there are many threads here preaching a 'holier than thou' message, and I want to say.........

[Psychomum5]

......I am not perfect, I am not the greatest mum ever (altho I really would like to be able to say I am), and I am also not the best person to ask for advice on feeding kiddies the 'perfect' diet........

there are many threads here stating how we feed our DC's, treat out DC's, raise our DC's, and for the most part we all agree....

but surely.....(and I speak a lot for myself here)

sometimes we also LIE!!!

I have my standards, and 75% of the time I try to stick to them, but 25% of the time I either fail, or take my time remembering and so parenting cana be a little slack in these periods.

BUT

when there are threads here, I give advice and sometimes realise that I have 'twisted' the truth somewhat in my favour......

I don;t give my kiddies as much veg as I claim at times....or at least...I find I offer said veg, just they refuse it and it ends in the bin. (Altho that is not the post I would add at times)'

I offer fruit each day....only 3 of them eat with any enjoyment, and the other 2 have suplements.

I give them chocolate every day, and icecream, and pudding (well, that comes under the icecream TBH), they have crisps too most days...........

I have smacked them (altho sinse being here more, I haven;t and even DD1 said the other day that she can;t remember me ever smacking altho I still threaten it for the 'count to three' threat. It works, as I have never got to 3...!

I even allow a take-away each week.....

Oh, and as for chicken.....no idea where it comes from, altho that will be changing soon as the taste is definatley different as I have tested

and...............I drive to school......

please tell me I haven't confessed all and am now going to be pelted with stones....

There's nothing 'holier than thou' about wanting to feed children decent food and not use violence as a means of control.

But have only read the OP.

yeah, sorry miss.
I think WWW has misunderstood.

What have I misunderstood? The OP seems to be saying "I give chocolate and smack sometimes and not as much veg as I'd like and crisps every day and take away once a week and cheap chicken and sometimes I lie about it on here" no?

WWW, I think most of us on here feed our children good food and don't beat them, but sometimes, just sometimes, we do something that isn't perfect, like take aways or sweets or not getting dressed or missing out the bath.
I think that was the point, not that we are all awful!

Oh ok, I do loads of things that aren't perfect, of course I do. Oh well.

We specialise in not getting dressed at the weekend, I couldn't car less abot a bath very night btw.

WWW.....I meant this more as a 'tongue in sheek' thread to reassure us all that alth our intentions are sound, if we trip up occasionally that it doesn;t mean we are going to 'hel in a handbasket'.....

that was more the point!!!

was trying to make us smile

MIL here.....gotta run......

Oh OK! Sorry if I misunderstood
don't want a scrap, can't be arsed

nor me.......

shouldn't be here, slap meslef.......off down the road for wine now

pyscho - I have smiled a lot at this thread - and wish it to be known that my children had hot dog sausages out of a tin ONCE and it was 1/2 term!

Bless me Psycho cos I have sinned...

Our almost exclusively organic diet is peppered with chili doritos, pizza and a film once a week usually. I make pudding for after supper every night! I didn't even realise pudding was a no-no.

I also let my ds fall asleep on the sofa instead of whipping him up to bed at 7.30

He has watched 12's films.

And countless other sins I probably don't even realise are sins.

Baby jars.....check

Inapproprate viewing......check

Microwave Uncle Bens Rice (and nothing else) for tea....check

Leaving children to play in another room or be bored....check

we have take aways
gecko eats biscuits
so do the other two
we have ice cream
I never wear make up
or heels
I can't remember tha last time a shaved my legs
the big ones just ate cake for supper
I dont cook from scratch all the time
I like pot noodles
I have smacked before but dont believe in it and it was anger led
my kids watch the simpsons
we play too many video games

dd3 had grated cheese for tea. I would like to offer in defence that she could have had pasta and yummy tomato sauce as well, but wouldn't. Picked the cheese up in handfuls from the communal bowl I'd put on table (because obviously if I put it on their plates myself it's 'disgusting, don't want it mummy') and crammed it in while I was washing up.

Then, when I was on hands and knees cleaning the floor afterwards, I turned round to find same dd on knees eating bits that I'd swept up ready for dustpan and brush.

germs are good, aren't they?

wrt the orginial op, if you were to be pelted, presumably it ought to be done with fruit shoots?

no pelting by me though.
ds refuses my cooking and will only eat jars. and chocolate, and any biscuits i am trying to eat.

he also refuses to watch charlie and lola with me, but will kindly sit next to me whilst i watch it.

My DS eats no fruit apart from oranges and if I serve peas, he will eat 6 - no more, no less. Will also eat brocolli but only if I feed it to him. He is 5 and I know it is all my fault because I didnt push veg and fruit at him when he was smaller because I was scared he would choke.

We go to McDonalds or burger king at least once a week.

I drive 2 streets away to Tescos .

I never wear make up either - sometimes I dont wash my hair for up to three days because it is long and too much hassle.

I hate taking DS to school because I cant be arsed making small talk with the other Mums.

When other kids hit my kids, I give them angry looks and make sure they see.

Biscuits are a regular snack but they are rusks are digestives.

I know they watch far too much TV but feel powerless to stop it.

Phew this thread has been cathartic.

Viggoswife, I barely manage to wash my hair once twice a week.

and as for giving other kids the eyeball, isn't that what mums are for?

god, I'm beyond redemption

Well, mine eat pretty well. Mostly home cooked food, lots of fruit, very few sweets/crisps.
Don't watch TV (we've no reception), limited DVD watching.
They go for a walk (usually 2 walks) every day.
I've never smacked them.

And I really resent the idea that that's "holier than thou" parenting, because you know what, I don't think parenting is a moral issue or a competition and, most of all, I don't give a stuff what anyone else does with their children.

There's plenty of things that I don't do that I probably should, but you won't find me "confessing" them on this thread because I'm not ashamed of cutting corners to make sure I have enough energy for the stuff that's important to me.

I know this is a jokey thread, but can anyone else see that there's a serious issue underlying the "confessions" on this thread which is that people are really, really insecure about what they're doing and about what others think.

It doesn't matter what other people think. Don't get all apologetic if you're not perfect. Nobody is perfect fgs.

mine need to be forced to eat an apple

anything else green or healthy forget it

I hate walking to school as usually knackered as ds2 still sleeps with me most nights or wakes up at 6am and he's 7

kids love McDonalds, sweets and chocolate

sometimes get a take away if anough £'s

hate school gates gossip and false smiles

love my kids

am jealous of folk who's kids sleep well

Yes, welliemum, we are probably insecure about these things - but we're having a laugh about it.

i really agree, welliemum. i think i'm being really clever if i cut a good corner, i certainly don't think i'm being a bad mum. i tried to say something similar further down. it's funny, i go on another forum and we've kinda agreed to ban this 'bad mum' chat, even for a joke. it's insidious thinking, i reckon. men don't do it.

i know that you guys were really having a joke, though, but it reflects the fact that people do feel judged. but i don't, really i don't. i truly don't give a stuff what everyone else does.

must people do give a stuff, even if they don't want to ( or think they don't...)

thats probably why there are so many fights on mn, as everyone thinks their way is best

I don't think I'm a bad mum at all, ever (maybe that's just my ego).
I just think that I'm realistic and for me giving the kids sweets or whatever is more realistic than banning them from the house!
IMO, that's what the holier than thou threads seem to miss out on, reality.
People far too desperate to let everyone think they're perfect that they couldn't admit they aren't which smacks of insecurity and sadness to me.
I think more of us should say, 'You know what, I love my kids dearly and I do give them a good diet/do their homework/make sure they arent sat in front of the TV all the time etc but I'm also real and sometimes I take shortcuts or am lazy.'