I need to get over 'girl envy'

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My best friend has just had a girl. She already has a boy. I have two beautiful and healthy ds's but I feel quite envious that she now has a girl(but am v. happy for her too).
I have always wanted girls and both times I was really disappointed.
I know this feeling is stupid and irrational and I should be thankful,but I can't help it.
I do love my boys very much but feel like I'm missing something.
Please give me a slap.

my dd is far more disrespectful to me than my boys
she does steal my makeup
the boys pants make it to the laundry basket dds dont
they frequently end up back in her drawer
the boys wash their hair
dds is greasy
the boys do their shoes up
dd stands on the backs and ruins them
when askked to tidy rooms (the boys dont often need asking) the boys do...dd bungs stuff under her duvet
the boys clean their teeth dd doesn't
the boys behave in class ...dd jokes cockily with teachers...

this is just the start......

little girls are dreamy ..... dare i say -often dreamier imo than boys.....but...they soon change!

Girls are terrible whingers

Mine aren't clingy, but by God, can they whinge

I do sometimes think it would be fun to get stuck into a Mechano set or something (do they still exist?) as some sort of mental challenge

Because atm I spend my time washing, changing and dressing dd2 then doing EXACTLY the same with the 5!!! plastic dolls we currently possess

I jest, obviously

yeah lucky!!!

I would still love lots and lots and lots of girls!!

I do wonder if i would have spawned quite so many children if they had been girls though - she is harder!

Hiya I know how you feel about having a preference when I had my first I really, really didnt want a boy and even had nightmares about it up until my 20wk scan. Its not bad to have a preference I reckon a lot of people have a secret wish for either or but dont say anything. My wish did come true thnkfully as I know i would have ben devastated if she was a boy. Ive just had my second and he is a boy, but really didnt mind second time round and wouldnt have minded two girls or the one of each i got. Are you not having anymore then is two your lot?

just think you are the adored female in a house full of men and imagine when they are gorgous strapping lads giving their old mum a squeeze (im a mum of two ds's and secretly hoping for a third!!!)

boys are wonderful, wear their hearts on their sleeves, are loyal and (mine) are uncomplicated souls!

ok....I have three girls and two boys, and am soooo glad, and love, that I have the ratio and the amount

BUT

to make you feel better I will do the bad points.....

girls have hormones
girls steal your clothes (when they are big enough)
girls do better make-up than their mums....
girls whine
girls cling (and they teach their brothers how too as well!!)
girls cat fight
girls hold grudges
girls make lots of mess with their hair bits
girls watch girly movies that make you weep (in frustration)
girls like 'high school musical'...(boys do too, but they don;t sing it every god damned minute of the day, or moon over 'troy')
girls need more than two type of footwear, and therefore cost more!
girls turn into stunning teenage girls and attract great hulking smelly boys....

does this help????

You know that thing that gets spouted at Mums who have a baby with Down Syndrome? The one where you were supposed to go to Italy but ended up in Holland but actually Holland turns out to be just as lovely but in a different way? Well, I think for women who wanted girls but got boys, it's more like thinking you were going on a pampering holiday with spa treatments but actually going on an adventure holiday white-water-rafting and abseiling. Not as relaxing but much more fun! I have 4 boys, BTW.

I am the daughter of a man who has made no secret that he wanted boys desperately and has now been disappointed with 3 DGDs. I urge for a boy for me and for him, but that's another story hehe. I wanted to say that all the the things he claims to have missed out on could have been done and enjoyed with us, that's all, he was just old fashioned.
Liz x

i have one of each and based on personal experiance i'd much much much prefer another little boy to another girl (sorry bump if you're a girl!) not that i don't love dd as much as ds because i do, but i find him an infinitely easier child.

really, girls look cute and for a few years you can dress them up like little dolls but they are sooooo much more strife than a boy. for example if i give out to dd she either ignores me (by saying 'i don't want to listen to you!') or goes into histrionics for an hour.... ds just says 'sorry mummy' and trundles off!

Ds is so incredibly loving and cuddly. I find out in a few days if I am having a girl. I am starting to wonder why I want one.
All the girls I know that are ds's age are very un-cuddly, very independant and quite frankly kind of little madams.
I am not sure why I am so desperate for one. Good job I have just about accepted it may be another , and final, boy.

I'll get over it.
This happens every time someone I know has a girl. It doesn't last long and I'm sure I'll be back to normal by tomorrow.
Besides, I never know, I may have a little girl one day. Who can say?
I'll concentrate on my gorgeous, delicious boys for now

think how much money you will save not buying pink.....

((possibly....you never know you may get one yet...))

I have boy girl boy. And they are really different - the boys are mad, crazy, hyperactive, charging round the house. Dd on the other hand is the typical 'little girl who had a little curl' - she is either gorgeous or HORRIBLE!.

And she likes playing...pirates.

Chipmonkey, what a fabulous analogy! Quote of the week!

califrau your post actually made me cry

cali....anytime you like, there are three spare here!!!

((altho they have hormones that will match yours.....you still keen??))

i am currently very pg with a baby
could well be a fifth boy..

have had a little weep tonight over a few pink things i own

hmmm yes good planning Califrau

must re define self -image as eternal optimist!

feel for you, Iknowsorryyournameistoolong.

my aunty has 4 boys and always wanted a girl and when i had dd she (most uncharacteristically, cos we're not that close) sent me a gorgeous outfit and always asks tenderly after her.

I would love another child (either sex would do) but am separated so get general baby envy.

but what we've got is what we've got and it's great, isn't it

Like OrmIrian I won't give you a slap either. Sure you love your boys deeply but nothing wrong with wanting a daughter too

you all get the children destined to get the right love from your heart, be they boys or girls!!!

if they are the sex you might prefer, fantastic, but never ever be sad to get the 'other child'....be forever grateful as they chose to come to you for the reasons you might not yet know.

never forget, you have no idea what life may give to you as a gift, so don't know it yet.