Piercing DD's (2.5) ears - best kind of stud?

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Hi all, it's that time! We're v excited about DD's first piercing but this time we're thinking of a stone, not just plain gold? Any suggestions?!?!?

Whataboutery doesn't make it OK to permanently put a hole in a child's ears. We're not discussing other aspects of parenting, we're discussing piercing a child's ears before they are able to consent.

Not wanting to subject a child to a painful procedure, open them up to infection, and change their body in a permanent way that they can't consent to isn't "snobbish". It's good parenting.

The fact that you can't see anything wrong with this at all speaks volumes.

Well my daughter was asking me to have hers done at 2.5 because a girl in her class had them done. Some 2.5 year olds have really good speech. She hasn't had them done yet but it's really not a big deal at all and I would have let her but her dad wants her to wait a bit so that's fine.

It would be a big deal if it was something most people don't like. But women do have their ears pierced. It's a fact 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Lyannaa but what if it’s cultural, isn’t it Ok then?

any professional piercer will refuse.
you could always go old school with a compass needle and ice cube like we did in sixth form

In the UK?

Whataboutery doesn't make it OK to permanently put a hole in a child's ears. We're not discussing other aspects of parenting, we're discussing piercing a child's ears before they are able to consent.

It's not whataboutery.

People like you need to learn that this is a parenting thread, not AIBU. So keep your judgmental attitude to yourself.

shoulnt be allowed till tey have understanding of it

what do you mean its time?

Thank goodness her Dad is a decent parent.
I think quite a few 2.5 year olds would ask to stay up all night and only eat chocolate. Just because they have the language to say it doesn’t mean they understand the implications.

Yep, parenting forum for parenting advice. My advice is, getting your young child’s ears pierced is shit parenting.

Good on your OH.

It depends where the piercing is as to what would look best. A nice diamond on the belly button, plain gold hoops for the ears, and perhaps pearls for the nipples?

The only time a young child should be held down and have to endure pain is for their own good. i.e. for health reasons only: immunisations, medical interventions, and even then most medical professions would do their very best to do everything to avoid that situation.

It goes against every fibre of my being to inflict pain on a child by an adult through choice, for an aesthetic choice at that.

@MumblesParty well you might think you're the judge and jury of good parenting but I doubt your are and really you should ask yourself why you think it's ok to put the boot in to people on a PARENTING thread.

Oh come on! It’s not real people!! Patently obvious from both posts. I do enjoy the comments from posters that get it though.

Saying that, I had my ears pierced when I was 4 years old. At the hairdresser. With a gun. It was FINE!! 😁

For those of you defending this practice as cultural.

Ask yourself - do boys get their ears pierced as well?

If not, why not?

Why are only girls expected to experience the pain of this decoration?

Is it because girls need to grow up understanding that their role in life is purely to be decorative and suffer?

So it's cruel and sexist.

Depends how long ago it was. 40-50 years ago it was fairly normal I believe but obviously we've realised since then that putting holes in a child's ears is a shit thing to do. My understanding is that most reputable piercers stay away from it now.

I had mine done in the UK when I was about 18 months old, I believe. I'm 49 now.

I've let my ear piercings close up, except they haven't ever properly closed. The channel is really wonky, it's always been a complete bastard to put earrings in. And I do wonder if that's because my ears were pierced when I was such a small, wriggly child.

No parent should be doing anything to a child that's irreversible, unless it's medically necessary.

@vodkaredbullgirl well he also tells her that chemtrails are in the sky. And didn't want her to have her vaccinations. I had to get them done without his knowing. So not such a great parent, eh?

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I’m not putting the boot in.
Putting the boot in would be, say, berating someone for shouting at their child when they’re stressed and exhausted.
I’m simply saying that, in the opinion of most people, inflicting pain on a young child for cosmetic reasons is poor parenting.

None.

For those sniggering, or because this is a set up scenario.

It really isn't funny.

Hurting a small child is never funny.

But hey, snigger away Muttley.

Are you giving her a first tattoo as well?

Nice try OP, but 1/10.

What about a nose ring? Super cute!
No op don't do it she's a little child let her be a little child

I got mine pierced when I was in preschool (5 yo). I wanted them pierced. It's not this big procedure people need to make a fuss over and leave till secondary school or later. It really isn't.

Would I pierce a baby's ears? Probably not, but people do lots of things with their kids that I don't agree with.