I need to get over 'girl envy'

[IKnowIambeingmad]

My best friend has just had a girl. She already has a boy. I have two beautiful and healthy ds's but I feel quite envious that she now has a girl(but am v. happy for her too).
I have always wanted girls and both times I was really disappointed.
I know this feeling is stupid and irrational and I should be thankful,but I can't help it.
I do love my boys very much but feel like I'm missing something.
Please give me a slap.

There is something a bit special about a clumping, hyper, fidgetty four year old boy pointing at teal sequined tops and saying "I think this would be very beautiful for you, mummy, it's shiny."

I completely understand.

My sis has 2 boys, I have 2 girls.... we have often discussed having a weekend where my DP goes to her house and gets some much needed "boy time" and she comes to our house and does "girl stuff"

i think the old adage is hot air. my brother is 24 and showing no signs of leaving home whatsoever! i think my mum is secretly glad she has 3 girls as well, one of whom has already left home thankfully (yours truly) and two others who will no doubt be globetrotters when they grow up.

I love the little ethnic ones too here and here

I can tell you all about my dd if you want, that's sure to put you off girls!

Seriously though I think this feeling is quite common. I am glad I have got a boy and a girl, I seem to know so many people with either all boys or all girls.

Go away, Anna8888. You're not helping. You're making me feel more miserable and envious. ()

How much are they in £'s Anna8888?

Sorry - though you can buy the toys anyway, you know.

yes I admit prettier then playmobil Anna!

They are around 20 euros each - wait until the exchange rate has improved

I've had a full family (grandparents, parents, four children and a baby) since I was 10/11 and now my daughter plays with them .

my grandmother had two boys and she filled her house full of german dolls and hand made toys (that she made herself) in her old age. I understnad completely!

I know, Anna.
I shall buy them for my niece. (db has one of each. My niece is lovely)

Totalmisfit - I said boys leave when they find their long term partner. Meaning when they have a family etc they are less likely to spend time with their mum. I believe this true
I think when girls have a family they are more likely to spend time with their mum.

I have one boy and am pregnant with second child. I think I'd be happy with 2 boys but secretly fear that when they're adults I shall turn into one of those horrific possessive mothers who hate their wives/girlfriends! Girls always seem to have a much closer relationship with their mothers as adults. (cue Diana Rigg expression)

Boys are harder work than girls but more fun I reckon. The toys are better and I think they're less complicated emotionally.

Maybe I'm thinking about this too much.

I joke to my DP that my only hope is that one of them is gay!

Bodkin, that sounds like a good idea!

We sometimes have a little friend of ds' to play at our house so that he can do 'boy stuff' (father is not around and he has sisters). It's interesting to see how he changes when he is here as opposed to his own home.

IKnowIambeingmad - good idea, they make a fantastic present for girly girls

People think I should 'try' for a girl. If I did have one, I would rejoice.
I don't know how I'd feel about another boy so I'm not sure I'm willing to take the risk.

20 euros per figure? Now I remember why i like playmobil, it's about one tenth of the price

Does playmobil last for 2 generations though?

I also have all the matching wooden dolls house furniture (scale 1/10) though I don't know where to buy that on line....

My children play with my dh's playmobil, my mil has keot everything

I have my eye on one of those beautiful wooden jungle safari sets that probably cost about the same as the prissy doll's house.

God i got obsessed buying a beautiful doll's house for my dd, and all the intricate furniture to go inside. i kept thinking "ah, thank god i have a girl, i wouldnt miss all this for the world"

but then ds got insanely jealous of said dolls house, so i ended up buying him one too, with even more furniture and people to go with it, and he is the one who spends all his hours playing with it, whilst dd's just sits in the corner gathering dust..

I guess it's a case of the grass being greener! I had 2 dd's and then had a ds and was over the moon! I think it's just about wanting to experience both, really. My friend has just had her 3rd boy (and we were all so sure it was going to be a girl!) Makes it difficult to know what to say- I think deep down she will be just a teeny bit disappointed, but you can't really talk about that somehow, can you?

Anyway, to cheer you up, having had both, I'll give you the downsides of girls:

You have to do their hair every morning- I'm not a girly girl at all, and I find this a real labour of love, not to mention blummin time consuming!!
If you have a girly girl (like dd1) they want to do ballet and it costs you an arm and a leg (ballet show tonight, £20 for a costume, £10 x4 for tickets, shoes, tight, leotards, lessons.....) I envy my friends with their boys and their one pair of football boots!
They want things like Barbie dolls, which I hate with a passion.
dd1 is 4 and oh so bossy!!! She wants to be mum, and frequently tries to act like she is! Boys seem a bit more affable somehow! She can also argue like a barrack-room lawyer!
Dresses are a pita to iron, and girly colours are horrific to keep clean- tomato ketchup is far more easily hidden on a pair of jeans than cropped pink trousers!

I'm sure there are many more! I'm also sure my relationship with my girls will really be put to the test when they are teenagers. I found MY diary from when I was 14 and had to call my mum (this was 10 years later!) and apologise!! I was soo vile to her, while remaining a right daddy's girl!

DS has all DH's old lego. DD has my wooden doll's cot made by my Dad.

Anna, you're making me want to spend money. I was content with playmobil until I saw those links!