I've had enough of parenting adult kids- just a rant

[notatherapist]

Name changed because I feel guilty. Like the title says, I just don't want to parent this heavily when they are NT 21 and 23. I feel emotionally exhausted by how much they need me even when one is at uni and one is working. Working one currently at home as going travelling in a month or so.

Im always needed for 'emergencies', always expected to answer texts quickly, my advice is usually wrong. I can't get involved in issues but if I don't get involved then it's uncaring.

It's probably menopause related too but come on now, I barely needed my parents by their age and yet I see no immediate end in site. I will always be there for them and will never say this stuff to them but wondered if I am alone in my thoughts or is it more common as life is pretty unaffordable for this generation.

I am lucky that my mum, though now 78, is healthy, active and a huge support to me. She is on top of tech, very resilient and relentlessly cheery. A good example to my DC who are v close to her.

My sympathies for those sandwiched and dealing with both generations.

I couldn’t have put it better myself.

I have one so intelligent, she blows the Richter scales off, but literally can’t tie her own shoelaces. If left her own devices, she would literally be sharing a house with 10 prostitutes in a crack dealer. That she would’ve invited because she feel sorry for them.
Do the street smart Kick in at any point with autistic ones ? Or do I constantly have to be looking out for people trying to take advantage of her. It’s so hard because she is such a dear kind little soul.