wish i was not an older mum

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There ive said it i hate being an older mum.
Im 51 with a 5 year old what was i thinking.
Im tired im cranky in the mist of peri.

Just wanted a wee rant i cant tell people IRL they will think im selfish.

I’m 43 with a 9 month old and three year old!

Rant away.

Dont get me wrong i love her to bits but god its bloody hard work.

You have got through the hardest years.

yes thank god i think its all hormones and over thinking what i would have been doing in life when i see my siblings.

What sort of things are your siblings doing?

Was your baby a surprise or had you been trying for a while?

Be glad you’ve got one is all I’ll say. My mum had me in her 40s and she felt the same and it reflected on me growing up. I always wished for a younger mum. Be glad you’ve got a healthy child and you have your health.

I am 52 and my youngest is 9.

Fair play getting pregnant at 46! Amazing.

There's an very old Guardian column about a woman having an unexpected baby at 48. Perhaps another poster can remember the name - you might find it comforting!

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/09/luisa-dillner-pregnant-older-mum

Found it!

Sorry it’s hard but I am presuming it was your choice (or the most unlikely accident ever).

I had my first at 29 and 4th at 40. It's all the same honestly. It's never easy.

Not sure if you have older kids but I quite enjoy that I still have child who loves me unconditionally. They grow up so fast. By secondary they aren't so intense. It will fly by and you will look back fondly on this age I promise.

I never feel old. Dd says I look 26! I feel 290 😅

Is she your first/only child op? If so, you must have had a good few childfree decades of fun at least.

I can't imagine it, I'm bloody knackered but I have a high maintenance teen (ADHD), under 8s sound dreamy at the moment #rosetintedglasses.

It will improve I'm sure.

I think that's little consolation when you hit menopause. No one really lives on past glories, it's about today

I had my 1st at 29 and my 5th at 41 he's 14 mos now, I'm knackered and definitely had more energy at 29!

I’m 50 with DD 10.
Had a few serious health worries too plus peri so I’m a real box of delights!

It IS hard but as I don’t have any other DC I don’t know if it’s worse for me at my age or not.

If it’s any consolation, I’m in Peri and DD has hit puberty!!!

I'm with you OP, I am 48 with a 4 year old and I swear prior to the birth of my child I was really young looking for my age, and wasn't worried about being an older mum at all. Now I look about 10 years older than my chronological age (sleeplessness, stress, endless sickness, breastfeeding, peri-meno, elderly parents, and marriage issues have taken their toll).

I was mistaken for my best friend's (who is the same age as me but looks like 32) mother at Christmas and I still don't think I have recovered from the shock or hurt of that.

I need to look into HRT and perhaps a facelift!

Im 50 in 6 months with a 10 yr old.

Im peri and DC has just started with hormones (spots, body hair, attitude)

I wouldnt be without her but it is hard!

Ive also aged but am hoping that the next decade will be easier in terms of more independence and some me time

Awww I am your age and feel massive nostalgia whenever I see mums with young kids

mine are grown up now

can you try and enjoy the fun parts?

grass not always greener, you have so much fun and love and cool stuff ahead of you with the kid

I've lived both "lives" and not had much time to myself in between!! My "choice", although change in circumstances definitely played a part with regards to my toddler.
My kids are 16, (17 in summer), very nearly 14 and very nearly 4. So I was 26 when I had my eldest and 39 when I had my youngest.
The thing I think I find hardest about being older parents (43 and 48) is that all of our friends have much older children/young adult "children" so it does feel quite isolating at times.
I also teach 4 days a week so I'm absolutely knackered!!!

My siblings are enjoying their child free lifes their children are all adults.

Not my first my eldest is 21 moved out.

Yes she was wanted i really wanted a baby around my 40s husband didnt at the start.
But after long talks we tried and here we are.
I really do believe it was part of my hormones in play.
Hes hands on with everything so cant moan.
But we do find it hard now.
We dont regret her and wouldent change her but i do wish i had had her earlier.