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Another parent angrily speaks to my child in playground

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TheBrightBear · 04/04/2025 00:45

There's a new playground beside my kids school. In my opinion it is really badly laid out and part of it is fenced off from the other part, and you can't see through the fence, and due to this is very hard to completely fully watch the children. I was watching my 2 year old and when I looked up another mother was losing the plot with my older child age 7. The fence was in the way of my view. She claimed he had deliberately knocked down her child. I didn't see due to the angle, maybe he did...it would be uncharacteristic of him to have done it on purpose but I suppose possible. I took her word for it and apologised and checked that her child was ok. He was. When I turned around my child had vanished. He had run out of the playground and was hiding in some bushes trembling and shaking. I eventually got him back to the car and he curled up on the floor of it continuing to cry. A friend helped me persuade him to go back to the playground for a little bit so that he wouldn't be afraid to return the next time. He was very upset for the rest of the day and still subdued at bedtime. This woman is a parent at my children's school. I am wondering if I should speak to her and tell her the consequence of her actions as it seemed like a massive overreaction. My son was unable to tell me what she said but I think it must have been very strong as he is usually fairly thick skinned. She is part of an unfriendly clique of mums and I am afraid her reaction to him was something to do with nasty gossip between them. They are very social climber-esque and I am not good enough for them and I feel because of that it was acceptable to her to behave like that towards my child. Honestly in all the years in outdoor settings and playgrounds including during the pandemic I have never seen a parent going off on someone else's child like that. I am afraid of it happening again and we have to wait in that playground a lot as my oldest is collected from school at a later time to my 7 year old. I feel a bit powerless because it was a complete overreaction and also I have bitten my own lip so many times when bad behaviour has been directed towards my own children...the most I would ever say is 'no throwing', 'take turns' etc.

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TheBrightBear · 06/04/2025 00:15

pineapplesundae · 05/04/2025 23:45

i wouldn't take my son to that playground to be tormented. Find a better place to wait for your older child.

Thanks yes I have realised good thing about the playground opening is that all the kids are in there now and if we wait in the original hangout place it is now very quiet and the tricky kids are all gone. So it was a blessing in disguise maybe. That's for your helpful comment. It backs up what I was thinking.

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TheBrightBear · 06/04/2025 00:16

LoveSummerNotIcecream · 05/04/2025 23:45

Your poor son. He’s been chased around by children with sticks for a year and you’ve done nothing to deal with it. Why haven’t you spoken to the school for goodness sake. You’re focusing on the minutiae of what happened in the park, when your son is being bullied, repeatedly, in front of your eyes, and you do nothing. Poor boy.

It's not on school property. He is so big and tall compared to the the boys who chase him if I said it was bullying I'd be laughed at.

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LoveSummerNotIcecream · 06/04/2025 00:27

That’s nonsense, why would anyone laugh. You can get bullied whether you are tall or short, old or young. Even if it’s not a school property, I bet they’re wearing school uniform; their behavior reflects on the school so I’m sure the teachers would listen to you. Same as they do if children are behaving badly on buses, or in shops on the way to or from school.

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TheBrightBear · 06/04/2025 00:31

LoveSummerNotIcecream · 06/04/2025 00:27

That’s nonsense, why would anyone laugh. You can get bullied whether you are tall or short, old or young. Even if it’s not a school property, I bet they’re wearing school uniform; their behavior reflects on the school so I’m sure the teachers would listen to you. Same as they do if children are behaving badly on buses, or in shops on the way to or from school.

I had to speak to the principal once because my older child was being really excluded in the yard and it went on for a long time. I used the word bullying and shouldn't have .The principal basically got angry and said there's no bullying in the school. I was really shocked but as time has gone on... maybe they are right and people just cry the word bullying for things that are too minor and all the anti bullying policies are so woke.. I don't think I'd get very far if I went in to her about something happening off school property.

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Alip1965 · 06/04/2025 08:29

TheBrightBear · 04/04/2025 02:11

I'm scared her or one of her clique will do it again. Some of her clique friends kids are in his class. Worried also that she will use it as an excuse to spread nasty gossip about me or him.

What nasty gossip could they spread ?
Maybe you could ask the parent to clarify what happened as your son was very upset and scared. See what she says. Then I would be saying to her she should of come to you not verbally attacked a 7 year old. If she has an attitude tell her your next move is to speak to the police about her behaviour. See what rumours she spreads then.

farmlife2 · 06/04/2025 09:23

Alip1965 · 06/04/2025 08:29

What nasty gossip could they spread ?
Maybe you could ask the parent to clarify what happened as your son was very upset and scared. See what she says. Then I would be saying to her she should of come to you not verbally attacked a 7 year old. If she has an attitude tell her your next move is to speak to the police about her behaviour. See what rumours she spreads then.

Probably, "OMG, you won't believe what happened! I told junior not to push people over in the park the other day and OP called the police. She's crazy! We better keep ourselves and our children well away, because who knows what she'll do next!"

Ilikeadrink14 · 18/06/2025 17:50

Why can’t some people on here be bothered to speak/write properly? The amount of ‘should of’ and ‘could of’ comments on here make me wonder if any of the posters actually went to school!
Not to mention idiotic comments like -
‘Suck it up’
‘Give your head a wobble’ (a real favourite, that one)
‘End of’ (that is super-pathetic!)
’This’,
’Wow, just wow’.
The people responsible (and others who like to stick their noses in) will not be happy with me, but I don’t care! (and I didn’t even say ‘D’you know what?’ in front of that!

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