I am not being 'kind', I am being a friend, and backing her up, as I know what he is like, what her family is like, and more importantly, how her DD is reacting to it all, none of you lot do.
also, however much you (onebatmother in particular) might say that you know what it is like as you too have had a boter/spirited child/tantruming toddler etc, it is still not exactly like flames DS.
trillian pointed out that I cannot qualify myself as using the abuse arguement just becuase I lived with it and suffered it as a child. if I cannot use that in my arguement, none of you lot can use your examples either!!
oh, and as for the smacking issue seeker, I only ever used it once with each of mine, and none did that particular thing again. I am not a smacker, but they know I mean it if I state that A + B = C when they are playing up.
I did ask them last night if they could ever remember me smacking them. none of them can, but they do remember me shouting, and each have said that they can drwon me out now if they so wish, so shouting is actually less effective (IMVHO).the smacking once worked, hasn;t traumatised them, and they are learly not scarred by it. That does NOT mean BTW tho, that I am advocating smacking, it just means that my way of raising my children is working well for me.
your ways are working for you (I assume seeing as many of you are critisising flame).
flames are working for her.
that does not mean she doesn;t feel guilty about it tho..........she does. But her guilt for not protecting her DD from the bleeding bites is bigger, and could potentialy be worse for her.
and not stopping the biting would definately be worse for flamechick!