Am I a the only person that thinks those girl baby bows are horrific?

[noirmum]

I’ve been wondering if anyone agrees but these baby bows are so freaking HORRIBLE!! They’re so ugly and giant and makes the baby girl look stupid. Nobody needs to know the gender of your baby that bad. Babies don’t know where their feet are never mind what gender they are meaning they don’t care what gender they get called. If you really wanted to be obvious about their gender you’d buy girly clothes and girly toys which just proves that the bows are literally just to use the baby as an aesthetic!! At least it points out the mothers that care more about their baby looking aesthetically pleasing than them being comfy in a nice little hat and outfit. If my baby is a girl I hope to God nobody gifts me a bow bigger than her newborn head.

Daft comment.

Or punch holes in them to hang jewellery from?

But to be fair, don't we all dress our babies in ways that we think is cute or we like? I think the bow mums are just doing the same thing as the rest of us, choosing an outfit they think looks lovely on their baby. They're not trying to be attention seeking. I used to dress my little baby in beautiful rainbow leggings and bright jumpers with pictures of stars or pandas or boats on them. It's a bit indulgent in the sense that he didn't care at all what he was wearing and would have been equally happy in cheaper plain outfits. But so what? I wasn't making him an accessory to me, I was simply choosing clothes that I loved for my baby that I love. Just as I choose clothes that I like for myself.

I don't think there's any great mystery when it's bows instead of rainbow leggings, it's just different tastes.

Jesus MN chill out it's just a bloody bow.

No, my DC didn't wear them as I knew the snobby types would judge but seriously, if a child is loved, clean and fed, who cares.

Whilst I don’t disagree with posters disliking the look, thinking it looks cheap or querying need to accessorise an already beautiful baby I will admit I used them
There was some purpose

1. my baby actually was born with black head of hair - within two weeks it was long enough to curl into her eyes ( although I didn’t use headbands until she was few months). I don’t use them all the time so her hair regularly gets in her eyes and then her eyes watering means hair almost sticks to her face/ temple area
2. my daughter has very soft ear cartilage- and her ears got bent forward everytime I went to feed her ( as well as in car seat, or when she turned head in cot) A midwife did suggest/ tell me back in the day they kept hats on baby’s or used small bit of tape to pin baby’s ears down - I was not goi my to keep hat on baby continuously as I didn’t want her to overheat/ so I did use the headband hoping it would mean her prominent ear would not get pushed forward as much.

I only used super soft wide headbands - ( very stretchy - I tested them on my head) I thought the narrow ones looked like they would dig in.

Where I live is windy but in warmer weather woolly hat was over the top so sometime I popped a band on when she was in pram to cover ears- as I personally cannot stand wind touching my ears. Although if I had boy I probably would have had to buy those light cotton hats to even keep hair out of their face. I actually tried to get them for daughter but they came to small/ too big

She does look like 1950s mini housewife with her hair curling over the bows. I personally think it’s cute - but equally she is cuter without them. Also the softest bandsall came with bows - the ones I found anyway.

We were at a wedding party recently and I had put a headband on her - as I knew I did not want to continuously be taking hair out of her face/ eyes - but I regretted it when I seen photos- as I think the bright headband ( matched her dress color ) took away from her little features and was bit tacky - so I understand others perspectives

I didn't know parents used them to prove their baby is a girl , not heard of that , how ridiculous .

They're ghastly anyway .

Not as horrific as the concept and possible consequences of believing in gender in the first place.

Horrible, very tacky and I've heard horror stories about babies pulling them down over their nose or mouth. I also wonder if it's comfy to wear for hours, I get a headache if I wore something similar.

I don’t love them but I understand wanting to dress your baby up in cute stuff that you like, and I did that with both my boy and girl, so I can’t really judge. However what does amaze me is how babies tolerate them - my dd would have ripped a bow off in a split second.

I’m not a fan of them because they look tight and uncomfortable, the last thing I would want to put on a babies soft little head. But I didn’t like putting anything with a tight waist on my DS, like those elastic waisted jeans, they just look uncomfortable. He was in babygrows most of the time or dungarees. Also I had my ears pierced recently and it took 3 days for the pain to go so I wouldn’t put a baby through that.

But the bows obviously they are being used to symbolise a baby's gender. They don't symbolise sex at all. They're not a picture of a vulva, are they?

They give me the ick

I tend to imagine, rightly or wrongly, that parents who put these huge bows on their baby to make sure everyone knows she’s a girl, are parents who were slightly disappointed that their child wasn’t born with a mass of curls!

On a serious note, female baldness is maybe uncomfortable to contemplate for some, in a way that male baldness isn’t, even in babies whose hair hasn’t appeared yet! I think there is probably an element of protectiveness to covering the ‘baldness’ with a bow, especially for parents to whom appearance is very important.

I'm judging people who use the c word far harder than those who put a bow on a baby.

A friend’s baby wears one all the time as she has no hair yet. I do wonder if the hair growth will be affected as baby hair can rub off so easily ?

Completely agree!

That's too big an ask . Human nature is to judge others .

I remember these being a thing when dd1 (now 27) was small (for some reason,I seem to remember they where big in America)

I laughed,saying 'hairbands are for keeping hair out of eyes and that poor baby doesn't have any!'

Roll onto dd2 (now 17) and I never saw them,so guess they where out of fashion

I hated them then and still can't stand them

Same with earrings and the trend for prams with endless pink frills on the hood and the babies name embroidered on them

I saw a lady with all 3 and commented that mum reeeaaallllllyyy wanted a girl

I honestly think the hairbands are dangerous-what if they slip?

I'm sure you are not the only one to spend idle moments judging how other people dress their babies, few of those people would care enough to start a thread, maybe consider putting that brain of yours to a better use.

I didn’t like the headbands and donated any we received. However, now I have to do battle every morning with a feral toddler to brush her hair and put it up for nursery or sports, I wish I’d got her used to clips and bows when she was bald and it might make mornings easier now.

I was quite the opposite, I used to get my little one to wear one as his ear was starting to pop out every time he moved his head from side to side folding it, so I got some without the bows and used to make him wear it in the winter months with his pram suit hood on covering his head. The head band protected his ears from cold weather too where his pram suit hood would have a large gap on the sides when he lied down in his pram plus he hated little beanie hats. The headband was used for about 4 months in winter with supervised use during pram walk naps in a parent facing pram and the ears solved itself after using it.

To be fair, if you applied that rule to starting a thread, MN wouldn’t exist! Most of it is idle chat, speculation and gossip, as is much of rl!

Yes!
One man's twee is another's tacky...
But dressing your baby as Minnie mouse is tacky

Looks like the baby has had a head injury.

I really hate them. Right up there with pierced ears on babies.