it seems but no relationship at the mo. 25yo dd ditched the 32yo bf when he started discussing babies. She has been playing the field a bit but seems to be going out a lot with a 30yo lawyer… so let’s see. Haven’t been allowed to meet him but he looks nice in photos. Ds2 has managed to keep his relationship going through his gap year adventures while she was at uni and now while they are 3.5 hours apart at uni. Let’s see how long that lasts, but they are very steady and sweet together. DD 17yo ditched her boyfriend ruthlessly on the phone (he was locked up in boarding school) and seems not at all interested in replacing him …

@craggyrat I hope the treatment goes well.

I met dh when I was 22 he is 15 years older than me though. Age gap didn't seem so bad by the time I was early 30's and he was mid 40's. But as we get older the gap feels it's getting bigger again. Though to be fair he could easily outrun me if we needed to make a quick get away.

OK, I have something to beat the exploding oven story…

DD’s neighbour on her Victorian terrace street in Newcastle heard a horrendous crash from their front hall. Turned out that the first floor shower had been leaking slowly onto the floorboards for (probably) a couple of years and THE ENTIRE SHOWER CUBICLE had smashed through the ceiling into the front hall!!

Luckily, both the shower and the hall were empty…

Thanks @icanbewhatiwant

I didn't go to uni either and met DH at work. Was 33 when we married. We got engaged four months after our first date. I'd never been out with anyone for more than 3 dates before DH.l! We married in 2001. DS went out with a couple of girls on year 1 but only for a few months each time and is single now.

That is frightening @KingscoteStaff !

We met in 1995 but didn't actually get married until 2017. DH had been married and didn't want to again.

we met in 1997, married in 1999, DS in 2001, DD in 2003.

all the good things in my life have happened in ‘odd’ years!

DH and I were on the same course at Uni 🙂

😮😮

DH and I were on the same course a year apart but only met each other after I had left.

DW and I met when we were sixth formers! (I know, right?) DD has always been happily single (as far as I know). No pressure on her.

Collapsing ceiling/showers... that's a new one on me.

Oh my word!

Thanks all. Good luck Craggy. So pleased Popcorn finally re timetable. So sorry to hear of down ds Seeline. My Ds is still down. Blimey Kings re the shower! I met Dh when I was 23, he's 8 years older.

Crashing shower cubicle must have been a nightmare even without any injuries.

@craggyrat I hope all goes quickly and smoothly.

Omg @KingscoteStaff thats terrifying! Very glad no one was hurt.
Same with the exploding ovens, I’ve never even heard of the self clean function but I certainly won’t look for it in my next oven!

Sorry to hear about the heartbreak, some of you may remember my DS was dumped by his first love the night after he arrived at uni. It’s so hard when you’re so far away from them. He did soon move on though and he and current GF have been together a year next month!

Good luck this week @craggyrat

I met DH at 27 and got married at 33. He is 2 years older. However I already had DS’s from a previous, abusive relationship

Crashing shower girls have been moved to an extremely bouji house on a nearby street while theirs is repaired.

FIL’s funeral today and DD spoke brilliantly and then chatted to many crumblies at wake - so proud of her.

Sorry to hear about FIL @KingscoteStaff but well done to DD. My DD struggles a bit with people her own age sometimes but is a dab hand with her grandparents and their friends. The shower thing sounds pretty frightening!

I met DH at work. We did both go to uni but met around the time we were 30 (he’s a few months younger than me). We got made redundant in two separate waves, partially relocated, I found a new job and he set up a business with other colleagues, married at 33, fully relocated the following year and the DCs followed. I do know a lot of people who met their future spouses at uni.

I have a crash story too, when the DCs were probably about 8 and 6, they had some shelves in an alcove in their room, the sort with metal rails on the wall and brackets that you could move up and down before putting the shelves on, the shelves were screwed onto the brackets. I kept a lot of books and box files on them as well as board games etc. One evening I reached up to get a book down from a high shelf and the whole thing came away from the wall over me. The books etc all slid off but left me under an entire capsized shelf unit and trapped, luckily the top of it landed against their bunk beds so the full weight wasn’t on me. Even more luckily the DCs weren’t in the room and were able to fetch me a phone to call DH who was still at work. Bloody crumbly Victorian walls.

Dramatic crashes! @KingscoteStaff they must have had a mains pressure flood with that too!!

I met my DH at university, but we were both in other relationships, both sang in the choirs at each other's first weddings, got together on my 30th birthday after both divorced. My DSs both feel very permanent with their GFs. DS1's GF moved in with us for COVID lockdowns and DS2 is so close to GF's family that he met up with then to play volleyball whilst GF was away in Nepal.

Mine says a boy might like her! She’s definitely a bit behind on all this stuff. She showed a lecturer her first piece of work and he offered her a job as a student helper, so that’s all good. I began a relationship withDh at 28. I had a 5 yr old ds. He was 30 and divorced. We had mutual friends. We were married within 6 months. Together 35 years.