Thread 39 - Covid Cohort - Our Adult Children Now Post 18

[CinnamonOrangeCremeBrulee]

This is a support thread for our young adults post GCSEs 2020, regardless of their educational setting, and their results ( or life updates for those who went into work or have had results earlier). It is respectfully requested that all are supportive and helpful to each other. If you want to start a debate, e.g state vs private, uni vs employment please don't within this thread.

Some of us have been here since first thread back in yr10, some will be new. Everyone has been friendly and helpful in the past. Everyone is welcome. It is hoped this will continue. We were previously on the secondary board and then further education, now we shall be here in 'Parents of Adult Children' gulp

Our DS/DD may continue down various pathways ( employment, apprenticeships, higher ed). Be warned there might be lots of 'Uni Freshers' chat this time of year. My experience is that everyone is welcomed wherever, whatever their child is doing we have some in work, gap years , apprenticeships etc too. Lots of contributors with different experiences and always sympathy and support to be had !

[Oblomov22]

Ds1 has Already registered with Notts uni GP. Whereas personally because he has no serious medical conditions I thought he was better that he stayed at home one, but now I can't do anything about it cause he's already done it.

[Volterra]

DS needs to see a GP ASAP as due bloods and couldn’t switch from our old one as would create problems for such a short time and new practice said for him just to register at Bath.

3 years after deciding to move we have finally exchanged- just as more stuff is due to arrive this afternoon. I am never ever moving again, thank you all so much for your support 😀

[EspeciallyDivided]

Yay for exchange @Volterra !

Cough mixture - does it actually work? I don't think I've ever tried it in my life (my mum is pretty au naturel about meds too) and although I take anything that is needed I have always thought cough mixture was just a placebo sort of thing. So my DCs have never had it either. DS gets the occasional cold but otherwise is very healthy, having had only one day off in 7 years of secondary school. Just waiting for him to get covid though.

[Shimy]

@EspeciallyDivided Uni is about 77 miles away so about 1 and half hrs away by car, but he doesn't drive yet so public transport will probably double that. The thing, is when DS is ill, he really needs face to face (MH) he's also got some bone structural problems which usually need to be 'seen', ifyswim. I'm really conflicted to be honest because even as I'm typing I can see that all of this can probably be done remotely too.

@Oblomov22 That's sounds perfect. I also selected items based on what each DS has needed in the past so for instance, DS2 has a sensitive stomach and has had lots of problems with heartburn, so a big Gaviscon in his box. DS2 hardly ever gets stomach problems so none in his but ds1 gets lots of sore throats and mouth ulcers, strepsils and Corsodyl (we've never tried the 'ultra' thingy you mentioned) in his.

What is 'New skin'? sounds amazing

[Shimy]

@Volterra That's great news! congratulations. Blessings for you and your family in your new place.

[singingstones]

Great news at last Volterra!

Just ordered some new skin, thank you Oblomov

[Cantonet]

Fantastic news @Volterra.
I've never heard of New Skin either.
My medical kit is fairly basic as I only grew up with Boots soluble Aspirin for all ills as Dad was a doc. ( or the disgusting Andrew's liver salts🤮).
The only extras are DS's Eczema cream.

[Fiddlersgreen]

Congrats @Volterra great news!

[crazycrofter]

Congrats @Volterra ! I also never ever want to move again! This is our fifth house in 22 years of marriage and every time I've hoped it would be the last!

[ealingwestmum]

Woo hoo Volterra!

[Shimy]

@Cantonet Andrew's liver salts, disgusting? wash your mouth out! i used to love Andrews, I'd make up elaborate stories about how much my tummy was hurting just to have a glass made up (Dad kept it in his room). Couldn't wait to gulp it down when it starts fizzing It was special in our house, the closest you got to Pepsi Cola.

[Oblomov22]

Hoorah Volterra.

Shimy. The spray is green. Don't buy the clear one. You turn the stick round and spray it at the back of the throat. Numbs it. It's effective. We all like it.

New skin. Shimy and Singing. It's evil! It's like a tiny tiny little pot of nail varnish and it looks inoffensive. But blimey it's nasty! Any cut or scraping of the knee you paint it on and it stings like buggery. But it leaves behind a plastic coating like a 'new skin' to protect the wound until it heals, until new skin itself really grows. It's fabulous.

Might have helped pp (can't remember who it was now) with cut finger on her 1st night after dropping off!

It's not for the faint hearted but I swear by it.

[Seeline]

Re GPs - registering with a local GP is actually a condition of studying at UEA! I was really surprised, but it made the decision easier for DD.

[Shimy]

@Oblomov22 This is the first i'm hearing of it but it sounds fab and will look for it. Thanks for the recommendation. Will try the throat spray as well.

[Volterra]

Thank you all very much 😀
@crazycrofter this is house number 5 we’ve lived in since we first bought in 1998 - but it is also house number 2 as we moved out and let it for years and were in our last house for 20 years. We bought 4 houses in just over 4 years and my Dad used to joke about never writing our addresses in ink in his address book. I really do mean it when I say never again !

[EspeciallyDivided]

I swear by Chloraseptic and use New Skin occasionally (but it does sting like mad). Nothing would induce DS to use the throat spray though, he can't bear being sprayed with anything (sensory issue), won't use spray deodorant etc. He gets though a lot of plasters though so I've sent plenty of those.

[singingstones]

How is he getting on today ED, have you heard from him?

And how are things with you Also?

[EspeciallyDivided]

Not today but when he was at boarding school last year he often phoned me around 4.30 and the same yesterday so I will wait and see.

I had to send him a parcel today, they are going on a field trip next week and when he phoned yesterday he told me the only thing on the kit list that he didn't have was waterproof trousers so I have dug out the same pair that has seen both my two through DofE, Scout camps etc and never worn. I was impressed I could find them. Posted them at lunchtime with some of his favourite sweets.

[icanbewhatiwant]

@Alsoplayspiccolo sorry hear dd giving you a hard time, also to all others struggling. The one I'm finding things very difficult with is ds1 (age 21) He's so angry and bad tempered all the time. But he thinks we all hate him, he doesn't realise he snaps at everything we say which is making him very unpopular. Literally everything I ask he shouts back. He also makes so much mess everywhere, chucks stuff about etc.

Ds3 is difficult too. So I shall miss ds2 he loves to wind me up. But he's not bad tempered like the other 2. Some days I wish it was me leaving home instead. Ds3 finally decided to go through all the forms sent from university. He was swearing and shouting at his laptop. He'd found a form about modules. Term one there was only one module left to tick. The others said full. I told him that will teach him to not look at emails. He said the email didn't mention modules. But term 2 and 3 it says no modules left, all full. So I'm not sure what that means. So he couldn't complete the enrolment form as it says he must choose modules. So he will need to sort that himself when he arrives. He announced he's out tomorrow afternoon and evening as that is the only day all his mates are free. We are meant to be packing the car tomorrow. I'm working until 2pm. He says he will be gone by the time I get home. We are leaving 6am thurs. So it looks like I'll be packing the car. I've told him to pack a box with things from his room. Of course the box is empty. So I'll just leave it to him. I'm not going to stress about it.

[icanbewhatiwant]

@Monkey2001 your theory of growing up at university didn't work for ds1. He's much worse since returning 😭

[singingstones]

Ooh I am slightly stressed on your behalf icanbe!

[Benjispruce4]

DD was hard work on first return trip but it improved over the years.

[Benjispruce4]

I’ve had to give DD2 a kick up the backside this evening. I’ve got in from work to find her sleeping on the sofa because she is tired……

[Fiddlersgreen]

@Benjispruce4 went into hsbc today, the guy took a look at DS’s ID and typed his details into their system, told us the account was ready and open and that the card had been dispatched yesterday. He said he didn’t know what the hold up was.
Then on the way home an hour or so later, DS got a text confirming his account was successful and that his card and account info was in the post! Coincidence? 🤔

[PhotoDad]

Continued good wishes to everyone with DC who are proving less than co-operative. So much stress and denial around!