Nursery constantly sending home child- going to lose my job

[Ayeayee]

My child is 2 and to be honest I feel like the nursery centre does not like my child. As a result, it seems like they are constantly looking for reasons to send my child home, they are sent home every other week with illness, sometimes several times in that week. They will claim that they have a fever and are inconsolable but upon collection no fever and perfectly fine but they withhold a nap in these instances so child is tired so more cranky. Child is fine at home, no symptoms at home and then within a few hours of drop off, is suddenly symptomatic and needs collection and on collection is fine.

(to be clear no meds are administered at home when I say child is fine, so it’s not a case of oh well they’ve had calpol so they are ok at home but has worn off later)

dh and I have used all our emergency leave now and it’s not even March. Child has been sent home 5 times, twice this week! Same story. We can’t survive on one income.

there is no other Centre around, no childminder, nothing, no family or Friends who can take them either. At this rate I’m worried I’m going to lose my job.

I don’t know what to do. I’ve lost some privileges now at work due to this and have had a few raised eyebrows at the sheer volume of calls, they call me 6+ times to collect asap. It’s not always possible to leave there and then unless an actual emergency.

(reasons I don’t think they like my child, an insistence that they are delayed talking but they actually talk very well, so It’s leading me to think they aren’t engaged with, one accusation that my child (as a 1 year old) was actively victimising other children and wasn’t a very nice child, I’ve seen them shouted at, and I’ve had some serious instances of them being left in a soiled nappy for an excessive period of time, and consistent nappy rash that would clear up at home and when in the centre flare back up (to the point of bleeding) due to lack of changes.)

Surely you wouldn’t get that sort if request though if the child has symptoms each time you send them back home?

That sort of response comes when the contract between parent and carer/nursery/CM has broken down. Which is understandable seeing the situation.
However, @Ayeayee , it also means they are unlikely to change the way they do things. Ofsted might ensure that no other child is poorly treated. But it will still leave you in the shit.

They’ve done this and I’ve only been in my job since the start of the year, and I’ve used all my emergency leave and had my remote working removed due to the constant calling

if you're not paying for nursery in the first place you only losing the extra you earn

lol
and even it’s only a couple of hundred pounds, it can still make the difference between being able to put food on the table or not.

And a roof over your head and this is it!

Does your husbands office not have a landline? Or a teams number via voip that they could call?

Where are you roughly that doesn't take till four?

Scotland, England?

School nurseries don’t take til the September before 4

Annoyingly no, he’s going to ask if he can give out his email address tomorrow so at least they can email him

Yeah, I’m going to be honest I would have expected him to do this before today if you were at significant risk of loosing your job. Thats not being a partner to you is it.

Yes but where.

Scotland take term after three

So can get the 30 funded hrs term after 3 but nursery schools only take kids the academic year they turn 4.

im in England

It sounds awful, I’ve been there, but honestly, if a setting isn’t taking good care of the child, you need to find a better solution than this centre.

I’d want to understand more about why they think your dc is delayed - if the dc is fine at home this is another sign that this is really bad provision and they are not happy or doing well there.

the times I’ve seen a big gap between performance at home and in care has been in inadequate care with mine.

his industry it’s not straight forward, needs to get special permission first but yeah

That's a world apart then.

Here it's age three but term after. Also funded two year old places. Can stay in nursery till six, if birthday august to feb.

That’s what I think too, and I’ve called them out on it, they thought my second was mute, and didn’t talk at all or just baby babbled.

but at home they were putting 2 words together and signing songs.

I had this with mine. I work for the NHS and was on the verge of losing my job.
I posted on every social media page I could find. I registered them with every local nursery, even if it meant a longer commute. I went part time so they only went 3 days a week. I reduced my hours so for the days they went, it was 9:30 to 2:30 so I could try make them hang on when they did ring...as it was usually around 11 when they would ring, so I'd just say I'd be there at X time and then be "late". They weren't neglecting my child in anyway, in fact she loved it there, they just seemed to be completely adverse to a sniffle, sneeze or a pimple which might resemble chicken pox if you put it under a microscope .
I did all of this for 5 months until eventually a new setting came up. I moved her there, explained all the issues I'd had about sniffles, slight "off days" at the other nursery and I can count on one hand how many calls I got over the next 3 years. Even with a temperature they would try calpol first to try keep kids there. They were brilliant.
Sadly I think you've dropped on one of the not so good ones.

That’s really sad - I’m so sorry. There is some great care out there and some that is shockingly bad. It’s so horribly stressful, when work isn’t going well and you also have this situation where the nursery are inadequate. my old boss used to sigh when I said I had to go and get the dc again.

luckily, i found a better employer, it sounds as though both the nursery and the job situation are difficult.

There is only one child in my setting that I’ve ever sent home and I’ve sent that child home more than once. These parents think I’m over the top - I’m not! They send their child in far too ill and hope for the best. It would be interesting to hear the nurseries side of the story.

they sent them home for picking their nose and causing a nose bleed. The bleeding, according to them was excessive and needing immediate collection, worried they wouldn’t stop the bleeding, top soaked, get said child (apparently on deaths door) and no nose bleed, and no subsequent ones, t shirt has a bit of on the neck smaller than 2p.

apparently it’s not policy to send children home with a nose bleed but apparently this one was so severe it needed to dealt with at home.

School nurseries round here take children from 2

Is all service patchy at your husbands work or is it just his provider? Could he get a cheap burner phone. This will be the same problem if you could move nurseries. Are you doing the pickups equally?

I would be looking for alternative childcare (which you are doing) and in the mean time switching off my phone. They are ridiculous.

we were yes but now I’ve lost that privilege as it appears I was abusing it.

he’s recently changed providers and has the same issue as he used to (contract was up), same with work phone, ironically no signal.

hoping the email solves it in part but I don’t really want my child In the setting anymore

one accusation that my child (as a 1 year old) was actively victimising other children and wasn’t a very nice child, I’ve seen them shouted at, and I’ve had some serious instances of them being left in a soiled nappy for an excessive period of time, and consistent nappy rash that would clear up at home and when in the centre flare back up (to the point of bleeding) due to lack of changes.)

If this is all actually true I don’t know how you can send your child there. You &/or your husband need to figure something out.

Ok, well they don’t hear. This one is attached to a school (not sure I’d cal it a school nursery) but it’s the only primary school in the area too, where my kids would ultimately end back up at. They were placed there for consistency but fuck knows now