Social services

[Louiee11]

Need some advice for my friend
So she’s currently 38 weeks pregnant and she’s got social involvement with this pregnancy due to her last child but it’s all getting better
She’s recently got in touch over call with her old mate in prison and been in touch for few days she’s worried that it’s now gonna go against her
he’s in prison for class a or b drugs
He isn’t the baby’s father at all
Does anyone know what would happen or if they would find out ?

What's "needed" is for you to prioritise your child. You have potentially days to become a safe parent and right now there are lots of reasons for people to be concerned you aren't going to be able to do it.

This man is a convicted criminal, serving a custodial sentence for drug offences. Any one of those things would mean a responsible mum would run a mile, to keep her child safe. Not seeing that it's an issue is a red flag in itself. Trying to avoid contact with such a man being noticed is another red flag and isn't going to work. You will get found out. Your best chance at a positive outcome is to cut contact now and confess to social work now. They can help you get support to improve your decision-making and they can keep your child safe, as (this may feel harsh but it's accurate) you aren't showing that you have the judgement and skills to keep then safe so someone else needs to.

I am assuming that Simon means the person can say no to their number being passed on, so the prisoner never gets it. Hence not needing to change it.

@Louiee11 Are you not willing to take the advice given here about this 'friend'? she needs to cut this guy off and prioritise her baby?

Showing my age but as the Bay City Rollers used to sing," Bye bye baby, baby goodbye."

Update … She has now stopped contact and hasn’t answered any off calls but will ss still find out that she did have that contact before hand ?

Of course they can .

Of course they can and will. Telling them the truth now is the best option here for the sake of this child.

This must be a joke. Constantly asking the same questions, getting the same answer.

She's open to social care and been in contact with a convicted offender who is stoll in prison. Of course they'll find out. It's also better for her that they find out now than further down the line

Would they find out by the prison or the probation officer ?

Why does it matter? Stop talking to this incarcerated criminal, your children are at risk. We all know it's you not a mythical 'friend'.

It doesn't matter who tells them. There are multiple processes by which she'll get found out - does it really matter which one it ends up being?

Look, drop the pretences and stop trying to find a way to convince yourself this isn't that bad. It is that bad. Social work need to know and will find out, so telling them now at least gives some opportunity for proactive intervention.

Parenting is not about what someone thinks they deserve, or what an adult wants. It is about keeping a vulnerable child - in this case a baby - safe. At this point, a mum who is making these sorts of decisions needs to put her own wants aside and tell her social worker how badly wrong things are at risk of going, so they can keep this child safe from harm.

An adult's wants do not trump a child's needs. This child needs someone to prioritise them. If their mum can't, then the state needs to until and unless the mum can learn how to do so.

If contact has stopped, and won’t be resumed, why does it matter through which avenue past contact would be reported? Sounds like you’re telling us what we want to hear, but are actually still fishing for info on how to keep this dodgy shit under the radar from SS.

@Louiee11
If the matter is raised she has to assure them it will not be resumed, she needs to make better choices.

Good god is this STILL going on?!

Just stop talking to this person. 🙄

It's pretty obvious the friend doesn't exist and the OP is trying to get tips and tricks to keep talking to this scumbag without being found out.

I hope SS do their job here and remove the child. This woman doesn't "deserve" another chance when this is what she does with it.

She’s now waiting for a call back from what ss will say about it

Just tell her to grow up and stay well clear of people like this. It’s not difficult. It’s about priorities. She does not need to be in contact with a drug dealer. She is risking losing this child. Why????

Don’t dig the knife in @CalmMauveFox OPs not going to ask for advice if you shit on her from a great height. It’s obvious, and sad, to everyone what’s going on.

Oh this thread….

will SS find out
will SS find out
will SS find out

You’ve been told yes by almost every poster since you started this. Once more YEEEEEESSSSSSSSS

How will SS find out
How will SS find out
How will SS find out

PROBATION OFFICER
RECORDED CALLS
CALL LIST
OTHER INMATES

If your mate is any thing like you, this criminal is calling your mate twice a day to say the same thing twice