Am I a the only person that thinks those girl baby bows are horrific?

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I’ve been wondering if anyone agrees but these baby bows are so freaking HORRIBLE!! They’re so ugly and giant and makes the baby girl look stupid. Nobody needs to know the gender of your baby that bad. Babies don’t know where their feet are never mind what gender they are meaning they don’t care what gender they get called. If you really wanted to be obvious about their gender you’d buy girly clothes and girly toys which just proves that the bows are literally just to use the baby as an aesthetic!! At least it points out the mothers that care more about their baby looking aesthetically pleasing than them being comfy in a nice little hat and outfit. If my baby is a girl I hope to God nobody gifts me a bow bigger than her newborn head.

I hate the skinny ones.

really horrible, look stupid!

I agree - they're awful and rather tacky.

I feel the same about bows on front doors and the back of chairs.

If it covers their ears, how do they hear properly? My DD was a baby/toddler when we lived in Eastern Europe. Completely bald but very clearly dressed as a girl in florals and dresses. The locals always called her 'him' because she didn't have the big gold earrings that are the traditional grandparents' gift in that part of the world. 😆

No @MsBaggins you clearly struggle with reading comprehension. We are judging the parent as they are the one that put the chavvy bow on the baby. The baby had no choice, so we are not judging them 🙄

Not my thing but I've never seen DD as a mini princess/doll to dress up. I think a lot of them are put on just for photos rather than everyday wear.

@MarvellousMonsters crazy thought, but have you ever considered simply not judging people over such silly, materialistic things? It doesn't make you better or more superior than them. It makes you look unkind and classless.

I'm thoroughly chastised. Thank you so much for showing me the way to being a better person.

@MarvellousMonsters you're quite welcome. Hope it makes life a little happier for you.

You are making yourself look po-faced and silly. This site exists for people to give their opinions. You or I might disapprove of those opinions, but that’s not the point.

Personal taste but I think they look rubbish

@Miffylou It is possible to give an opinion without resorting to such nasty, snobby judgement. Chavvy, low class, horrific , revolting...it's the very worst of MN and pointing that out doesn't make me look silly.

I really get sick of the classist bullshit on here and if I choose to voice that it's no different to anyone else having an opinion, which as you've rightly said is what the site is for.

Sure, you are free to say whatever you want (within the guidelines) and others are free to draw conclusions about how it sounds.

You said "crazy thought, but have you ever considered simply not judging people over such silly, materialistic things?" I’m afraid that sounds unbearably patronising and virtue-signalling.

We all judge people over different materialistic things. Wearing enormous amounts of gold jewellery. Putting make-up and false eyelashes on little girls so they can enter beauty pageants. Some people judge adversely those who choose to spend money on a lot of books but wear old, unfashionable clothes.

I wouldn’t choose to use the word "chavvy" myself, but I really don’t see why someone shouldn’t use "horrific" or "revolting" if they think it is, any more than they shouldn’t use "fantastic" or "amazing" if they think it is. That is nothing to do with class or snobbery. Everyone's taste is different.

@Miffylou it's sad that you think calling out classist vocabulary is virtue signalling. And that somehow it's worse than people calling others low class and revolting. I wasn't trying to be patronising but that sort of language is hurtful and unnecessarily nasty for something as innocuous as a hair bow. I've put them on my dd before and I would be hurt if I thought people were looking at me/her in the street thinking that she looks revolting and I'm somehow a low class mother for putting them on her.

It's fine to have different tastes but I'm not sure why people have to be so vitriolic about other people's.

It might have been sad, if that was what I actually said. But it wasn’t. I said "You said "crazy thought, but have you ever considered simply not judging people over such silly, materialistic things?" I’m afraid that sounds unbearably patronising and virtue-signalling." Nothing to do with calling out classist vocabulary in those sentences.

And no-one has called anyone "revolting"; it’s the bows they have used that word for, not people.

I understand that it’s not nice to have people criticising your taste (and I would probably feel the same if something I thought was lovely got criticised in the terms that have been used in this thread), but that’s what the whole thread was about.

I'm sure I read somewhere they weren't good for a young baby, restrictive maybe?

Exactly, @Miffylou, we all judge and are judged, because we all like and loathe different things! I’m sure some people liked what I dressed my DD in, and I’m equally sure others will have thought it ugly or unfashionable! I’m incredibly lacking in style, but I know what I like, and that’s what I chose. Just like every other parent out there lucky enough to get to choose rather than relying on what other people give them. I can’t stand the bows because I see them as reflecting patriarchal gender norms, others just think they are cute. Neither is wrong, indeed both can be right.

I would love the bows if maybe 1+ year olds wore them!! It would be cuter when they have hair 🥰