Mum rude about gifts for four year old…

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I’ll caveat by saying I don’t like buying kids tatt and have been known to put funky socks in a party bag (along with sweets and other stuff). So maybe I’m getting this very wrong…

My DC was invited to a four year old girl’s party at a soft play. I gifted a Rachel Elin tin (bright, pink girly colours with my treasures or something written on it) and a kids rainbow Joules drawstring gym bag. My other DC would have loved this sort of thing when they were 4.

The recipient's Mum came up to me at nursery this aft and said ‘thanks for the gifts for xxx, they were a bit ‘out there’ (with hand gesture) for her but we’ll make use’. I was so stunned I just nodded and smiled.

So clearly, she was rude, but were my gifts super weird?

These are the gifts;

https://www.johnlewis.com/rachel-ellen-unicorn-princess-storage-tin/p5574137?tmad=c&tmcampid=7&s_share=jlappios_Y29tLmFwcGxlLlVJS2l0LmFjdGl2aXR5LkNvcHlUb1Bhc3RlYm9hcmQ=

https://www.houghtoncountry.co.uk/joules-active-bag-p7617/s68896?utm_medium=organic&utm_term=joules-active-bag-colour-blue-horse-colour-blue-horse&utm_campaign=froogle&cid=GBP&glCurrency=GBP&glCountry=GB&gclid=Cj0KCQjwsp6pBhCfARIsAD3GZuaurR4mvo4u3expZ3DIr7ivkmeQ0R4QZd7E6ftUCXLqYtohPeNlo9gaAv16EALw_wcB

Yes she was rude, nothing wrong with those gifts tbh.

I'd hardly call them out there and I'd have been delighted to receive them as a gift when I was a child. What an odd woman

Lovely presents!

Your gifts weren't weird at all but super generous if you spent £25 on 2 child's birthday present, it used to be no more than £10 when my youngest was at the numerous party invite stage.

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The tin is cute, the bag is a bit strange imo or at least they don’t really ‘go’ together but my dds would have loved to have received both of those!
I don’t know that she really WAS clearly
being rude tbh, maybe a bit blunt because the last comment about “we’ll make use” might have been what I was thinking but the norm would just be to say thank you, lovely gifts and that’s about it!
I’d have probably bought something like hair clips to put in the tin but they really are both very sweet thoughtful presents.

I love them!! Im a big kid and would love those 🤣. The mum is a brat

My DD would have been delighted with those at that age, especially the tin.

But, regardless, she was very rude!

I agree - v generous of you and so rude of the mum!

Agreed they are lovely gifts..she was defo rude

Agreed. You spent too much. The gifts are fab but too much for a soft play nursery friend.

Uber generous gifts! But both lovely. The woman was weird and rude.

Very nice gifts! Next time just give the tin with some sweets in. That’s enough surely!

How rude! They're lovely

I think they are lovely presents and very generous.

Seems a lot of money to spend on someone else's 4 year old, but the gifts are really nice. Even if they weren't, yeah she was rude - all she needed to say was thanks.

Very generous gifts, and absolutely lovely!

I think any little girl would have loved your choice of gifts . Her parents could have helped her choose her treasures to put in her tin but clearly they lack imagination

You spent £25 on a 4 year old?

Agree, lovely gifts. Don't spend as much next time!

Super lovely, thank you! Though agree, they probably don’t go together that well. The total cost was £13 which is about what I gift for parties which are at a venue (I always bulk buy gifts in sales and got the bag for £5 and the tin for £8).

They are lovely gifts and she was very rude and ungrateful, but you definitely spent too much on someone who presumably isn’t a close friend of your child.

At my DS’ 3rd birthday party I had a mum rifle through the party bag and hand me back two items, saying ‘ugh no,’ and then she turned and walked out. Some people are just unbelievably rude.

(the items were a Matchbox car in box and a small tube of Smarties).

@Frozenone thats hilarious - I hope you ate the smarties in retaliation!

She sounds very strange, Probably she wanted money 😂

The gifts are lovely.

Out of interest what was the hand gesture …