Who should share a room in our blended family home?

[Lost4Madness]

My husband and I have a 4 year old daughter. He has a DD 18years old and DS 16 years old who come to stay 5 days out of 15 (although sometimes less, depending whether they make other plans to go out and remain at their mothers). We’re about to buy our first home and I’m not sure on sleeping arrangements. My husband is adament his eldest DD is to have her own room…but I’m not sure who our DD should share with. Any advice?
PS there’s no other room to use as ‘bedroom’ except a sofa bed in living room.

To lose one child must be awful but to lose two in the same accident /way is just unthinkable 😢

We don’t know what happened I don’t think?

Its fairly obvious its been some sort of tragic accident, fire or road accident.
I can't think how else two children die at the same time.

Horrific regardless of how.

Never assume is my motto

Well it's either accident or illness, highly unlikely to lose two children at the same time through illness in 2025. Therefore on the balance of probability it has to be accident.

What are you doing?

OP has already said she has lost 2 of her children in tragic circumstances.. she has kindly offered that information as an explanation of how they are where they are now. She doesn't need to elaborate, it isn't relevant to the issue she has posted about, and people like you discussing it so flippantly and making guesses as to what has happened is absolutely abhorrent.

I don't think it's something we should speculate about.

No! Do not allow ds16 to share with dd4 who is not her real brother! Why is your OH insisting that they share? The only solution I can see is wait till dd18 is done with exams so she's not distracted by moving during A level exams. Save up and buy a 4 bed. You'll get to know each other better in this time.

Why is he not her real brother ? He’s her half brother. I’m not advocating for them to share - far from it - but they are blood relatives. If you think OP can afford to wait until DSD is finished with exams, or can save up and buy a four bed, you clearly haven’t understood the problem. It’s nothing to do with knowing each other better and everything to do with having a bedroom standing empty most of the time when space is at a premium.

Totally unnecessary comment. OP has already explained that the loss was in tragic circumstances. Why are you questioning that ?

If you read OP’s comments properly it’s fairly obvious that this was a house fire which the two children did not survive. And it has no bearing on the situation OP has posted about. It’s just posters wanting macabre detail with no thought for the distress caused to OP.

And you called my comment unnecessary