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Birthday parties. Common for people to do this?!

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Cluelessfirstimer · Yesterday 10:36

DS 4 was invited to a birthday party tomorrow. He cant go as its his cousins party the same day (different nursery no cross over friends).

The mum of the birthday girl created a WhatsApp group with everyone invited. Im still in it although I did tell the mum we couldn't come.

Anyway, today she sends a message. She invited "extra " people incase some couldnt make it. She over invited what the venue will allow by 5. 3 couldnt make it so its still 2 over. She has straight up tagged 2 mums to ask that they keep their DC at home as she doesnt have space.

One has replied kicking off that shes told her DC they are going and moved plans and it will cause huge upset.

Glad im well out of it but this is a bit shit right? Personally I think its awful the day before to suddenly spring on that 2 children cant come. Why would you over invite in the first place?

The group is kicking off now but the mum maintains everyone does this?! Im new to all this but I wouldnt even consider doing that.

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Princessfluffy · Today 22:22

In my experience most of the invited children don’t reply at all so you can’t tell how many will be coming. I think not rsvping is the height of poor manners.

Rpop · Today 22:23

Cluelessfirstimer · Yesterday 10:36

DS 4 was invited to a birthday party tomorrow. He cant go as its his cousins party the same day (different nursery no cross over friends).

The mum of the birthday girl created a WhatsApp group with everyone invited. Im still in it although I did tell the mum we couldn't come.

Anyway, today she sends a message. She invited "extra " people incase some couldnt make it. She over invited what the venue will allow by 5. 3 couldnt make it so its still 2 over. She has straight up tagged 2 mums to ask that they keep their DC at home as she doesnt have space.

One has replied kicking off that shes told her DC they are going and moved plans and it will cause huge upset.

Glad im well out of it but this is a bit shit right? Personally I think its awful the day before to suddenly spring on that 2 children cant come. Why would you over invite in the first place?

The group is kicking off now but the mum maintains everyone does this?! Im new to all this but I wouldnt even consider doing that.

Does she work for the airline industry? This is how they operate too apparently. Not sure I’ve heard of any parties (especially children’s parties) operating this way.

Rpop · Today 22:26

Cluelessfirstimer · Yesterday 10:53

I haven't done a party for DS yet (we usually go on holiday for his birthday and said we would start them next year when hes at school) but this is what I would do.

The mum of one of the uninvited children has set up a separate chat saying she is thinking of hiring soft play tomorrow for anyone who would rather go to that.

I think thats nice but also feeling terrible for the birthday girl if everyone decides to just abandon her party now.

Monday is going to be interesting.

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Oh no. Thats just as bad.

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Bunny65 · Today 23:45

Does she think she’s Ryanair? Is she offering compensation?

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